I got my IUD in September, and I can't get pregnant!

Shaunalei - posted on 12/18/2009 ( 31 moms have responded )

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My husband and I decided that we wanted to try for another child. I got my IUD taken out in the beginning of September and I have myself until the end of year to get pregnant. Well today is December 18, and I just started my period. It's discouraging because it was extrememly easy to get pregnant with my first child, We actually weren't really even trying. But for some reason, it seems almost impossible to get pregnant now. I have myself only til the end of the year because I didn't want my kids to be that far apart in age. My first will be 3 in January. So I don't know what to do??!!!

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Carolee - posted on 12/27/2009

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I had an IUD for a little over 2 years, and I had no problem getting pregnant. I used a website called mymonthlycycle.com, and was pregnant after the first month of tracking my peak ovulation days. Try not to stress about it, and take away the time limit! Relax, track your cycle, and make the sex fun. Good luck.

Jenn - posted on 12/23/2009

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I went through the same thing, but it was the stress that was preventing us from conceiving. I had mind taken out in Sept 2006 and had decided that if it didn't happen by Jan 07 I was only ever going to have one child because I didn't want them to be too far apart, but my son was 6.5 years old and they were already going to be much farther apart than I ever wanted them to be. I finally relaxed about it in November when I realized that it was silly of me to put so much unnecessary stress on us, and my poor husband was starting to think he was infertile. If it was meant to happen, it would happen. We conceived in Dec 06, after we started having sex for fun, not for a baby, and not only is she healthy and wonderful, my son is the world's greatest big brother and they are much closer than I could have ever imagined!

Sarah - posted on 12/27/2009

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not that it will make you feel any better, but in my situation.....when you are actually trying for a baby it takes millions of sperm, but when you aren't trying it only takes one. babies show up when you least expect them!

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with my first, i got pregnant as soon as I stopped taking the pill.. but when we started trying for #2 i, I again went off the pill. I ended up having 2 miscarriages before I got pregnant with my son.. i got pregnant march/april of 2008 and we started trying julyish 2007 .. I too was frustrated cause I wanted my kids close in age, and am I ever glad that didn't happen.. phew .. there is 3 years in between them ( my daughter is 4 and my son almost one) and if I could do it again I would wait 4 years.. two kids is hard freaking work!! .. I don't know how people do it with 2 close in age..My daughter is in the stage where she doesn't think she needs me and my son ofcourse needs most of my time.. it is so hard to divide your self between kids.. I find anyway! I (like everyone eles) think a few months isn't enough time.. EVERYTHING HAPPENDS FOR A REASON :)

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Naomi - posted on 01/05/2014

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I had my iud removed December of 2012 cause I heard about all the recalls on it after 3 months of having it removed I decided I wanted to try for my 3rd baby so it is no January 2014 and still no baby I have a 6 and 4 year old I had no trouble conceiving them I was just wondering if the iud could have messed me up wit trying to conceive...

Amy - posted on 12/27/2009

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they say u should try for a year before your dr will even try other methods. i had an IUD and it took us a year after multiple tests to get preg and we lost her at 24 weeks pregnant. that was 11/08 and we r still not pregnant. i have a 14 yr old and a 6yr old, i am 32 and r still trying.

Hailey - posted on 12/27/2009

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There is nothing wrong with having another child when you first is already 3. In a way it is a blessing because they are old enough to start helping out in little ways. My son is turning 4 in a week and my daughter will be 10 months on the first of Jan. I actually find their age difference to be perfect. Ultimately, it will happen when it happens. Relax and try to enjoy the process.

Jaelyn - posted on 12/27/2009

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You need to stop deciding when it will happen. If you are anxious about it, it wont happen. Think of it this way, your body is not going to porduce the necessary hormones to invite a pregnancy into a hostile environment where you would likely miscarry. Your body operates on survival mode and stress is not giving you optimal hormone production. You got pregnant easily the first time BECAUSE you were not trying. Just relax, enjoy your hubby and let your body act naturally.

Sue - posted on 12/23/2009

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just remember that it isn't age that will make your children "close" it is how they are raised. No matter how close or far apart in age they are if they are taught that siblings are special friends that love you unconditionally they will feel that way. My husband has two sisters that are three years apart and as adults they live 1 hour away from each other and never talk.. or my grandmother and her brother who were 16 years apart and got together every sunday of their adult lives to play games with their familes.. If you raise your children to see the love and joy that a sibling can bring it won't matter how close they are. Just relax and enjoy the blessings of your family.. It will all come into place when it is suppose to

Brandi - posted on 12/23/2009

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Quoting Shaunalei:



I got my IUD in September, and I can't get pregnant!



