I'm a little backwards

Maria - posted on 06/10/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )




I recently noticed that when my 8 month old, teething, miserable, clingy son is awake (poor thing) is when i am trying to get things done ie. laundry, dishes, sweeping, etc. which is usually a challenge considering he want to constantly be the center of my attention (literally. if im folding laundry he will decide to come lie smack dab in the middle of my laundry pile lol) and then when he takes a nap and my time is free and easy i have been sitting down relaxing or using the computer (like now lol). u would think that being a smart woman i would take advantage of naptime and get some chores done! i must be nuts LOL


Heather - posted on 06/11/2010




Nobody is going to steal your dirty laundry or dirty dishes. They will still be there. I try to live by this philosophy for when my kids are feeling a little needy and I cant get anything done. If it is one of those days, I recommend crawling into bed with them and get stuff done after naptime :o)


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Darlene - posted on 06/18/2010




Maria, I was doing the same thing with my lil girl (she's 2 years old now). When she's sleeping, I'm doing the chores. I'm just grateful that she has been very cooperative with me lol! When she wake-up, I'm done doing everything so we have time to play. She is also my shadow. Wherever I go, she goes. When I'm cooking, she's the first one to taste it. She always wanted to be part of everything I'm into. She's curious, always ask questions and I think that's a good sign. It only implies that she is learning everyday. But I see to it that she knows when to stop. She knows if it's her time to watch cartoons and she knows when it's not. At her young age I let her understand that I should also have time for her daddy and time for myself as well. Giving her some books and toys also helped a lot. So she could play on her own. I know it will pass, just enjoy every moment and be grateful that you have a precious baby to take care of. Good luck =)

Chelle - posted on 06/18/2010




was also thinking just today- that this is also a good system because it means your little one gets used to not always having your undivided attention. They need to accept that you have other stuff to do around the house as well and that they have to entertain themselves at times.

Terri - posted on 06/11/2010




Actually, a lot of things that I have read say that nap time is be best time to relax because you can focus on yourself, instead of your chores or baby. My son is 19 months and I use his nap time to take a shower, otherwise he's in the bathroom with me and pulling the shower curtain open. LOL. Teething babies are always needy. Try to comfort him as much as you can, but tell him that you have to do some things to keep the house clean too. He might not understand the words you say right now, but he will soon. He's really at that stage in development where a lot of babies start having separation anxiety too. My son went through the same thing. It will get better. Maybe experiment with toys or different things to keep him busy while you do your chores. Good luck

Louise - posted on 06/11/2010




I have got this sussed! My little shadow Abbie age 19 months is now a mini me. If I am doing the dusting so is she with her own little duster. She has a mini brush to sweep the floor and she is a dab hand at fetching the potatoes. Every little helps! More time for COM for me then!

Chelle - posted on 06/11/2010




I dont think you are so backwards at all. I do majority of my chores these days when my little tacker is awake, trying to involve him in some when i can. When hes asleep, i use that time for ME. I think you are being a smart woman :)

Ann - posted on 06/11/2010




I usually do half and half. As soon as he goes down for his nap I jump into some chores and when the major stuff is done, I have some ME time. His naps are usually 2hrs long so I can get a lot done.....

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You need the break! The think that got me during that stage was that when my son went down for his nap, I was so flabbergasted at having the free time that my mind announced a thousand things I needed to be doing and I was so overwhelmed I just sat down and before I knew it, the time was up.
I started making lists of the important things on a dry erase board on my fridge, so when he went down for his nap, I would relax for about 15 minutes, then go look at the list. For some reason, that wasn't so overwhelming to me, I guess cause I could keep track of what I had done and what still needed to be done, and it was already prioritized so I didn't have to go through that step....I don't know, but it did help :)

Bethany - posted on 06/11/2010




Yeah, Charlotte (16mths) is my little shadow. She wanders off and plays sometimes, but alot of the time she just wants to bask in my presence.

I also use her (ever decreasing) nap time to put my feet up and have a cuppa, cause if I didn't, I would feel a bit whipped. The more I give to myself, the more I have to give to her.

And we're running a household here, we need our computer time, we need to research and network to do our job well. It's part of our job description. and God help all the mums who did it without the internet. Good Lord, I think I'd run down the street if I didn't have the Net.

flylady.net is helping with my housework, and I have a bit of spare time now, yay!

Jessica - posted on 06/10/2010




I understand lol my lil one is only 3 months and does not jump in my laundry pile just yet but she does s c r e a m her little head off when I put her down. Shes constantly wanting to be held. I live in an apartment and my neighbors look at me like I am a monster because she is crying like this.... It may be partly cause she is starting to teeth aswell... I just hope it doesnt last forever lol You are deff not alone when it comes to the little one wanting all of your attention lol

Crystal - posted on 06/10/2010




I understand you completely. My daughter is similar. When I sit at the computer she likes to sit on my lap which isn't terrible, but I have a hard time typing with her in the way. If I am cooking dinner she wants to be held, or if I am watching a movie she wants to watch her movies. I fixed that by putting her movie on the computer and she sits and watches it while I watch mine on the TV. But the others, I have a hard time too, I cannot stand holding her while cooking since I usually need both hands, and she fell off the counter once and smacked her head on the tile, so I am afraid to put her there. Anyway, good luck to you, and you are not alone. lol.

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