I don't know what to do anymore...I am at my wit's end!!!!

Leah - posted on 11/15/2010 ( 40 moms have responded )

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Before you go and yell at me for feeling this way,know that I love my son VERY much no matter what happens and I am sure ALL moms have felt this at one point or another. My son drives me crazy sometimes and I've about had enough! He will not listen to me or his father. He is 15 months old and has recently started temper tantrums. He will grab our tv remotes and change the channel. I say no honey you can't touch those and I then take them away. He will then scream his head off,drop to the floor and start kicking. An hour or so ago he was trying to grab them and I said no honey you can't have those and he slammed his head into our chairs arm(it has alot of cushion so he didn't get hurt) and he started throwing a fit. We have blocked off the livingroom from the other part of the house so he can't escape and roam around. Several times he has tried to get out and I said no sweetie you need to start in here,so he then starts crying and yelling and jumps up and down. He has recently started to hit too. FYI:I am a stay at home mommy and his father works about 40-45 hours a week. The only time I get me time is when his father gets home at like 8pm sometimes and I take an hour long bath otherwise it's at night when he is sleeping. I don't have anyone to watch my son for the day when my hubby is at work because I don't know that many people where we live and the ones I do know are busy with their own lives. My hubbys parents are in their 60's and live about 2 hours away and my family all live 3 1/2 hours away. I am waiting until 8:30pm for my hubby to get home so I can go for a drive to have some time alone.



Have any of you SAHM's felt this way before and how do I get my son to listen to me and stop throwing a fit?

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Amanda - posted on 11/16/2010

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I completely understand how you feel. We only have 1 family member nearby who helps us with the kids. All of my family are very far away. We only get to see them once a year or so. First...you're not crazy and other moms DO feel this way. Especially stay at home moms. I find they often feel left out...and feel like they never get a break. Things that I find help is having a journal (diary) to write in how you are feeling. You can also start writing things you DO like about being home. 15 month old - he may be starting terrible 2's early. My daughter did and now my 19 month old son has started. It is a very hard time but I promise it does get better.

Instead of saying No no don't touch, no...I used to find myself saying the word No about 100 times per sentence HAHAHA Try saying DO this. Don't focus on saying NO don't do that...focus on here you CAN HAVE this. know what I mean?

Also, find a hobby or something you enjoy. Having something to do while he is having nap or in bed at night will help. Maybe you like to read? Or help others? Maybe you like to write? or blog? Or perhaps you'd like to start a home business to help you have something to work at? Either way - hang in there. I promise it does get better. For now, enjoy him and give him the attention and play with him and read with him and hold him and rock him...in a few short years he won't want to be hugged anymore! Haha

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My son drives me bat shit crazy sometimes so I totally feel you. In fact, he makes me so coo coo that I sometimes look at him and say, "You know, you drive Mommy coo coo!" So now he says it, "Mommy coo coo!" He's 3. Great! My kid calls me coo coo but at least it makes me laugh and takes some of the crazy away lol



About the remote thing? That was a giant issue for us, along with him touching / grabbing anything he could get his hands on. We redirect. If I take something away from him that he can't have or touch, I always try to replace it with something he CAN touch. Also, they sell toy remotes at Wal Mart and they aren't too expensive. We got him the toy remote and the toy phone so he would leave ours alone. They worked for awhile. Either way though, try redirecting him when he touches something he's not supposed to. Don't make it a negative experience and it may help curb the tantrums. He touches the remote, you say, "No honey, don't touch that please. Here...." and give him one of his toys or something that's ok for him to have. Either that or hide the remotes lol We did that one too, hid them between the cushions so he couldn't see them. Out of sight, out of mind....didn't work. Not only did it not work to hide the remotes in the couch, our couch ate them and it took us a month to find one of them lol

Theresa - posted on 11/15/2010

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You're right, I think EVERY mom has felt that way at one time or another. You're not alone. What your son is doing is a very normal stage of development. Try putting him in a time out at the first sign of tantrum. I took my kids and put them in their room. As I was taking them to the room I'd tell them "We don't yell and scream." Once they were in the room I'd tell them they could come out when they were happy. At first I would go in after about 2 minutes and ask if they were ready to be happy. If they stopped crying they could come out. If they still tantrumed then I shut the door and gave them another 2 minutes. I didn't actualy shut the door tight. They could get out. It won't take long for him to understand what's going on. My daughter, for instance, is now 2 and she totally understands. I don't go in and check on her anymore. I just tell her she can come out when she's happy and she does. She'll come out and say "Happy now." Even if she's still sniffling, it just means she's done tantruming. Be consistant. Eventually you'll be ab;e to head off tantrums by asking if he needs to go to his room when he starts. At least my older boys got to that point, my daughter hasn't yet. Good luck.

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You poor bugger, I know how you feel and I wish I could tell you that it gets better soon but honestly it doesn't not for a while anyways. It sounds like his entering the terrible twos a bit early (my son did too) and now you have to come up with a whole new way of disaplining and dealing with a temper tantrum throwing little boy and it's tough, if I were you I would have a look at your local library or book store and arm yourself with a good book that helps you to deal with toddlers "what to expect in the toddler years" is good, but the more info you can arm yourself with the better prepared you will feel at dealing with all the little problems, you'll also have to weed out the good advice from the bad advice.
It's tough that you can't get a break at all from your little one but maybe you need to look into playgroup, parents group or even walking to you local park with a friend so he can play and you can just talk to someone else besides your son, but I think playgroups and parents groups are great because your son can socialise with other kids and you can talk to other parents who are going through similar problems to you.

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Bravo Jodi! So glad it's not just me. Ok, off to another topic where the OP can act like an adult. Toodles :P

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Ashley - posted on 03/06/2014

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I had similar issues when my son was that age. I talked to a doctor because he was banging his head into things and going crazy. His pediatrician said to put up baby gates, make sure there was nothing in the room he could hurt himself with and let him have at it. The first day I swear he screamed for two hours, but after he figured out we weren't responding to his fits the length of his tantrums diminished greatly.

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hey ladies. I see everyone is trying to give advice and help which is what we are hear for. But please be advised that some people find some responses to be a little uncalled for and intimidating. We are all grown adults and need to speak to one another that way. As an admistrator or past administrator whatever I am at this point I can say I won't tolerate it in this community. Have a very happy thanksgiving

Jo - posted on 11/23/2010

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Leah, I don't do PM's. I don't appreciate your attempts to bully me in PM as well.



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Actually by you typing in caps that is considered rude and yelling. You shouldn't be rude to people just because they don't follow what you tell them to do. I'M the parent NOT you. And it's great that you gave advice. My son won't play with any of his toys even if I hand them to him and in nowhere did you mention "play" remotes. You stated buying a remote for him to "play WITH" so no need to be so hostile. And I really could care less if I come off as rude. Seems to make it worse when YOU people don't know how to read what someone writes. And why bother responding to something if it just annoys/makes you angry. Yeah I should have ignored you as well,but your definetly pissing me off. Go do what you should be doing instead of sitting on your ass and yelling at strangers on the internet. BE A MOM!





I suggest you take your own advice: "Go do what you should be doing instead of sitting on your ass and yelling at strangers on the internet. BE A MOM!"



If you PM me again, I will pass it along to the proper people. I will not be answering to you again, period.

Jo - posted on 11/23/2010

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Wow lady, you really DO need a break. I was giving you ADVICE and telling you what I DID with my son when he was doing the EXACT SAME THING you're describing your son doing. I guess YOU skipped that part. You are one rude little girl, you posted for advice and I gave advice - based on my own experience.



I DO NOT LET MY CHILD CRY HIS HEAD OFF, I have NO clue where you got the idea that I did. I have patience with him when he is unable to communicate what his frustrations are. Yes he may have temper tantrums and melt downs but I comfort him and I find a solution that teaches him how to communicate appropriately while not giving into his fit.



