I have a 14 Month baby girl & Im getting the itch to have another, but what is a good age gap?

Alyson - posted on 10/20/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




I want them the be close enogh in age so when they will grow up and stay close together, but not too close where they feel like they have to compete each other. & also whats gonna be easier on me with my 14 month old and a new baby. How old should i wait for her to be, so she more of a help then a ADORABLE hassle. =]


Jane - posted on 10/21/2009




Just because your kids are close in age does not guarantee they will have a close relationship. I have friends that are 1 year apart & are not close @ all & have another friend who's sister is 13 years older & have a very close relationship. My oldest son is 12 years old & our 2nd son is 6 months old & yes it was on purpose. We decided when our 1st born was little that we would have another baby if/when WE were ready. We were very young when our oldest son was born & we said we aren't going to have another baby just so our son has a brother or sister but when we felt the time was right. There is not perfect age gap only the time you & your husband decide it's the right time. Good luck!


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Kelli - posted on 10/21/2009




It all depends on you, are you ready for another one. My oldest and middle kids are 14.5 months apart and my middle and youngest are 19 mos apart and I would not have it any other way. Right now they are 2,3,4 which is fun to tell people just for the reaction. But if you are ready go for it.

Chrissy - posted on 10/20/2009




there is no good time to have baby number 2 there is 18 months between myself and my sister i dont no how my mum didnt kill 1 of us as we tryed to kill each othere almost every day, i have 4 years between my girls and its nice in some ways as the big 1 is now in school so i have my shorty in the day on her own and its nice but the bigger they get the smaller the toys and now shortys keeps eating them and the big 1 cant get her toys out when shorty is up. i think the best age gap is the 1 between myself and my little sis there is 24 years lol.my brother has 11 months between his 2ed &3ed and he said its like having twins but that in its self is also hard work,and we are now trying for number 3 there is 3 1/2 years between no 1 and no 2 and then there will be about just over 2 years between 2&3 but then i think thats almost 6 years between 1&3 thats the other thing if u want more than 2 wot age gap will there be between the first baby end the last.

you are the only one who can tell wot age gap is good for your family as what works for some will not work for others

Shandy - posted on 10/20/2009




I will just say my girls are 21mo apart and at times I want to PULL my hair out lol, and other times I want another beautiful baby around! My 2 year old is potty trained now and I think (my personal opinion) it would have been easier do have done that first. I agree with Kim there is no perfect age gap.

Dawnetta - posted on 10/20/2009




My husband & i started trying to get pregnant again last month. Our daughter turned 15 months this week. I have heard "Its easier if you just never really get out of diapers", & I have heard "its easier if you don't have 2 in diapers." I have also heard that "you just keep getting busier as they get older" and that "helpers are often more of a hazard than a help." You get where I am going. Every child has such an individual personality that plays a strong role in sibling relationships & it's changing as they grow up quickly. Once we get pregnant, I will have another 9 months before she has a sibling, giving us at least a 2 yr age gap. For my family I am going to cross my fingers that that works out well!

Kristina - posted on 10/20/2009




My sons are 17months apart. They are very close and play good together. I did get slack for having them so close but i would never change that for a second. When my youngest was born my oldest was really good. He was not an huge helped but did understand that i needed to tend to the baby a little bit more. Now that they are 4 and 2 1/2 they play great and it gives me a chance to do things around the house.

Kerensa - posted on 10/20/2009




the perfect age gap is what ever you feel comfortable with, and what you feel like you could cope with!

Kim - posted on 10/20/2009




I believe there is no such thing as the perfect age gap. Every age gap has its advantages and disadvantages plus, you don't always have control of when you get pregnant. My daughter was 12 months old when I got pregnant and my kids will be 20-21 months apart. I just keep thinking oh gosh ... two in diapers ... but hopefully my kids will get along and be close. You just need to decide when is the right time for you and let nature take it's course. Whatever happens happens and whatever age difference your kids are will be perfect for you :-)

Hillary - posted on 10/20/2009




My mom had my older sister and I 2.5 years apart, so she got pregnant with me when my sister was about 20-21 months, and we are so close. The good thing about waiting until she is almost two is that she will likely be potty trained by then, so you're not buying diapers for two babies. Also take into consideration that if you work you will be paying for daycare for two children, which could get very expensive. My daughter is 11 months and I've been wanting another baby since she was 6 months old, but I have to wait another year because I had a c-section, I think that we'll probably start trying when my LO turns two, I'm going to try to plan it so that they are two school years apart, (one will be in 11th grade and one in 9th, for example), I really like the age gap between my sister and I, it was close enough to still have a lot of things in common, but far enough apart so that we had our own experiences with things (plus, can you imagine having to pay car insurance for a 16 year old and a 17 year old?!?)

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