I just need to rant and rave

Chesnie - posted on 11/20/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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This is just mainly a rant on my husband...



I am married, we have a 3 yr old daughter and he has 2 sons, live with their mom..my husband is very moody. We don't have sex much cuz I have lost thatdesire and he doesn't do well getting me in the mood. That's sometimes a fight. He doesn't trust me...I like to go out places like shopping by myself and sometimes I'm gone awhile. He gets irritated when he has to watch our daughter alone. We can't talk about much anything without a fight, so I hold in a lot of things. We tried marriage counseling three times and went a few times and quit which he would say its not working "your not gonna change" as if I'm only at fault.



His youngest son' 10 yrs old, doesn't wipe his butt after the bathroom and leaves stains on his underwear. I asked him about it and he said he just doesn't wipe well. So I washed his underwear and they were stained so I showed then to him ( husband) while he was watching a football game, to ask him should I throw them away, and he went off on me so I just threw them out. That's just gross and told him he needs to talk to him about proper hygiene.







This was just a rant..

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Katie - posted on 11/21/2012

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Yeah I understand, Reminds me on how my last relationship was and it didn't last any longer then a year and a half do to no communication and how he treated me "verbally abusive" and never cared what I had to say, always ignored me and we almost never had sex, always felt not attractive..



Don't let him get to you, How long have you two been married?

No offense at all but maybe you two should take a break from each other for a bit, If it's not working out maybe it's not meant to be...When I was with my ex I thought he was the one for me, And I put up with alot of shit, was depressed, and didn't feel good about myself.

It took me alot but I finally broke up with him and stayed single for 3-4 months.



But now that I am in a relationship where someone appreciates me,listens and thinks about my feelings, I have realized that I was never happy with my ex.

Chesnie - posted on 11/21/2012

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Thank you! I have tried talking. Some days r better than others! I don't say anything when he's gone just so I can say"I don't say anything to u when your gone" but he says yes u do! He has a 24 hour built in babysitter to watch his daughter but if I go somewhere n ask if hell watch her he grumbles then stonewalls me when I come back. Luckily his ex wife is mature n doesn't cause problems at all! I don't know its just like I'm walking on eggshells constantly!! I like when he's working all day cuz that's the only time I can breathe n relax. Hmmm

Katie - posted on 11/21/2012

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You both need to continue working on communication, Don't give up it may take awhile but giving up isn't the answer.

I do agree that he needs to realize how much you do around the house and that you need your time alone/time to relax as well.

He needs to take charge of his son and considering he is 10 and can't whip his own butt isn't acceptable and he needs to talk to his son about how to correctly do that, It is his son and that's a father/son thing if you ask me. If he was both of yours I would understand a little but no that's not right.



It's good to get your emotions out, And I understand how it feels to keep everything bottled up.

Me and my boyfriend have to deal with his kids Mother and she causes drama about everything, The kids aren't even mine and I have been more of a Mother then she ever has, It's sad considering how the kids look up to her....And just a few nights ago she told both the kids that me and there Daddy are not going to last and he will leave me because he will get tired of me...



But if you ever need someone to vent to I would be more then happy to help you out as much as I can, It's hard to talk to men because they just don't fully understand how we feel.

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