I have no energy - any tips?

Whitney - posted on 09/10/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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so im a mother of three i have a 4yr 2 yr and 5 month old. my 4 year old started school and recently since he started i felt depressed and no energy. i look at the house and want to clean it but i am just all out of energy any help?

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Ashley - posted on 09/11/2012

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I agree with the tip about FlyLady. Also, this may sound weird, but how's your diet? Sometimes if you're lacking in Omega-3s it can mess with your mood. I know it's hard, but try to eat as wide a variety of fruits and vegetables as you possibly can, and get a little exercise, even if it's just a walk. I only have one child--an 11 month old--but I've been dealing with Postpartum, so I can totally relate to that listless, want to do everything and nothing at the same time feeling.



Something that has really helped me is to try "30 minutes on, 30 minutes off." I spend 30 minutes with my little one playing, reading books, being super attentive mommy, whatever...THEN I find something to occupy her for 30 minutes (a snack, independent play time, nap time, etc.) and for that 30 minutes I do either something I want to do or something I need to do. You can alternate. Use one 30 minute block to paint your nails or read. Next 30 minutes is kiddo time. Next 30 minutes is dishes. Etc. Etc. Set a time and keep it to exactly 30 minutes devoted to each activity, even if you have to stop what you're doing when 30 minutes is up and come back to it during your next block of time. You'll be amazed how much you can get done in 30 minutes and how much better you feel. I know you have more than 1 child so you have infinitely more to do than I do, but if some variation of that schedule could help, it might do wonders.



I hope it gets better! And remember: you're not a bad wife/mother/woman, etc. if you have a messy house. It's okay! Give yourself a break!

Elizabeth - posted on 09/11/2012

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Wow, all your energy goes toward children. It is so hard to stay motivated to clean the same house day in and day out. Then of course there is the added problem of being interrupted 500 times while doing a chore. My house is clean but not always picked up enough but I did lower my standards when the kids were little. I have a chronic illness so energy is precious, do not sweat the small stuff. Also the web site flylady.com really does have some good tips. I followed and set up my routine to take about an hour everyday, and one big job a week. I also really set my kids up on a schedule so they napped and game me some time. This helped. I wish I had exercised more when the kids were little, I think that would have helped my energy level. My boys are 14 and 15 now and keep me hopping and I am now trying to get in some kind of shape, battling many years of neglect and getting older. I also wonder about your hormones with a 5 month old. Some of your energy level can be having such a little one. I wish I could be more help. {{{HUGS}}}

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Debbie - posted on 09/12/2012

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Sara - posted on 09/12/2012

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I have kids also-4 boys ages 8, 6, 4, and 8 months. I usually have plenty of energy so I don't think having kids would make you tired. If I feel onerwhelmed about a messy house, that starts bringing me down. I just make myself clean the mess and then I feel great! It may take some will power but it will be worth it. Try having the kids help you work on one mess together. That's usually alot of fun for them and you will also feel worthwhile. I have a tendency to get upset with my kids but I'm learning to stay calm and that helps with keeping adrenalin from flowing through your body. Adrenaline will make you tired after you have used it. Try keeping all your thoughts filled with love and get rid of any negativity that affects us all. Green smoothies are a great way to get some good nutrition. Also drink plenty of water. Hopefully this helps!

Ravwhitgreen79 - posted on 09/12/2012

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I have been there! It gets better, with help. I would first suggest talking to your primary care doctor to schedule bloodwork and make sure there isn't anything that is off, such as a vitamin deficiency, etc. I would also suggest talking to a therapist. Post Partum depression is a very common cause of lack of energy as well. You have your hands full and maybe a short term anti-depressant would be helpful.

Try to get sleep (I know it's hard) and drink a lot of water. You'd be surprised what a little dehydration can do to you.

I use a cleaning schedule to keep things from getting overwhelming. I came up with a weekly, monthly and quarterly system. I tackle only the things on my list every day plus anything that HAS to be cleaned, etc.

Keeping a consistent household routine and morning/daily routine for the kids can work wonders as well.

Using a chore/rewards system for your 4 and 2 year olds can help getting them used to helping around the house as well. There are things they can help you with. Even if you have to help or go behind them, it's getting them accustomed to helping and pitching in.

I wish you well and hope things get better soon. Keep us posted :-)

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