I cant sleep !!!

Sharie - posted on 05/17/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




My daughter sleeps like an angel but i cant seem to fall asleep when she does! Any tips??


Alina - posted on 05/17/2010




Where is your head when she's sleeping? Most of us mommies have a hard time falling asleep because we're always thinking about what we've done, what we need to do, how we can do what we did better . . . LOL it's a wonder we're not all walking into walls! Even if you can't sleep, at least put your feet up and rest a bit! Try to find one spot in your house that is free of noise and clutter, and maybe close the drapes to make it darker and more soothing. You may have to turn off the phone, etc. I find it really helpful when I'm not surrounded by housework, bills, etc. Sometimes the cleanest, clutter-free room changes every day, but I try to find it anyway. At first I was like you, unable to sleep, but now I can sleep, even if it's only 45 minutes. Believe me, it's worth trying anything you can, because sleep deprivation is not healthy - take care of yourself, Mommy! :) Hope you find something that works .


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Allison - posted on 05/21/2010




i have an analouge clock right beside my head, i like to listen to that while i'm falling asleep, the steady ticking seems to do it for me. . . like a metronome

Chelle - posted on 05/17/2010




Prior to having my little man i could fall asleep at the drop of a hat but at 2 months when he refused to fall asleep and stay asleep he well and truly broke me! I would be lying down and almost asleep when he would cry. This happened a lot and eventually my body was too alert to relax and just drift off.

Here are some things i have tried that work more times than not.

Sometimes when there is too much on my mind, i find it rather therapeutic to journal it all before bed. That way i can shut the book and it can all stay in there rather than swim around in my head. Its a great way to externalise thoughts.

I have also tried meditation beforehand, guided or just something you do yourself, depending on what level you are comfortable at. A very simple technique is to just focus on your breath. Breathe in through your nose and out through your nose. A lot of ppl breathe in through their nose and out through their mouth this is not the way of meditation. Dont let yourself get bogged down by any thoughts that might come your way, if a thought comes in accept it is there but allow it to drift out, like the clouds, dont build more thoughts on to it. This is where guided meditation is very helpful to begin as it gives you something other than your own head to focus on.

I've also tried visualisation at times where my mind is sooo clouded with thoughts. Imagining that i have a massive broom and am sweeping all the words into the gutter to be flushed away. It doesnt have to be that image, what ever might work for you but visualisation can be quite powerful.

Sometimes reading before bed can also tire you out.

Hopefully some of these suggestions are helpful. I honestly wish you all the best as i think there is nothing in the world more precious than solid, uninterrupted sleep!

I am suffering from it myself at the moment on account of our dog that keeps barking. I want to kill him!! And the thing is i cant just ignore him either cos then i feel for the neighbours that have to put up with him. So i get up in the middle of the night and tell him to be quiet. I feel because this is happening more regularly it is getting me into the habit of having broken sleep over night. I am nearly 13 wks preg i dont want to be sleep deprived before the baby!!!

Bridget - posted on 05/17/2010




I have been an insomniac for over 10 years. I wont take medicine so I have tried to learn some techniques to help me fall asleep. My insomnia seems worse since having my daughter, as a previous poster said as Mommies we are so worried about everything going on its hard to shut off our minds as they race!
This might sound silly, but Ive tried the following technique and it works, most of the time. I picked a topic to think about, and every time I lay down to sleep I think about the same topic. If my mind wanders I make myself think on the same topic. I guess its similar to counting sheep. Personally, I think about how I would design my dream house. At first I didnt fall asleep very quickly, because I was thinking about all of the possibilities, but pretty quickly the topic wasnt new and exciting any more. Now, most times, I can fall asleep with in 15 minutes of thinking about this.

Also, I have a dog I sleep with. She is a small dog, about 14 lbs, and I keep my hand on her chest and I focus on her breathing. the soft sound and he steady breaths are really relaxing.

Good luck!

Sharie - posted on 05/17/2010




Thank you all. All the tips are great and will try them all! -signed a sleepy mom

Bonnie - posted on 05/17/2010




My son wakes up at midnight for a wet diaper most nights and I have a hard time falling back to sleep. I usually listen to music or nature sounds to help me and try not to think off the time or what to do.

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I agree with Patrista...once you get worn out enough, your body will learn how to nap when it can. It took me a while to be able to do this, but after suffering with insomnia on and off pre-children, I have to say that my body has finally learned when to shut itself off (child-induced sleep deprivation will do that to you!)

Patrista - posted on 05/17/2010




i was like that at first but once i got wore out enough, it didn't take much. now i use his nap times to do things its hard to do when he is awake.

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