My husband and I decided that we wanted to try for another child. I got my IUD taken out in the beginning of September and I have myself until the end of year to get pregnant. Well today is December 18, and I just started my period. It's discouraging because it was extrememly easy to get pregnant with my first child, We actually weren't really even trying. But for some reason, it seems almost impossible to get pregnant now. I have myself only til the end of the year because I didn't want my kids to be that far apart in age. My first will be 3 in January. So I don't know what to do??!!!




Chelle - posted on 12/21/2009

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my midwife told me it takes on avrage 6 months of tryin before most women fall pregnant. for me it took 7-8 months of trying for my daughter and i hadnt been on any family planing before i started to try (i also have no fetility problems).
after i had my daughter i fell pregnant within the 1st week of tryin!
its all a wating game really....dont put stress on yourself by setting a time frame

Sara - posted on 12/21/2009

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Just relax the more stress and pressure you put on yourself and the baby making process the less result you will get.I have found that when I wasn't even thinking about it let alone really trying is when it hapened with both my kids...So relax have fun trying...

Maranda - posted on 12/21/2009

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Spacing is not a big deal. There is a 10 year difference between my two and I love it. My oldest helps me out so much. He does things I don't even ask him to do. If you stress, it won't happen. I had the IUD with my first one for 6 years but wasn't planning on anymore and opps. Now I have the IUD again and do plan on one more but now yet. My doctor says the day it comes out, I could get pregnant. So in a couple more years I will be down that road but know not to think about it. It will happen!

Sarah - posted on 12/20/2009

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I don't know the reason why you are not getting pregnant now, but it sounds like you are putting a lot of preasure and stress on yourself. That can effect if you get preg. or not. I would say relaxe. My two kids are 3 1/2 years apart. I wanted that spacing for many different reasons and thought that that would be perfect for siblings. But I have friends who have theirs closer and ones that have theirs further apart. I have come to realize that the spacing is NOT that BIG of a DEAL. They will still be siblings. They will still love each other, play with each other, and fight with each other no matter the age spacing. We plan on having more children but wanting things in our life set-up a little better before trying for our third. There will be about a 9 year difference from my second to my third. I know that things will be different than what it was for my first two, but I am VERY excited to see how things fall into place with this next one.

Jeanetta - posted on 12/20/2009

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it depends on how long you had it in. I had one in for 18 months and it took me over a year before i got pregnant. The best advice would be talk to your dr and find out.

Jessica - posted on 12/20/2009

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There's nothing you can do if you're not pregnant and who cares if they're almost 4 years apart. It can take as long as 18 months to get pregnant after going off birth control. So relax and enjoy the "fun" until you get pregnant. You'll be pregnant before you know it!!!!!

Danielle - posted on 12/20/2009

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I found that with my 1st he was easy to conceive in about 2months and he was an accident. But, when I wanted another it took us about a year to conceive my second.

Just relax! About 75% of all couples trying to get pregnant will conceive in a year's time. Especially if you had the IUD in for and extended amount of time you will need to allow more time for your body to adjust to your natural hormones

Nicole - posted on 12/20/2009

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I had the IUD in and was trying to get pregnant ..i did some research and it says that most woman with it 90% will get pregnant withen 9 months and that is exactly what happened to me i had it taken out october of last year and got pregnant and july..it is very frustrating but the less you stress or think about it the easier it seems to happen!

Rebecca - posted on 12/20/2009

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sorry the website isn't the book, it's about the book but you have to buy the book in store lol. It has charts at the back so you can see for sure when yuo are ovulating:)

Rebecca - posted on 12/20/2009

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Ok so you started your period on Dec 18...if your periods are regular you will be ovulating between Dec 29-Jan 2...have sex on the 27,29,31 and the 2nd...look for the egg white cervial mucus. Don't put so much pressure on yourself also. The stress will backfire. Like some of the other ladies said you have to be mroe realistic...it took me almost a year to get pregnant with our first, i had medical problems to contribute but we stopped trying around this time of year as it was so busy and i got pregnant on new years eve ;P I would recommend you get the book "taking charge of yuor fertility". it was recommended to me by my fertility specialist when we were trying it it was a month later i convieved. I was also taking Dimetap cough syrup to thin my cervial mucus. Sounds odd but it works...it thins the mucus when yuo have a cough so it does the same for this area as well. I would drink 2tbsp a day, one morning one night. I noticed a big difference in mine. Make sure ti's just the regual DM if it has anything extra in it and you do become pregnant it can be harmful to your baby. If you get a cold during pregnancy this is the only thing you are able to take becasue t has less things in it. Enjoy your holiday season kick back and have a drink on christmas and new years eve and have a bit of fun in between the sheets...don't have too many drinks but have one i say. My husband was off his rocker and i was sober as a pig and i got pregnant lol...i tease him saying his little guys can't swim in a straight line so they did better this way lol. Don't waste your money on ovulation kits...it really is a waste. The book i said early teches you how to look for EVERY sign of ovulation and you can also use this technique on NOT to get pregnant...i have used it for a year after our son was born and now after our daughter...she is 5 months. The website for the book is...

www.tcoyf.com



Good luck and Happy Holidays!!

