I don't want to send the boys to separate sitters

Tamara - posted on 02/25/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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We would like to go away for a couple of nights without our boys. The problem is grandma A is saying they will take only one of the boys if grandma B takes one. I'm sure grandma B would take both of them but I feel guilty asking her because she works all week and Grandma A was a stay at home mom and now retired. It was ok to split them up when the younger one was a baby but now they are 3 1/2yr & 16mo. They play together all day. I don't want to split them up. I'm not sure what to do. Both Grandmas have been helpful with the kids. Do I just take what I can get and separate them?

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Rachel - posted on 03/15/2010

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no if u have to get a different babysitter you dont need one kid thinking they arent loved cuz they cant be together i am going through with my kids but my kids r 10 yrs in age difference

Tamara - posted on 03/14/2010

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Thanks for the comments ladies. If it were just overnight I wouldn't have the problem separating them. I guess I'm just more frustrated with the fact that everytime we needed a sitter both of them just want the 3yr old. Well now the "baby" is older and I think they should go together. Seems like that would give them a break if we went away for a few days. Although I will take what I can get. I'm not going to force anyone to take on more than they want. They may never babysit again!

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I agree with Julie. My daughter who is three is spending the night at my mom and dads tonight and going to her cousins tomorrow so I'll only have the 1 yr old. I think it's good for them both to get some one on one time. Maybe you can plan another weekend away soon and switch who goes where so they both get grandma time with both. Who knows maybe if they spend time apart it will give you a day or two when they get back together that they get along better then normal cuz they missed eachother!

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I personally would just take what I could get, lol! (But it does seem silly that grandma A would do that if grandma B works full time and she's retired!)

Arielle - posted on 02/25/2010

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well dang why wont A just ake both thats kind of mean to say tht she'll only take 1 not both. but hey i would ask B and just see what she says i mean if she says no she wont take both then i guess you'll have to split them up.

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Well, if there is no other way, what else can you do? Maybe the time apart would be good for them also. Plus they would each get some alone time with whichever grandma they stay with, and lots of spoiling too I'm sure. If you really aren't comfortable with it though, then don't do it. Maybe talk to the Grandmas and see if you can work something out that you are all comfortable with. There will probably come a day when the will be begging to be able to stay over at the separate houses. That's how it was with my sister and I:)

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