I know I'm over weight, but seriously?!?!...GRRRRRR

Jennifer - posted on 03/27/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )




Why is it when you go to doctors anymore, the answer is always the same no matter what the issue is? Ok, I knew when I told them how much my back hurt, they were going to say it was because I was over weight. The bad thing is that it isn't from that. I have arthritis in my back from years of working in a nursing home and lifting 200+ lb people by myself everyday (and through 3 of my pregnancies). This was confirmed by a different doc who I unfortunately can't go to anymore, becuase of changing insurances. Lately I have been having a lot of different problems, and after writing everything down, and then doing research on everything, I'm pretty sure I have an underactive thyroid. I have been having issues for a while, but most recently have been major changes in my monthly cycle, including having periods every two weeks to skipping out for 3 months. I had a tubal, but there is always a very very very slim chance I could be pregnant, and my doctor refused to run any tests. She told me to just go on a diet and everything would be fine. I finally got to the point that I demanded she at least do some blood work to make sure something wasn't going on, but why should I have to do that. I understand I have some weight to lose. I have given birth to 4 children. I don't look like I did in college, sorry, but to just pass everything off on my weight is getting absurd! Does anyone else ever have an issues with this, or is this just something that seems to only be happening in my area?


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Ajoy1818 - posted on 03/31/2012




I know what you are going through because I'm working through a similar problem . I am about 30 labs over weight , nursing , having two cycles a month and my back was hurting until I learned it was because I wasn't drinking enough water and as a result it was putting stress on my kidneys . I'm still working on the rest of my problems but now I know a lot of it is because of my diet and lack of exercise which I'm working on now .

Sarah - posted on 03/31/2012




i totally agree, im a smoker and everytime i go to the doctors wether its because im depressed or because my ear has fallen off its always because im a smoker. gets a bit annoying after a while.

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Are you in the US? A doctor should perform ANY test you ask for as long as you are willing to pay for it--in fact, if you have insurance they are usually more than willing to perform them because they do get paid for them. Unless you have crappy insurance, in which case, just offer to pay for it up front then file with your insurance company yourself.

The test you need to determine whether your thyroid is under active is a TSH test. This test runs about $98 nationwide, give or take about $20 depending on the area. If your thyroid is under active, the test should show it. You may need further testing on para thyroids to get to the root of the issue and develop a treatment plan.

ETA: Are the previous doctors notes about your arthritis not in your medical records? You should be able to point those out to the new doctor and continue the treatment plan the old doctor had you on.

Jenni - posted on 03/27/2012




Actually the weight is a side effect of many things. Stress. Hormonial changes. Poor diet. I have had the same thing for years. I worked in a hospital in high school as a nurses aid. Then had 4 children with the first being severe back labor. I am now a doula and student midwife. I have found the back pain coming from damage during the birth process, hormone issues and then poor diet. Stress as the main contributer now. I keep gaining weight, even with going to the gym and watching what I eat. I have started taking chaste berry to regulate hormones. I just started, so I am not sure if I can really say I have seen a difference. I have been reading about herbs for women and it's very interesting. I also had ovarian cysts in the past and I don't have them now, but I am still breastfeeding my 3yo. (If it keeps the cysts away, I may breast feed her forever! lol) There is also a great vitex (another name for chaste berry) elixir. It has a variety of herbs for women's support. It also regulates periods. Other good herbs are cramp bark, blue and black cohosh, and wild yam. I would stop listening to doctors, they really don't know much about this sort of thing....unless they study it like I do. And I would even try cutting out all estrogen promoting foods like soy products unless they are fermented. Then maybe eat more of a vegitarian diet. I have about 40 pounds to lose....the same weight as always. lol That stinkin' baby weight, right? lol

Rebecca - posted on 03/27/2012




Im so sorry to hear that. If it was me, I would sue the current dr. for discrimination! God love you, you seem to have a such a lovely heart. Actually I had kind of the reverse happend to me. When I was pregnant I gained like 100 lbs (no lie) and didnt realize because at that time I didnt believe in scales in the home and I was pregnant after all so passed off the weight gain. I wish that my Dr had mentioned something to me. However to pass off your pain and concerns on your weight??? Where did she get her license? Mean Girls University? Hope that you feel better and find another dr asap.

Chrystal - posted on 03/27/2012




No it's not just you. I have heard that same thing at the doctors several times I finally got one to understand that it wasn't the extra weight that caused my pain it was a real live illness. Now with treatment I don't hurt from head to toe 24/7 and guess what since I don't hurt so much I have the ability to move around and lost weight shocker. Yes weight can make things worse but it isn't always the root of the problem and it would be nice if a doctor checked to make sure.

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