Miranda - posted on 12/19/2009

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Stress is probably what it is, well and the hormones that were in the IUD. Just let it happen... You'll be pregnant before the end of January!

Nicole - posted on 12/18/2009

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You can always get an ovulation test! It's like a pregnancy test, you pee on it and instead of telling you whether or not you're pregnant it tells you whether or not you're ovulating. I used one because I didn't get pregnant fast enough either! I was on the pill for 4 years before we were ready to have a baby. I waited a month after getting off to give myself a chance to get rebalanced and tried for 2 months with no luck. I was charting my cycle and everything. I was getting impatient, we waited so long to try, we just wanted to get pregnant already! So after that period I got the ovulation test and had sex the day it said I was ovulating and 13 days later had a positive pregnancy test! So it's worth a shot.

Brandi - posted on 12/18/2009

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Calm down. The worst thing you can do when TRYING to get pregnant is to TRY. It can really mess with your hormones. Give your body some time to rebalance the hormones and try to relax. You'll never get pregnant if you can't calm down some. I had friend who had an impossible time getting pregnant until she got fired from her job. Her job made her sooooooo stressed out AND she was TRYING sooooo hard to get pregnant that she just couldn't she went to fertility specialists and everything NOW she is pregnant with baby number 2. She's a stay at home mom and doesn't have the "job" stresses to deal with and can finally relax a little. Give it time and chill. You'll be pregnant in no time.

Jane - posted on 12/18/2009

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Hon, 3 months isn't that long to be trying to get pregnant. You're putting a lot of pressure on yourself! I'm assuming that you want your kids closer in age so that they'll be close (maybe I'm wrong) but I don't think that having kids close in age determines how close they'll be. Enjoy your 3 year old 'cause trust me when I say they grow up so fast & just keep trying it'll happen when it happens. We have 2 boys that are 12 years apart & I don't think that means they won't be close they still have each other no matter what. Good luck & I hope it happens for you soon but keep trying!!

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First of all Relax, if you obsess over it, it just wont happen! You only ovulate at certen times of the month, get your self some good ovulation info. and go from there. You can also buy and ovulation thing at the drug store that will actually tell you when your ovulating! Its a small window when you can actually concieve. Good luck!

Heather - posted on 12/18/2009

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how long did you use the IUD for? i was told by my doctor that it may be hard to get pregnant after a couple years of using the IUD. Maybe you can talk to your doctor about fertility?

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1. Do not put a time limit on conceiving. This can cause stress which can then cause you to NOT get pregnant.
2. It can take over a year for a woman to conceive. One of my best friends tried for just over a year before she got pregnant. Same with my Sister.
3. I found it extremely easy to get pregnant with my first - 3 months. When we tried for #2, it took us over a year. Just because you get pregnant easy once, doesn't mean it will always be like that.
4. I hate when people say "I didn't want my kids this far apart!" because Doctors always tell you - it can take on average a year to conceive. If you wanted them closer together, you should have started sooner. Not to sound mean, just being honest.

You need to breathe, relax, STOP THINKING ABOUT IT and have sex between every other and every 2 days. Too much sex can hinder your ability to conceive.

Good luck!

Veronica - posted on 12/18/2009

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My only advice would be to relax. It will happen when it is suppose to happen. The lord works in mysterious ways.

Krista - posted on 12/18/2009

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First, stop putting a time crunch because you'll drive yourself crazy. Every pregnancy, from start to finish (including conception) is different. My best friend took 9 months to get pregnant.

First of all, I just want to say that having TOO much sex is counter-productive as it lowers your husband's sperm count. Instead, concentrate on having sex at your most fertile times. I assume that you know how to calculate this. It's a 72 hour window two weeks after your period.

Jackie - posted on 12/18/2009

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Why can't you get pregnant... here are two reasons. STRESS and i am assuming that IUD had hormones in it. You need to give it time to work out of your system. Are you seriously going to rip yourself off of another child because you didn't get pregnant by New years? There is 6 1/2 years between my children. 2 miscarriages and many years of trying. Chill out and be realistic. Life doesn't work that way and you know it. I bet the second get rid of the deadline and stop trying you will get pregnant.

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