I can't take my boyfriends 21 yr old anymore!

Wmcbmna - posted on 07/30/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

4

0

1

My boyfriends 21 yr old lives with us and he is so unrespectful,irresponsible.He literally eats everything, doesn't clean anything but his own clothes then he forgets them in washer for days then throws them in dryer on beautiful days instead of hanging them out,works in woods with his dad my boyfriend gives him money for fuel for equipment and he doesn't bring extra money back he says it was spent on food and drinks.Eats everything in house,doen't have any cares at all.His father bought him a truck last year for bday he ended not paying insurance so boyfriend ended up paying off policy so it wouldn't lapse then kid goes out asks his mom to co-sign for 2007 f250 she does.He has been late for every pymnt and insurance but have finally talked bf not paying his bills and still give him payroll each week.So now he only gets his paycheck from business and bf don't pay his sons bills but is constantly fending for his actions.I can't take it.Its like his son is 9 at times to him.HELP ME!!!
Oh...Plus,I'm over due to deliver our twins!

4 Comments

View replies by

B - posted on 08/03/2016

16

0

0

http://bit.ly/1SHcDcc I am suggesting this website because it helps me tremendously. I understand what you are going through. In my experience, it will not get better if you do not communicate. Consistency and standing firm in our decisions prevailed!

Wmcbmna - posted on 07/30/2016

4

0

1

oh and I have talked to my boyfriend and he just ignores or says I'll talk to him.And he talks to him and nothing happens either and my boyfriend is too patient or just don;t want to deal with it.but I'm getting sick of it.we have twins that were due on the 28th of July yah I'm late and his son does nothing around to help.

Wmcbmna - posted on 07/30/2016

4

0

1

I have talked to him he decided he's gonna tend to his bills with his paychecks.So, far he's been late on all of them and I've decided to let go its not our problems its his.but all he does is come home to eat and sleep and watch tv if his dad isn't here.He never says hi or talk anymore to me.Its like I'm not there and he never does anything i ask of him like garbage or anything.I ended up putting a sign above stove on wall saying all ramon noodles that don't make it in bowl goes in trash not wiped on floor,scrambled eggs that jump out of pan get cleaned up,all dishes get rinsed and sugar that doesn't make it in coffee cup even after 6 teaspoons of sugar in your coffee gets wiped and placed in garbage bc of ants!
He finally gets this.but the not talking,not doing things around house isn't getting into his head.

Neveramomalwaysastepmom - posted on 07/30/2016

8

0

2

People could only do to you what you allow them to do to you. He is 21 yrs old.. Talk to him about it.. Tell him what his bills total and take it out of his pay since your boyfriend pays him.. Let him pick the budget if his total bills are 800 a month and he gets 4 pays in a month then for him to continue to live with you its takes 200 a week. (I would put some of that money in a special account for when he does move out it will be his to put on an apartment or house) If he doesn't like it and he would go somewhere else to live good for you if not at least he will be paying his way.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms