I hate it here.

Robin - posted on 03/13/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I hate being a SAH mom. I love my boys but I don't feel like I am contributing to the home. Plus I feel like a prisoner in my home. I have no friends no hobbies and no where to go during week so I'm stuck in this house all week by myself with no adult convo and my husband who works all day falls asleep when he gets home. I'm so lonely it hurts.

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Marilyn - posted on 04/03/2015

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Raising your children is the most difficult job you will ever have, and if you see it through the time will come when you will have no regrets. Your children need you.they need your guidance, your love. You need to be there for them everyday-never let them feel,that they are not the most important people in your life. So many parents today, too many,require that these children they wanted so badly adjust to the lifestyle of the parent instead of the other way around...we make unwritten committments to these children when we decide to have them and they should be honored.. enjoy the time you have with them, teach them, don't blame them for taking the kind of life from you that you wish you still had. They did not ask for this. Have fun with them get to know them, really know them. You will find this to be a full time job and will come to realize that it is the most rewarding job you could ever have.

Robin - posted on 04/03/2015

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Thank you all so much for your comments. I'm from Michigan. Living out more in the country sure isolates you. But my boys are my best friends. Me and my husband joined a care group that meets every other Sunday. I look forward to those so much! I truely miss working. Been thinki MG of starting up a business in town to work but could bring kids with me since we can't afford daycare. But a loan is easy to get here. I feel like I need to help out but someone has to be here for kids. This house is a little box.

Connie - posted on 03/28/2015

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I'm in the same situation. I went from working and going to school full time to being a full time stay at home mom. I feel my brain turning to mush. I know every song to every fisher-price laugh and learn toy out there. I feel like I'm going to lose it if I don't change something soon.

Megan - posted on 03/28/2015

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hi robin, i know exactly how u feel i feel exactly the same! my boyfriend works long hours i have no friends or hobbies either.as much as i love my little girl who is coming up 3 years its hard work i feel like i have no life at all! which may sound selfish but i cant help howi feel maybe u could try joining a todler group or something,i have considered them but i just dont feel i have the confidence to go on my own lol, i hope things get better for u soon i know its hard but try and stay positive xxxx

AKFn - posted on 03/13/2015

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I'm in the same boat. I just moved to a new state and know only my dad and step mom whom I rarely see. I stay home with my 16 mo old and my oldest goes to school. I'm also pregnant with our 3rd. Im very lonely too, I don't have anyone to hang out with or have adult conversation with. I get more depressed because, my in law family puts me down for being a SAHM. They think I should be working. They basically think I'm a loser. I feel so down on myself. Like since when is taking care of kids and a house a bad thing? I hate It so much. My husband works all day and goes right to sleep when he gets home too. It's just me and kids.. Sometimes I want to run away. My husband spends time with them on weekends and I try to run off for at least an hr alone but my husband is always calling me asking where I am. Sorry just venting because, I know how you feel. I hope it gets better for you.

Alicia - posted on 03/13/2015

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Robin, This makes me sad. Find something you love to do and do it! Find a club/group, activity... SOMETHING that gives you joy. You need that joy for you, for your boys, and for your family! Don't give up cause it causes deep mama depression and that can easily be a hole that is hard to get out of. Not impossible, but hard. Reach out to someone close to you or find a way to meet a new mom friend. It really does help. Good luck!

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