I stated that my son would SCREAM when he didn't get his way, back when he was 12-16 months old and didn't talk at all! He would continue to scream and cry wanting his own way. Which is exactly what EVERY child I have ever known in my entire life has done! Which is EXACTLY what you said your son was doing so do NOT try and pull some righteous bull on me.



I already explained to you EXACTLY why giving him his own PLAY remotes will TEACH him that he may have his own toy that is similar to mom & dad's without it being the remote that could cause damage. It's called A PLAY REMOTE for a bloody reason -- YOU CAN BUY PRETEND REMOTES. Little Tykes makes them - they also make play cell phones and keyboards - my son has BOTH of them. They teach numbers and colors and letters. It's CALLED an EDUCATIONAL TOY.



My son does not touch our remote controls, keyboards, laptop, mouse or cell phones because he has PLAY ones of his OWN that he KNOWS he can play with without getting in trouble.



Now I don't give a rats fat ass if that came off rude because I was VERRRRRRRRRRY POLITE, POSITIVE AND ENCOURAGING TWICE despite your nose in the air. If you do not want advice and want to take posts as trying to tell you how to parent instead of ADVICE, I suggest you stop posting and ignore what people say.



It's obvious to me that there's no point saying anything else to you beyond this so I WILL be ignoring you, until you can prove that you're grown up enough to see advice when it's offered to you.

Laura - posted on 11/23/2010

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I completely agree with Jodi. I had the same issue with my sons and my phone. I even had it thrown in the toilet. So I gave them some of my old phones and they have a blast "talking" on the phone and never touch mine any more except to hand it to me. They also know that if they scream and throw a fit they will not get what they want and not be rewarded with another toy. If they get attention from it they will continue to throw a fit so they don't get the attention and stop soon enough.

I am not telling you what to do or even giving you advice I'm just stating what has worked for me.

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Leah, the very last line of your original post was "Have any of you SAHM's felt this way before and how do I get my son to listen to me and stop throwing a fit?" I have sat here for days watching you post numerous threads on a few different boards, asking for advice and then when someone gives you valid advice you get rude with them like you just did awhile ago with Jodi. I've watched someone give you excellent advice and then watched you come up with every excuse in the book as to why nothing will work. You know what DOES seem to work with you? People coddling you and telling you what you want to hear and I, for one, am sick of it. Stop sending personal messages to people just because they call you out on your crap. As per your personal message to me? How's THIS for saying it "to your face"?

Jo - posted on 11/23/2010

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You can continue to give it to him :) Pick it up again, hand it back to him. If he throws it again, put it away and try a different toy. He's at the stage where he doesn't know how to communicate. He wants what he wants but is unable to express his frustration, you just have to be patient and consistent. Let him scream endlessly, eventually he'll notice all his toys are gone cause he keeps throwing them away and he will take the toy you offer to him.

Do you have extra remotes that you could give to him as 'his remotes'? If you don't, you should get 1 or 2. Then you can give those to him when he tries to touch your remotes. If he throws it, put yours up and continue to offer his to him. He will come to understand which ones he's allowed to play with and which ones he's not.

I've been in the exact same position with the remotes and the rooms too. We had the endless screaming fits because he wanted to play with computer keyboards, remotes, mouses, etc etc etc - we got play ones for him. He threw them and wanted ours at first but with persistence and patience he started to take his and if we tried to play with or touch his he would take them away and make us play with our own.

There are always things you can do :) don't give up on him, he just needs your patience and understanding that he's confused and unable to communicate his frustration any other way than to scream and cry.

Jo - posted on 11/22/2010

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When my son was about 16 months old he started to act this way, so much so that he started holding his breath until the point that he would literally pass out. We would tell him no, he'd work himself into such a fit that he would hold his breath crying so hard. It scared me to DEATH the first time... I laid on the floor holding him in tears screaming my head off telling him I'd never make him cry ever again... obviously not even remotely possible... the second time he did it I noticed the pattern.. he did it when we told him no.

