I am toooooooo exhausted!!

MJ - posted on 02/15/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have a 2yr old boy and I am a stay-at- home- mom. Everyday I look after my boy doing my best even though I dont have my own time. When he naps I can do something for myself( watching TV or reading a book for 1or2 hrs though) I have lived like this since he was born. But I realized that my hubby doesn't think I am working all day even weekend! Sometimes I have lunch standing near kitchen bench cause busy to look after little son. Ah~~ where is my all efforts and sacrifices? These days my son is acting like a naugty boy. I don't have any pleasure in daily life... I need to take a rest. Just want to disappear....

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Stephanie - posted on 02/20/2014

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Shame sweetheart, after I wrote to you, I actually thought back to what it was like having one, it is probably very hard to transition from having no kids to all of a sudden having someone who needed you all the time, I must admit I at the time 10 years younger also thought it was hard. But you are very right, you are a new mom and d time passes you wil get into the swing of it and not be so resentful, giving up a single life is very hard but once you let go, and appreciate it and do things you love in the day working around the baby you will be much happier. Good luck to you babe's

Stephanie - posted on 02/17/2014

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I have 3 kids, 7,5,2 and I'm pregnant, and I believe that when you have kids you reside yourself to the fact that is your responsibility and learn to love it, my husband works 6 days a week 14 hours a day and I certainly do not ask him to pitch in with the kids, however he does it when he can, your husband is being horrible to you, at least mine knows it's a full time job, bit also I love being at home, I've gave taught myself to sew, and I go for walks with the kids, being at home us much better than going to work and missing out on your kids, also I doubt we would get 1-2 hours a day to watch TV or read if we were at work, can I tell you a massive secret to your husband being nice, well mine at least, when they get home be really happy, don't complain about the house or baby, they just don't understand how we could possibly not injoy being at home, while they are slogging at home, so be really optimistic, and that good energy will pass into your husband, and he might be different towards you in the evening, good luck

Kim - posted on 02/17/2014

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You need to first get your husband in line. I would be ticked by his lack of seeing that you DO work, and it is hard being home all the time. Can you leave once he gets home? even if its just to go sit in the park,or maybe the library? I am sorry that those around you don't relize staying home is hard and not a walk in the park. I would also suggest resting when he does. I would also tell your husband that one night a week,once he gets home you are off duty. That he can do everything child and home related. Go lock yourself in your room,or other room and do just what you want. How disrespectful of your husband. Perhaps he doesn't do that much at work either. I mean he gets a certain time to eat, pee etc. You do not he needs to get a reality check and respect you as his wife and childs mom. I really am sorry that you are so upset right now.Also can you baby proof a little more so that you don't have to be "right" there every second? Perhaps make his room super baby proofed, take the doors off so he can't smash fingers. Take outlets out etc and put a baby gate up to keep him him. He can be fine in there to play for at least 30 min on his own. You really do need to start finding a way to get some of your time. And getting your son use to this idea too.

Stephanie - posted on 02/17/2014

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Ladies, 1 child is easy, the problem is maybe you are more bored than you think, if it's a life you want then put your child in daycare and go back to work, not being funny, but you should nap when they nap if you are tired, I always read about women complaining about being home etc, it's a luxury, to be home with your child, I would injoy every minute and find hobbies or something to do, instead of resenting your situation,

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MJ - posted on 02/20/2014

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Hi Kim! Thanks a lot for your advice.. Sometimes I go out by myself... to library, church, shopping center. It is fine but I feel lonely cause I live very far from my family & friends. When I feel exhausted in my life my homesickness comes as well I guess. I a little bit regret to write down this. After I read your comments, I realized that complain too much. You are all great ! I back to work :) Thanks again Kim!!!

MJ - posted on 02/20/2014

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Hi Stephanie! Thanks a lot for your comment. It is helpful! Yes I need my time.. my boy wants to play with me all day haha.. I love him so much sometimes more than myself. I will try to do something for myself. Thanks for your advice. ;)

MJ - posted on 02/20/2014

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Thanks ladies! I think I complained too much.. have yes one is nothing compare to two or more. My husband is good but sometimes, you know, when you feel like he doesn't understand my situation as much as I expect and wish. I am still learning as a mom & wife. I just needed to talk to someone who has been in similar situation and needed to share my feeling a little bit, and needed to get encouraged. Thanks for your advices!!!! ;) just want to know I am not only one who is struggling. Xx

Kim - posted on 02/17/2014

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i'm sorry but you don't have to kiss his butt. I stayed home and still do with my twins. I love being at home, however I didn't read or watch tv. I cleaned and took care of them. But there is no way he would disrespect what I do. I don't do it to him,he won't do it to me. I'm sorry his mom didn't raise a gentleman.

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