I can't live with the in-laws but my hubby refuses to move! Help!

Jessica - posted on 06/23/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My boyfriends mother is insane! Litteraly! She's be hospitalized and taking heavy meds for years. She picks on me constantly and I'm 4months pregnant and can't handle it! See the full story goes like this. I met my bf and he just got divorced and got custody of his two kids. i have custody of my two. I moved in with him and his parents shortly after finding out i was pregnant so everything happened pretty fast and i was unaware just how bad his mother was. Now my gut tells me i need to go and I want him to come with me but it's like he refuses! I'm torn between him and my children!

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Sara - posted on 06/27/2010

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^^^^^^^
Nuttier then a cheese log, mommy-in-law is. I'm just waiting for Jessay-From-Phillay to show up and snap on her. You'll make a choice, you always do. BTW you going to come see my new addition when he shows up?

Crista - posted on 06/24/2010

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Ok i understand to a point wanting to be with the father of your unborn baby but at this piont it is what is safer for you and your kids....And this enviroment doesnt seem to me that it is helping you or your kids the stress isnt good for the unborn baby or the older children that you have....Get out and hopefully he is the one that will be following you to where ever you have to go to be safer for your kids

Cassie - posted on 06/24/2010

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I would move. Tell him he can come with you or not. I don't think having your kids around someone on heavy meds is a smart move. She could be unpredictable.

Melissa - posted on 06/24/2010

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Just curious of why there is a debate between a man and your children?? My boyfriend/husband/baby daddy:) and I have been together 6yrs and I love him almost more than anything in the world. If I felt my son was in a bad situation I would not think twice about leaving. My son is more important than anyone on the face of the planet!! Sorry not trying to be rude but this seems like a no brainer to me!

Nicole - posted on 06/24/2010

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the only reason to have kids and live with your parents/in-laws, in my opinion, is if someone needs help financially. however, if his mother is as sick as she sounds, he might feel like she is his responsibility. if that's the case, you have a very tough decision. if it isn't the case, however, and you can afford to get out, then leave. it doesn't sound like a good environment for anyone except the mother in law.

Sarah - posted on 06/24/2010

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Leave. It will make him grow up...hopefully. You shouldn't have to go through this.

Jessica - posted on 06/24/2010

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I will probably end up leaving him behind since he's reluctant to go. It's not like I will be close by either my only place to go right now is my brothers in Philly and it's a good hour from here. It's gonna be tough going to my doctors and then where will I have this baby? Ugh..wish this wasn't happening.

Elizabeth - posted on 06/24/2010

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If his mother is on heavy meds then she may not be safe for your children to be around. Who knows what her brain will make her body do? I say move out and if your boyfriend is right for you he will realise what you're doing is what he should be doing & follow you. Otherwise maybe you're better off without your boyfriend around.
Oh & tell your boyfriend to cut the apron strings!!!

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ok.. mommys boy apparently.. get out and live your own life if you can.. monetarily.. if shes not stable then theres no reason to take what she says to heart..get out

Liz - posted on 06/23/2010

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Sounds like its time for someone to grow up and move out of mommys house. Go with your gut, it saying it for a reason. Regardless of psycho mom its time to get a place of your own. With four and half almost five kids between you too, you need a place of your own. No reason to rely on someones parents. Good Luck! Move without if you have too.. if its possible for you to handle that by yourself... he will follow.

Medic - posted on 06/23/2010

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Thats easy....you should never have to think about whether or not to pick your children.

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