I called our nurse hot line and asked them about the breath holding spells, I called my doctor and talked to them, I called a psychologist and talked to them. They all confirmed my suspicion - he was just being a total butt. He was told no so he worked himself up into a frenzy cause he KNEW it would get a rise out of me and get my 100% complete attention.

I discussed some avoidance techniques. We knew that it was because we said no - the problem was, we would say no, we would take away the object but then we would just leave it at that and expect him to just deal with the emotions all on his own.

I'm going to suggest that instead of just saying no - replace the object with something he can have. Find some old crap ass remotes and explain to your son that he can play with those remotes but not mommy and daddy's remotes.

If he wants to leave the area, give him a reason to want to stay in the area. Go and buy a big box of mini-puzzles that have 2-3 pieces and some mini-books, and have loose leaf coloring pages handy with a box of crayons - everytime your son wants to leave the area, pick a different activity to set him up to play with.

You will teach him boundaries, choices and healthy productive ways to manage the annoyance and anger he's feeling when he's told no - while keeping your own sanity in tact :)

Good luck!

Annie - posted on 11/22/2010

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My son is 14 months old and has been doing all of the things that you described since he was 10 months. When he starts to through a tantrum I put him in his pack and play so that he doesn't hurt himself. I also have to make sure that i tell him no if a firm voice. Not mean but firm. When I tell him that he isn't aloud to play with something I give him another toy to play with so that he knows what he is supposed to play with. I also have given him an old remote and phone! He has been doing better with his tantrums lately but will still test us! We all get frustrated! Have you ever tried a mommy's day out program?

Alicia - posted on 11/21/2010

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i understand completly !! i have a 2 year old with the same issues what i did is set up a play room an if she does not want to listen and be good i put the baby gate up an put her in her room and that works . i dont care what people say she loves tv so she can watch tv an keep herself out of trouble . but when it gets to the point i want to scream i get out of the house got to the park or mcdonalds .

Iysha - posted on 11/21/2010

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I feel like this all the time. I cant stand that my daughter insists on holding on to my hair and literally trying to swing from it. She sits on our cable box (which we have had for 2 weeks) and she poured juice on it...we have to now pay for a new one. She is always shaking the baby gate to go where the dog goes, she tries to sit on the cat and pull it's tail and tries to get to the adapter tat the lap top is connected to...I'm going crazy. We dont have the money to buy safeguards, to by tables to put things high up on, we dont even have money to buy used furniture off craigslist...To top it off, we have a very disobediant dog who is going nutso being in the house all day and is trashing the place. My fiance thinks I'm depressed...I think I need a job or to atleast get rid of the animals so I can focus on our daughter and not trying to keep the pets in order.

Aniesha - posted on 11/20/2010

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Well ur son's definitely normal, lol. I know how you feel, I love my son to pieces, but sometimes I just NEED that break. I have to say that I'm extremely lucky though, as most of the time my partner is here to help me out with baby. With my son, when he chucks a tantrum and does the whole kicking his legs in the air thing, I just say "You'll be right sweetie" and walk away. A lot of the time he just looks up like "Oh, so you're not going to react. Hmm, well I'll stop then!". Not always, but I have had a lot of luck with it. Also, don't be afraid to use the TV as a babysitter! I know it's not good to let them watch it all the time, but if it means you still having your sanity at the end of the day, then by all means go for it! And maybe try & find some things that he likes doing by himself. My son is really good like that, he loves colouring in & drawing pictures or "reading" books. Good luck:).

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Your son is getting to the stage where he understands a lot more than he can say, and it's probably very frustrating for him to not be able to express himself. I cannot recommend using sign language with kids that age enough. My library had the Baby Signing Time videos, and those worked wonders with him.

Also, to save your own sanity, put anything he's not supposed to have out of his reach. It's only going to frustrate both of you to have to go through this again and again. When he's older, and can understand, then start trying out putting things in his reach. My son COULD NOT leave those remotes alone at that age, but by 18 months or so, understood that they weren't for him. Now he knows he can bring them to me when his shows are over, and we can use them together to turn off the TV.

