I have a friend

Chloe - posted on 02/21/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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who is due in about 5 days who has sweet bugger all for her baby, i keep telling her a baby is going to need more than a blanket, and 5 outfits . She doesnt even have a packet of nappies. She has a laybuy that she can not payoff, and she is in severe debt. I want to be able to tell her to grow up but i cant find the right words, and i dont need the conflict right now

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Allen9612 - posted on 02/21/2009

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If she is in serious debt and cant really afford to buy much from the store take her to consignment shops and yard sales. She may know that she needs this other stuff but really may not be able to afford it and not know her other options. Educate and help her learn to pinch some serious pennies.

Tracey - posted on 02/21/2009

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Quoting Katharine:



Don't worry about finding the write words.  There aren't any and nothing you say will help in the long run.  In the short run, how about calling her to say, "I thought you''d enjoy some company while you shop for that baby."  Or, " I found a list of reccomended items to have put by before going to the hospital.  I thought it might be helpful to you."  Find lists at www.thenewparentsguide.com/essential-baby-products.htm or similar sites. 





Katharine is absolutely right on this one. I agree with the let's make a list and go shopping thing. Or another alternative is having a baby shower for her. That way, baby gets what baby needs, and Mom gets some adult conversation regarding babies and their needs....just an idea!

Katharine - posted on 02/21/2009

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Don't worry about finding the write words.  There aren't any and nothing you say will help in the long run.  In the short run, how about calling her to say, "I thought you''d enjoy some company while you shop for that baby."  Or, " I found a list of reccomended items to have put by before going to the hospital.  I thought it might be helpful to you."  Find lists at www.thenewparentsguide.com/essential-baby-products.htm or similar sites. 

Kelly - posted on 02/21/2009

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I love the way you write! I'm from the southern U.S., and don't know some of your words, but I get the point. I think all you can do at this point is keep trying to be her friend. Unfortunately, many babies are born to young girls who can't take care of them all that well, and who just don't realize how much a baby needs. It is good that you can help keep an eye on things, and make sure the baby is o.k. Sometimes in the U.S., babies are taken away from the mother by the state, and put into foster care (someone else temporarily takes in the child to raise) when the situation is really bad. I'm sure your country has something like this, they just may call it another name. Hopefully, having the baby will force your friend to grow up and take care. Good luck!

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