I have seperation anxiety not the baby!

Jennifer - posted on 06/02/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




My daughter is 8.5 months old and I have spent every day with her and since my husband is deployed it is just me n her everyday. We do have playdates with other mommies n babies but thats only once a week at best. The only time I have ever left her is when I absolutly had to for a dr appt and that was with my hubby while on leave. Even when I left her with my hubby I still kept calling to check on them. When we meet new people she has no problem going to them or playing with them so why does the thought of leaving her scare me so much? Also should I be putting her in daycare or anything for a few hours a week for her own benefit?


Jennifer - posted on 06/03/2011




I am so glad I am not the only one who has felt this way! Thank you for all your advice.

Juliana - posted on 06/02/2011




If this is your first child, its completely normal. I have 3 kids, my oldest is 8. I still have separation anxiety. Its natural, my husband told me its because I dont think anyone else can take care of the kids like I can. I call and check on my kids often, even with my husband. Daycare may be helpful for her socialization. I own an in-home daycare and I know the kids that have been in daycare from a young age and those who havent. Those who havent sometimes get overwelmed by all the other kids.


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Khadijah - posted on 06/03/2011




I am a first time Mommy of twins and I am the same way. Some days are worst than others, but for the most part I am always checking a rechecking everything around them. They do very good interacting with other children, I am just always so anxious when anyone else is involved other than myself. When my husband keeps them I am constantly calling to see what he gave them to eat, or what pj's he put on them (make sure he put the cooler summer pj's instead of the heavy winter pj's), if he brushed their teeth, etc. I read and see on tv how people hurt or walk away with other peoples children and that is like my absolute worst nightmare and I do everything I can to prevent that. How can I relax? I just don't know.

Louise - posted on 06/03/2011




Your daughter does not need day care at 8.5 months but socialising with other mums and tots would be good for both of you. Join the local mums and tots groups where you could make friends and your daughter can play with others. I felt just the same as you when my boys were small and it was me sobbing when it came to leave them at playgroups. My sons were not bothered at all.

I now have a daughter and grown up sons and leaving her for a couple of hours with her brothers is all I can stand. I am sure I will shed many tears when she goes to preschool as I did her brothers.

You are totally normal all mums feel that they are the only one that can look after there baby properly. Just join some groups this will help no end.

Katherine - posted on 06/02/2011




I was the same way with my first. It was soo hard to leave her alone. I didn't do it until I worked and put her in daycare 3 times a week when she was 2.

Hang in there it's ok!

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