As for the hitting him, my MIL recommended that every time my son hit me, to take his hands and kiss them, and tell him to be gentle. In a few days, he'd stopped hitting all together.

Make your husband watch your son on the weekends occasionally, and get out and do something. It's for the good of your sanity. :)

Heather - posted on 11/20/2010

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I've been there too! It's tough! I used to remind myself that my son was basically asking me to help him understand who was the boss and that it was my job to firmly but patiently and kindly help him to learn. I was very fortunate in that my husband agreed to help out. A lowered, 'Daddy' voice saying that this was not the way to treat mummy nor the right way to act or get what he wanted, helped enormously. Good luck!

Sarah - posted on 11/18/2010

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Yep, my little stinker is 14 months old & he hits and throws things (he thinks it's hilarious). He has this little plastic golf club that he likes to play with, but he also likes to go around hitting things with it...the t.v., the wall, the dog...I get down on his level & tell him "no hitting" and he just turns around & does it again haha. When I take things away from him he cries, but he hasn't gotten into the tantrum stage yet. I'm not sure what to do about his hitting & throwing, except to just be consistent in telling him "no" and/or redirecting him from what he's doing. My little guy is all over the place & he really keeps me on my toes, so I know how you feel!

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Oh hon, U are not alone, all moms do feel this way from time to time with their own situations. Every age that our children grow is encouragable! They learn & I'll speak for myself in saying I'm learning as well. I am a strong beleiver in progress not perfection. I think we need to encourage there positive behaviors just as much as putting our foot down when they act out unappropriatly. When your son has a tantrum , that is normal & they will test us forever, the key is , " DON'T GIVE IN !", or they will learn to do it always to get what they want. We parents have to be consistant and firm with what behavior is o.k. & what is not. Then follow what we say through every time. Easier said than done. But the more we do the easier it gets and we start to see improvements to our likeing, & hay it feels good when we can reward our little ones for good behaviors, right?! I hope that helps a little bit, HUGS & luck , this is only the begining. It's like a roller coaster ride, really.' LOL

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Try talking to him and see if he can tell/show you what he wants.. this is all new to him also I have a daughter that just turned 3. When she would get mad and throw fits I would try to get her to calm down and find out what she wanted. I hope this is helpful I know its hard to be a stay at home mom but this phase will NOT last that long.. so just smile and think about the good he does :)

Kristin - posted on 11/17/2010

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I totally hear you and I will tell you it never really goes away, but it does get better. He is preverbal, so you have to find a way for him to communicate with you the isn't just him grabbing at things or pointing or squacking. I did sign language (ASL) with mine and it helps them to this day when they are really frustrated and can't find the words or get them out. Second, he's probably getting bored. He needs to have things, LOTS of things, that are okay for him to get into and do. I would strongly recommend you start going to parks, the library, play spaces, local museums more often. You will find othe adults to talk to and your son will find other kids to play with/along side. This will help with some of his needs.

The funny thing about kids is they need attention. Any kind of attention will do. So, if he is feeling he isn't getting the attention he wants/needs/deserves, he will find a way to get any, including negative, attention. At this point, you can redirect. Instead of saying no you can't touch those, try removing them and offering something else instead and then get down and play with him for a few minutes. He isn't going to stop throwing fits, but they can be reduced in frequency and duration. Just ignore them/him. If he is in a safe place, just ignore him until he calms down. I will sit and read a magazine until it has passed.

Just be patient, he's trying out his independence and needs guidance from you and dad to move out of this stage.

Good luck.

Jennifer - posted on 11/17/2010

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i have 4 kids and i dont live by my family either... its def tough! i find the best way for me to tolerate my 2 yr old lil boy when he is out of control is to distract him by doing a puzzle or dancing to music or if i am cooking dinner i break out a cool looking bowl and spoon and let him go crazy. i would rather listen to him bang the pans for a while than deal with a tantrum! then after kids are tucked inm i kick back with a glass of wine take a deep breath and pray that the next day is easier! hang in there girl, many good times are coming your way:)

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Hi Leah, i know how you feel, as I am now experiencing the same thing with my 22 month old, i never experienced this with my 2 older kids (3yr old&6yr old), so it's quite new to me, i am hoping maybe letting you know that you are not alone in this would help make you feel a bit better - we are in the same exact situation with no other family close by, only I have 3 of them to juggle with :o) it's very difficult, and there is no one right answer/solution, every child is different, an individual so dealing with them varies - one thing certain though, be firm, do not give in to your child, in time he will learn that his tantrums won't get him what he wants.

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i no exactly how u feel. im going through that phase at the moment. my son is 15 months old and hes a terror he chucks fits all the time even for no reason.... the worse part is the sleeping im lucky to even get 2 hours sleep of a night and i have just gone back to work so its even harder to get motivated to go to work and i work in child care so im with kids all day aswell. ive tried everything to stop my son having fits but its just something they go through i guess. but just letting you know ur not alone. =)

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My son is also 15 months old and has also started throwing temper tantrums. We are not too sure how to handle it yet either. He SCREAMS constantly these days and we find it very difficult to be out and about because if he wants something he can't have, he SCREAMS! We find it very frustrating and VERY embarrasing:) But, we are holding strong as we know this is a phase...hopefully! We don't give him anything if he screams as we don't want to encourage bad behaviour and if we are home, we just put him on the floor and ignore him while he throws his fits. I understand completely how you feel though, we fell like we are at our wits end quite often but like I said, we know at SOME POINT this will pass:) Good Luck!

Ariel - posted on 11/17/2010

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I feel this way all the time! My son is about 2.5yrs old and my daughter is about 9months old- my little girl behaves extremely well for her age, but my son throws tantrums all the time. Getting a break rarely happens. He doesn't like watching cartoons too much and he gets bored rather easily when playing with toys; and he's quite the little climber.

Sometimes, you just have to let him throw his tantrums and don't pay him any mind- at least make it look like he's not annoying you. They like throwing these temper tantrums for attention and usually, it works! You end up getting so fed up with it that you yell or some even spank their kids. Don't let him get a reaction out of you. Eventually, he'll realize that he's not getting what he wants and give up.

Until then, stay strong!

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I have a three year old and a 9 month old and there are times when I want to run and hide, what you're going through is very normal and don't feel bad. My husband is away alot with the military adn we both live far from our families so I understand not having anyone to leave the kids with to ge that break! Just recently I registered for some parenting seminars to get some help in dealing with difficult behaviour; and the bonus is they place offers free childcare by trained, educated professionals!! It was/is great! So not only am I getting abreak from the kids, but I am getting to talk with other moms in the same situation and obtaining very helpful information on how to deal with difficult behaviour!! I was lucky to find the seminar through an ad, but maybe if you called your health unit they would have resources for you to access? Good luck!! And give yourself a pat on the back for doing the job you do!!

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Try to relax, he doesn't understand as much as you think he does... There are only about 20 words he knows the actions to (and thats the high number, usually 10-20).

Try to remember he's just a baby still! Don't expect him to grow up too fast! Just entertain him! Play games, get some stack-able containers, fill them with colorful rice, pasta etc. Tape shut and make music!

Also, he won't be a baby forever, one day when he's 13 and slamming doors, you'll wish you had your baby back and you could snuggle him!

Alot of moms don't get me-time, but that time will come! It seems hard now but it will get easier! Even if you need to buy an educational DVD and pop it on for 15 mins, make yourself a coffee and have a treat (I love carrot and zucchini bread with small dab of cream cheese frosting, healthy but sinful tasting!) and relax on the couch while babe watches tv for a bit! A little (15 mins a day) isn't going to kill him!

And while he naps, rather than cleaning, do some home pampering. Get some stuff from a store and keep in your bathroom cupboard... give yourself a mini facial, paint your toenails, get a bucket with warm water and do a mini pedi!

And remember, when your baby throws a tantrum it could be because he's bored... change the scenery!

