i am whethering to have a nother child as i ave only got one

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Pamela - posted on 11/12/2009

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I am the mother of an only. I was 40 when I had him and didn't want to chance another pregnancy. I have discovered there are advantages and disadvantages. We have no sibling rivalry, but I had to make an extra effort when he was young to join a playgroup and have him around other children in order to teach cooperation and sharing. Onlies have a tendency to be more advanced because of more parental attention, but it helps to have a sibling to play with sometimes, especially if your neighborhood doesn't have many kids. We end up being playmates more than multiple children familes. Don't have a child just so that your child will have a sibling, because onlies can be happy and adjusted children. As Amanda Le said, have another if you can afford it and you and your husband would enjoy a second.

Caryn - posted on 11/12/2009

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That is a decision that only you and your partner can make. I personally think children are the best gift God gives us and would love a lot more children. My DH is fine with the 3we have so for now thats what we are sticking with.

If having another child of you own isn't an option look into either adoption or foster care. DH and I plan to do foster care once our little ones are a bit older. We love the idea of helping out kids in need, kids that need love but don't have anyone to show them love.

The things Amanda said are good ideas to think about when/if you plan to have another but I don't think they should be the deciding factor.

Amanda - posted on 11/12/2009

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do you enjoy your one?Can you afford another one? Does being a mom make you feel more happy than frustrated?

If the answer to these questions is yes...than i say go for it. I think you'd eenjoy it. if not then maybe wait a bit.

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