I cant get my 12 month old to sleep through the night.

Lyndsey - posted on 02/20/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

2

38

0

He goes to bed at 7pm and will cry himself to sleep. Only cries for a few minutes but he is then back awake at 10.30 and will not go back to sleep unless he comes in my bed. help i am so tired!!!!

10 Comments

View replies by

Patricia - posted on 02/20/2009

35

28

3

My first born was the same! He napped terrible and slept poorly at night as well. My second napped better but at night I tried something different. Maybe it wil work for you too. It took a while so be forwarned. Neither of my son's would "cry themselves out". I tried the pick-up put-down tecnique. What you do is when the child is crying you pick them up until they are just calm and then place them back into bed. If they start crying you pick them back up. It is a long process, but everytime you put them in to bed, you tell them something like "time for bed. Mommy's just going to put you in bed now. Night-night." They get the idea that you are going to keep putting them into the bed so ge over it. Then you can gradually fade things out. Like don't pick up, just pat theyir back whil using the phrase. Then try just using the phrase while next to the bed. Then the phrase from the open door. Then from the hallway.

This seems long and tedious, but my son is 16 months now and sleepy beautifully all night from 8 until 7:30. He may wake in the night but wimpers 1-2 times and puts himself back out!



I hope you find some rest soon!

Lyndsey - posted on 02/20/2009

2

38

0

Thanks for all of the suggestions and advice. To be honest I'm at the point where I think I have tried everything. He doesnt nap very well either and never slept for long periods of time even as a newborn. He tends to have about 30mins at 10am and 30 mins about 3pm. I know he shoulld nap longer but I cant get him to do so. He is such hard work!! He has tea around 5pm then a bottle of the cow & gate bedtime milk before i put him up. At any other time of the day he will cry himself to sleep ie nap time and bedtime but once he wakes up again he wont go back to sleep. i know thhis wont last forever but it feels like it at the minute!! good luck to all others with similar problems!!

Maria - posted on 02/20/2009

3

0

0

Hi there,



Try to give him a bottle with cereals before YOU go to bed, maybe around 9 p.m? or even later. That will make him feel fuller and probably won´t wake up. Don´t make the mistake of putting him in your bed. I did that with mine, and has been sleeping with us almost every night until he was more than 3years old.  If he wakes up, stay with him in his bedroom, sing a song, and touch him gently until he falls back to sleep. That worked for me. Good luck!

Ann - posted on 02/20/2009

31

9

0

I forgot to mention that we play a baby einstein lullaby CD VERY softly (almost muted) all night for Ava also. We never give her a sippy of milk at night or bring her to our bed ...even though it's so very tempting on really rough nights. We did give her the sippy a few times, & she immediately began expecting it, so we stopped. We don't bring her to our bed because I slept with my parents as a child & it literally went on until I was 14 (a freshman in high school)! I still have trouble sleeping alone & I'm 33 lol. On nghts when she's not feeling well, we do make exceptions with rocking and/or milk, but that's very rare. I would suggest trying to sooth them less & less each night...gradually. First rock them for a few minutes, then rub their back/tummy, then just go in (no touching) & reassure them that they're ok. Gradually doing less & less may be easier if hearing them cry is just too hard for you. It's so hard, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Try some new things & give them at least 4 nights to see how they work. Good luck to you all!

Eloise - posted on 02/20/2009

21

13

1

I have the same problem. My son is 9months old and he will not sleep in his cot period. Last night he screamed for about 30mins before I gave in and brought him in bed with me and my husband. Im going out of my mind and am so tierd during the day I just don't have the energy to play with him. This is even affecting my marriage. Im going to try all of these suggestions ...wish me luck.

Kaya - posted on 02/20/2009

8

2

3

my son is just the same...he used to have a music thing that would send him to sleep almost instantly..but lately not even thats working he dose the same..sleep at 8.30 and awake 2 or more times before 11.00 then after a feed he will sleep untill 3 then awake again?

have you recently moved house or anything?

Ann - posted on 02/20/2009

31

9

0

Have you tried a night light? The 2 things that worked with our 18 month old when she was that age, was feeding her at 6 PM (she goes to bed at 7 PM too) & getting a night light. She typically eats around 3 PM ( a small meal or snack), but we still feed her again at 6PM & she'll eat a lot. Now, unless she's not feeling well (teething, cold, etc.), she sleeps great. If she does wake up, she just talks to her Elmo or sings a song, & puts herself back to sleep. For her, if she didn't nap enough she wouldn't sleep well. With our daughter, sleep begets sleep. She just transitioned to 1 nap a day, & for the first 2 weeks was actually sleeping less over night until she adjusted.

Jennifer - posted on 02/20/2009

17

8

4

Make sure that napping in the afternoon is not too much but from what you said he falls asleep pretty well. I think the 10:30 awake thing is now a habit. Do not take him into your bed, that's what he wants and neither one of you will get good sleep. Go in give him a hug and a kiss, remind him its bedtime and leave. Do not go back in. You will have a good 1-2 wks of some crying and doing everyting to pull your heart strings and make you go in and bring him into your bed... resist. After 2wks he will sleep through it. Do not put him to bed later, unless you want to get up earlier. Overtired babies make for a late to bed early to rise and wakeful, restless nights. Also, sometime between 1-2 some kids can become fearful of the dark. Try a nightlight and tell him that its a special light that will remind him Mommy is there and watching over him. I have a 2 1/2 yr old going through that now and the nightlight and special stuffed animal have helped all that.  Good Luck, this too shall pass :)

Vicki - posted on 02/20/2009

78

39

7

Hi there have u tried cutting down naps in the afternoon.Maybe put him to bed a little later ( 7.30 ish) Does he have a bottle of milk b4 bed? Maybe give him a biscuit aswell? Have u tried using one of them baby sleeping bags,he mite feel a little bit more secure and cuddled.Hey everything worth a try.Am quite lucky my 18 mth old little boy as seplt threw the nite since 8 weeks old.Maybe aswell getting bit more fresh air.Have u tried using the jonhson bed time range products? I would stop bringing him in to ur bed other wise its just gonna get harder n harder.Good luck.

Tammy - posted on 02/20/2009

8

28

3

I used to breatfeed my kids until they fell asleep,I see your child is 12months have you tired giving baby cereal like rice cereal for babies before bed,it might make the baby fuller and feel content to sleep through the night...I also took up the routine to sit quietly on the couch at night with the tv turned down and just cuddle with my little one with her blanket until she fell alseep in my lap sometimes they just need mommies or daddies comfort and closeness...hope that helps..my daughter is 3 and now sleeps on her own but we still have cuddle time its our speacial time.....

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms