I feel bad when I have to clean the house and my child look so bored..

Engela - posted on 09/14/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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What to do.He looks so bored when I clean house ask me all the time when I will be finished.His 4 years old,it also does not work if I ask him to help me to make it fun for him eg.vacuming or dustingHave lots of toys but does not want to play with them!!!!Help Help

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Becky - posted on 09/18/2009

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happened with me and my son...now he's 10 and because i gave in and stopped cleaning most of the time it got to where he expected me to drop whatever it is i was doing whenever i doing it and "entertain" him. it sounds harsh but you have to ignore the looks of boredom and the whines until you are finished then play a game or take a walk,etc. trust me if you don't it will get out of control and nothing will get done.

YVETTE - posted on 09/17/2009

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Hi, I clean at night time when the kids are sleep. I have 5 kids only 2 go to school full time and when the 2 older kids was young i found myself cleaning all day long, cause they would constantly mess up. Then my mother told me to wait until it is evening time when things are calm. Plus doing laundry at nite time is cheaper!!!! Jus a suggestion.

Engela - posted on 09/17/2009

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Quoting Engela:

I feel bad when I have to clean the house and my child look so bored..

What to do.He looks so bored when I clean house ask me all the time when I will be finished.His 4 years old,it also does not work if I ask him to help me to make it fun for him eg.vacuming or dustingHave lots of toys but does not want to play with them!!!!Help Help


 



 



 



I have a solution.I tried it this week.Mondays I do washing and ironing.Tuesdays are my boy time.We build puzzles,work in the garden,bake cupcakes and he decorate them.                                            While he is taking his nap.I do the irong.Wednesday I clean the house while he watch a movie  (Wall-E) his favourite.Thursday again time with him.Go for a walk or  colouring.Friday washing and ironing again.And then weekend daddy is home so we go play some golf or fishing.



Thank all of you for the great advice.



 

Kelly - posted on 09/17/2009

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hi i'm kelly

i know what you feel i used to be the same than i got my kids to help it takes a bit longer, but if you make it fun they will keep doing it

Jessica - posted on 09/17/2009

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I have two, ages 3 and 5. I just started home-schooling my 5 year old to top off our already busy lives. What I have found to work is a schedule. I thrive on them because I can't go over my time limit. I set the timer for the amount and end where I am and I simply pick up where I left off the next day. Separating my tasks for example Mondays I do two loads of laundry and one load of dishes. Tuesday I do two more loads of laundry and than clean the bathroom. Wednesday I do two loads of laundry and dust. Or and that is a big OR I do what ever I can fit in. I set the time for these tasks so that am able to spend time with my kids and so they have time to learn how to play by themselves. Plus another bonus is that my kids will get use to time limits. It limits my TV time as well as theirs and I get my tasks done or at least some of them. I will sit them down to look through books for 30 minutes while I work on a task. I will also sit them at the table to color by themselves for another time while I get something else done. This has really helped me manage the projects and keep the house up and running. My husband actually put together this idea. What a guy! He was home with the kids taking online classes for 4 years so I consider him a bit of a pro. LOL
Hope this helps
Oh and yes if you want to teach them to clean - I make sure I am well rested or at least in a good mood to have the patients to teach them this task. I think it is an important task to teach them as they are growing up so they will be capable adults. I can’t imagine what my home would like if my mom hadn’t taught me to clean. LOL Cause I don’t have the most organized house. Safe products are important if they are going to clean mirrors or tabletops or floors for sure. Their little bodies are much more sensitive the chemical cleaners on the market and can be excessively harmful to their little lungs and bodies in so many ways.
Have fun because they do grow up so fast as all of us moms know!!

Jessica Hultqusit ☺
www.workathomeunited.com/jessicahultquist

Amber - posted on 09/15/2009

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I wouldn't suggest this unless you know that your cleaners are safe for him to be around. But I let my 3 yr old help me clean the bathroom and the kitchen. My cleaners are not made with any harsh chemicals! My house gets clean and my son has fun helping me. I make sure that he knows where he can and can not spray it, and then give him a cloth to wipe up after himself. Of course he doesn't do the best of jobs, but he has fun and is learning how to clean at the same time! www.livetotalwellness.com/AmberWilcox

Jennifer - posted on 09/15/2009

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My daughter just went to kindergartn and I wish I had spent less time worrying about the house and more time playing with her. These years go by so fast cherish them! kThe house work will never end. I tried to get up in the morning before she did to get atleast a lil bit done. As long as yall have clean clothes lol just let it go.

Sara - posted on 09/15/2009

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I hear ya- my little guy is 4 as well. I babysit during the day and so my son is used to always having someone to play with, but when I'm not babysitting, my little guy just sits there looking bored. I try to play with him, but I don't have the energy of his normal playmates! He's always asking me to go to a park or over to a friends house. I just figure he'll be going to school soon so this won't last too long. I agree w/ coloring, or even getting out paints for him if he won't make a huge mess with them - or play doh or something like that that will entertain him while u do your thing.



Best of luck!!



Sara

Kylie - posted on 09/15/2009

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I think that it is important that kids learn to play by themselves. I'm not suggesting that they be left alone all day, but they need to do their own thing without Mum hovering. To start with, you can get him set up with something, join in for a while and, once he is involved, tell him that you will be back to play in a couple of minutes. Go wipe a counter if you feel the need, or get a drink of water, something that takes a couple of minutes. Come back and play again. Gradually extend the time until he is happy to play by himself while you do chores.

I have four kids, and all play alone, or with an adult, as well as together and largely unsupervised. Adults stifle kids' creativity and imagination. My kids have also learned (over time) that there are some things that have to be done, whether we like them or not. SOme I do, some they do and some we can do together. If I have something that must be done and they want me to play, they can help (thus making the playtime happen sooner) or wait until I am finished. Sometimes they sit, bored, until I'm done. Other times, they realise that the better idea is to help. Sometimes I ditch the housework and we have fun together.

I am a big believer in training my kids to be independent. It isn't going to magically happen when they are adults... so I am starting out while they are small and taking little steps. They love the feeling when they achieve something ON THEIR OWN.

Rachael - posted on 09/15/2009

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I know exactly what you're going through,


Try to separate the cleaning into different times. While he's eating/going potty/watching tv/playing on his own and all of the other things he does- clean. It doesn't always have to be at once.

Just remember that a clean house is NOTHING compared to the time you spend with your children. I have to remind myself that EVERYDAY when they're begging for my attention while I'm scrubbing the counters, haha. :) Good luck.

Kayla - posted on 09/14/2009

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i have a four year old too and she does the same thing....i either clean while she naps (yes she still naps) or i put in a movie that gives me at least an hour...Or keep him occipied but getting out the crayons and coloring books at the kitchen table while you clean you two can have a conversation....lol it might work for you too

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