I feel depressed and lonely.

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KL - posted on 08/17/2013

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Lindsay, as much as I hate to hear that another mom feels like I do, it's also nice to know I'm not alone in how I feel. My husband works in the oilfield, away for a month at a time and I'm home with our two tots. I miss him so much all the time and have become extremely anti-social, as I'm always exhausted from taking care of our two kids and always being alone. I feel like my dreams are no longer considered and my life is always going to be trapped in this sort of 'limbo' that I feel like I'm in. So yes, I know exactly how you're feeling.....

Melissa - posted on 07/14/2010

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That is normal. I still feel that way every now and again and my kids are 9 and 10. Try finding something to do that makes YOU happy. It took me YEARS to do that. I lost myself in what makes everyone else happy and one day when someone asked me what I liked to do I literally choked. I discovered that it made me happy when I made things. Jewelery and scarves and cards. That was MY thing. Try finding YOUR thing and just taking some time for you. It is also important to do like the other ladies said and to get out when you can and get involved in something. We are so tight with money that I found that I loved to volunteer with projects close to my heart. It gave me so much joy and happiness and we were able to get out of the house with other moms who were also in need of socialization. Just know that you are not alone and it is nothing to be ashamed of! I went to my doctor and talked to him about it and he did put me on some mild antidepressant/ anti-anxiety medication. That really helped me out. I had gotten to a point where I didn't want to go out to even make friends or meet people and after I started the medication it changed. I have to say, the medication did not make me feel jittery or anything like that, it made me just feel like me. The old me. That's what I liked. I don't like the mis-conception that some people have about those who take anti-depressants. The medication is to help you feel like yourself. If it is doing something other than that then you need to stop taking it. I hope this helps!

M - posted on 07/01/2010

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to echo the other ladies.... YOU ARE NOT ALONE! hope that helps. with that said, when my little guy was first born i suffered from PPD - mostly from the whole idea of being a mom, my life changing, my body changing, etc. as my little guy got older though, the depression evolved. it then became more about feeling like i had lost a sense of who i was. i felt like i had become a nursing station for my baby - but the vibrant, going out, being involved, changing the world girl i used to be had somehow been swallowed up in mommyhood. and while i enjoyed being a mommy, i was at a loss for myself. with that said - getting out of the house and getting my guy involved in activities like gymboree helped, but what helped more was me sitting down and outlining those things about me that i loved to do and enjoy and then creating a plan for how i could do those things again along with my new role as a mommy. that helped the most!

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Rachael - posted on 08/31/2013

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of course almost always. and everyone thinks i have a good life. i think u should find a mom support group or a fun hobby. my hubby gives me $ and lets me go to lunch with my girlfriends even if its just $10. makes me feel better.

Sandra - posted on 07/13/2010

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I know the feeling. I too am a SAHM adn the feeling of lonliness sometimes is overwhelming. I would first suggest getting involved in some groups geared towards mom's. Secondly if that doesn't help I would suggest going to the doctor for depression and or anxiety meds. It is nothing to be ashmed of or even embarrassed. Many mom's get the "mommy blues". I did! But I was embarrassed to admitt it to anyone until I was a wreck. It helped me and I hope that this helps you too.

Jamie - posted on 07/13/2010

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I'm the same way. We just had a silent miscarriage, didn't know the baby had died 6 wks ago until we had a routine ultrasound showing no heartbeat. I feel more depressed than ever since being home. I stay home with a 15m girl and my husband works non-stop at work and on the farm. Even though I feel like this and I'm sure you have reasons too, I know that it could be worse. We're all happy with our lives, healthy and moving forward. There's really nothing else we should be upset about even though (specially lately for me) there are days that us moms do get lonely or sad. Just remember that it could be worse and yes it could be better but if your family is doing well emotionally, financially, health, etc, then your doing your job very well. So, one day don't clean the house and spoil yourself to some sunshine or take a long trip to the park or library with the kids. My husband and I decided to start one date night a month, mandatory for him. I get to choose what we do or where we go, we've gone on two dates now and they were fun...love eating at a restaruant with no kids! And saw a movie for the first time in more than a year!
Reading all the comments to your question makes me feel better and hopefully for you too. I don't think the feelings really ever goes away, just changes day to day.

Kandace - posted on 07/08/2010

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As your baby gets older your emotions will change. I had two babies back to back and I felt depressed for the first year or so, but then it started getting better!

Nayuribe - posted on 07/01/2010

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haha! only half the time! it comes with the territory (gajes del oficio).

Joanna - posted on 07/01/2010

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hi sweety.my name is joanna im 39 years old.i now how you feel i been feeling the same way.i have 5 children 4 boys & one girl.i don't have family that cares for me and the kids.my side don't call or visit me & the kids my mom too.the only person cared was my mom in law she treated me as her daughter but she died last year on may 5.09 i was going crazy when she passed away so soon but she will aways be my mom no matter what.im still depressed tho so i trying to hag in there you should too.

Tracy - posted on 07/01/2010

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God, yes! My kids are all in school (well, summer break, now, but they're all school-age) and my husband is in Iraq. I'm 500 miles away from my family and friends and I'm not good at making new ones! Try to get out and do fun stuff at times when your wee one is alert and in a good mood; a lot of times these feelings kind of cycle around. Also, try really hard to find time for yourself and a hobby that you really enjoy. I find working in my garden and with my houseplants particularly rewarding as I suffer from SAD (seasonal affective disorder) and the sunlight and dirt lift my mood. Plus, fresh veggies and flowers are always welcome! The first year is always the hardest as you're adjusting to new schedules and your baby is learning so many new things. When my middle child was born, I started taking him to a babies-and-toddlers storytime at the local library and met a lot of moms there. And sometimes, just popping her in the stroller and going for a walk is the best thing for both of you!

Laura - posted on 07/01/2010

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I think that is common with any stay at home mom; regardless of the age of the kids. I am 32 and a stay at home mom for 2 boys ages 6 and 9 yrs. I love being home alone at times; but also miss the social life when I was working. The chance to make new friends and see new surroundings. Being a mother is a challange and I do Love it. If you need someone to talk to; please friend me. Take Care

Jessica - posted on 07/01/2010

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Have you had issues before with PPD? Being a SAHM is a lot harder than I thought it would be. I love it but it took some getting used to for me. What helped was getting out of the house! I take my son to weekly gymboree classes and storytime at the library. BTW, he's almost 16 months. We go to the park everyday and for walks. Now that it's summer we've been going to the pool every afternoon. I would suggest looking into what activities or mom groups your community offers. If these outings don't help with the feelings of depression and lonliness, then call your doctor.

Lindsay - posted on 07/01/2010

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Hello everyone,
I am a 26 year old stay at home mom,with a 10 month old daughter,and at times i feel very depressed with myself and at times i am lonely,this has been going on for as long as i've being a mom,can anyone tell me if this feeling will go away?

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