I feel like i'm going to lose it.

Anna - posted on 05/29/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




I am a stay at home mom. My lil gurl is 3 yrs old. 95% of the time i feel so bored and lonely. I feel like i don't know what i'm doing anymore or more like what is there to do at home. All my friend lives 2 hours away from me. I feel like i'm going crazy. Help!!!!


Angie - posted on 05/29/2010




Hi! This is pretty typical. I have been a SAHM for 13 years. It was really hard when my older boys were little. The walls close in on you after a while. I would let my house go for a few days just so I would have something to do one day. But my older boys started school and it got a LOT better. So when I had my third son who is only 1 I realized that it is a lot easier if you get out once a day at least. You don't have to do anything big.... go to the park everyday for lunch. Or go each day an hour before naptime. Set a time each day to get out of the house. It is really important. My baby gets cabin fever really quick, which my other two didn't get when they were little. But we get up and take the boys to school then go to the park. Then later in the day we go get the boys and go to whatever activity (football or jiu jitsu, depending on the boy/day)... when my husband has the day off I grab the chance to stay in but by about 1 or 2 the baby is going nuts begging to leave. We don't have to do much, one day I just put him in the car and ran to 7-11 to grab a soda. That is what cinched it for me... it is super important to get out everyday... even if it is just for a little bit. It will seriously help :)
Hang in there... that boredom is alleviated when they start school. :) Hope this helps!


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Anna - posted on 05/30/2010




Thanks for everyone's advice. I do try to get out everyday. I feel like i'm the VIP customer at Target. But how often could i go to the mall or supermarket. I'm just happy the weather is getting warmer or at least i could bring Sophia to the park. And i started looking for mommy playdate around my area. But there isn't much stuff like that around here for some reason. I might need to look a little harder.

Now i wish all of you lived around me so we could all have playdate. :)

Louise - posted on 05/30/2010




OK time for action You need to get out into the world and join a mums and tots group where your daughter will meet new friends and so will you. There s no need to be lonely anymore join any groups to make a social life. Nobody can be at home 24/7 without adult interaction at least once a week. Making the first step to join the clubs is the hardest but stick with it when you have been going for a couple of weeks people will start to talk to you. I have joined the local church group I am not religious but enjoy going for a natter once a week. If you are bored then so must be your daughter. Try and interact with her more, bake cakes cut and stick make cards do any activity that will involve both of you to brighten your day.

Kelina - posted on 05/29/2010




I know the feeling! And Angie is right, getting out of the hosue helps soooooo much. That i where i found our new puppy helpful at the last place becasue it menat no matter how much i dreaded walking up and down the hill we lived on(there was no other way in or out of our neighborhood) i still had to do it and it worked wonderfully. Get out, go for a walk around teh block, stop and say hi to someone, it all helps. good luck!

Rebecca - posted on 05/29/2010




i totally feel the same way. my daughter is only 11 mos old but its the same thing day in and day out and i dunno what to do. all my friends live far away and it seems like internet is the only thing to do that even kinda helps while my hubby is at work.

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