Maureen - posted on 11/17/2010

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I have 3 children, its not easy being a stay at home mom you never get a break. Did you ever consider looking into mommy and me groups? All of those women r in the same situation as you. It will give you some where to go, You will make friends and so will your baby. You will see that you are not alone. I did that when my kids were smaller, they are all in school now. It gets easier, I promise.

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My husband works a min of 10 hours a day mon-fri and 6-10 hrs on saturday and I am at home with a 30 month old and a 6 month old. DON'T FEEL BAD!! There are days when I am ready to curl up in a ball in the corner. My son went through a phase with fits and still does from time to time. I can tell you it will likely pass but that doesn't mean the hard part is over. I think its just normal, our children test boundaries, which is good and healthy. I try to tell myself to take it as a compliment that they are willing to show us their worst because they know we love them unconditionally, so in other words our children feel safe enough with us to let their bad side show. As for thye listening to you, I have nothing, but I would suggest keeping everything he is not allowed to touch not only out of reach but also out of sight. My son has climbed up furniture and attempted to walk across window ledges to get to something out of reach so we now make sure things we don't want him to have are in places he can't see to avoid the temptation. Tantrums are tough, and I would have said try to hold him and let him know he's safe while hes upset but I know now that doesnt work for everyone, my son hates being touched while he's tantruming so I stay close to make sure he doesnt get hurt or do any damage and wait it out. They need to know they are safe even when they feel their world id out of control. It's easy to forget that toddlers are still learning to control their emotions and when they feel something it comes on strong and its hard to feel better. He probably feels like he has no control when he gets upset like that so being there to reassure him that everything is ok during and after is likely a good idea. Keep trying to find little bits of time for yourself I know its tough, and I'm a poor example I have gone out on my own maybe 5-6 times since my first was born June 2008 but I know its helpful for me and in turn the whole family when I have some Mommy time!

Erin - posted on 11/16/2010

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Everyone has felt this way! My son is almost 3 and is soooooooooooooo active. I work part time (because I have to not cause I want to) and my parents watch him every other Sat for a few hrs. They are exhausted just from that. He doesn't stop. I think it's the curious, active, and smart ones that are particularly tricky when they're little. They want to investigate and explore everything and when we can't allow them to because of their safety, they have a fit. The only me time I have is when my son goes to bed. Sometimes I feel like I have no one. My husband isn't always as supportive as I'd like him to be and my friends have their own lives. I just try to hang in there as much as I can. Good luck I feel your pain.

Hope - posted on 11/15/2010

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it is that age same situation with my lil girl n she slams her head to the floor sometimes gettin a egg i dunno what else 2 do... n my husband wonders why i am a wits end by the time he gets in and we r stayin with his parents at this time he just got out of the army n is workin at a hospital late afternoon shifts just keeps being strong such as put them in a corner n let them screem because if we dont stay calm they will never learn calm i feel u tho i guess its a stay at home moms world not sure figuring it out day by day n tryin to keep my sanity

User - posted on 11/15/2010

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oh, I know how you feel. I have a 2 year old that has quite the strong will ;) there are times I would love more than anything to just go for a drive or something to get away from the scene. that is not possible for me either. my husband is working two jobs so I can stay home with our son. however that means he is only home with us one day out of the week. it's rough, so i feel your pain with wanting a break and not getting it. Hang in there girl, we are giving them what is best. also, remember... this too shall pass ;)

Casey - posted on 11/15/2010

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I am a stay at home mom. Everyday is different with what time my man gets home. I feel that way all the time... I have a 15 month old girl and she just started to hit and throw herself down with the screaming tantrums too... They are no fun.. I just let her cry, sometimes to blow off the steam, when I feel like I'm gonna punch a wall I start singing to my lil girl... " you can't always get what you want" haha sometimes it really works.

Nichole - posted on 11/15/2010

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My son is 14 months and the same way. It gets tiring. It's all day....temper tantrums, and telling him no to all the things he knows he can't do. Then he hits, throws fits, bites, throws things at me, and pinches. Oh I wish I had some magic answer or advice, but honestly I'm in need of the same advice...

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