I'm having trouble finding happiness throughout my regualr days of being a stay at home mom :(

Gwyn - posted on 11/24/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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My husband was currently laid off, and we are really tight on money. I feel forced to stay home (in order not to spend money). I feel like my hands are tied.

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Brandy - posted on 12/01/2009

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Gwyn have you ever thought about working from home for more money so you can go out without stressing about anything. I work from home and have been for 3 years and I love eveything about it check it out www.workathomeunited.com/brandy

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Tina - posted on 12/08/2009

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Quoting Rhonda:

OMG girl I know what your going through.. I sit at home all the time and the only thing that gets me through the day is knowing when he gets paid we will get out of the freakin house!! But sometimes (when bills are due) we dont really have the money to do anything! We usually go to a family members house or even just go somewhere and walk! Anything so I feel like I get a break and get reboosted for another week!:)



Oh I know how you feel! I do the same thing. I look forward to pay day because it means getting out of the house. Even if it consists of paying the bills, running errands, grocery shopping, etc. I don't care because it cures the cabin fever! lol



 



I get so overwhelmed with being a SAHM. Sometimes I just want to get a job. But I don't want to leave her with a babysitter even though she's 27 months old. It gets hard being cooped up all of the time cleaning house 24/7 and sometimes not being able to keep up with it because you've got a wild toddler running around in the terrible twos. lol.



On the weekends we usually always get out of the house, visit family members, just anything. lol I always say I need out or I need some "me" me before I go nuts. lol.

Tammy - posted on 12/08/2009

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Quoting Umaira:

Me and my hubby have learned thru these times that we actually enjoy talking to each other !! lols....


wow good to hear,is he working?do u guys live in canada?

Umaira - posted on 12/08/2009

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Me and my hubby have learned thru these times that we actually enjoy talking to each other !! lols....

Tammy - posted on 12/07/2009

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try to get a hobbie or make friends and take the kids to the park or a friends house this stuff save u on money but have a fun.

Nikki - posted on 12/07/2009

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my fiance is currently working as a truck driver and we still dont have enough money to do anything bc he just started so money is tight on us to and i am a stay at home mom as well so it makes it hard plus he pays childsupport to so it makes like even harder

Amy - posted on 12/07/2009

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Make a fun activity jar and fill it with fun, FREE ideas and then when you are feeling the blues come on, pull one out to do. Examples, call a friend to come over, take a walk, scrapbook, do a craft with your little one, bake ... I hope it helps. I do understand what you are going through. I have been a stay at home mom since I was pregnant with my oldest and she is 13. Best of luck!

Michelle - posted on 12/07/2009

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Going for a walk releases endorphins, which help to make you feel good. How about getting together with a few friends and take turns in spending a morning at each others homes for a coffee and a chat. Take your kids to the park, have a picnic or go to the beach if you live near one. Even in the cooler months it is still fun to play in the sand. As other mums have suggested google for free local activities. I know how you feel as I have three children, and all our money is flowing into our business. So with bills, paying the mortgage, school fees and childcare fees, and not even talking about running two cars and putting petrol in them (yes I am from Australia lol), can all get ontop of you.

Jane - posted on 12/06/2009

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Hey Gwyn,
I can totally relate. My hubby also works away on a minesite for 2 weeks at a time, so its just me and bubby. If we don't have a lot of $$, I stop myself from going stir crazy by going for a walk, or to my local shopping centre where we get out and about and just have a look around. Looking doesn't cost anything, and at the moment, the shops are abuzz with Christmas Decorations and everyone is in a great mood, so I can feel it as soon as I walk in :)
Best of luck x x

Tanya - posted on 12/06/2009

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Hey Gwyn,
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I am a stay at home of a 6yr old and an 11 month old and I recently started with this company and it has made a huge diffeence in my happiness factor. I was starting to become a zombie until I was introduced to this company, and if your interested in learning more about working from home and what I do go to this link and request more information and you will be contacted right away with a great opportunity and onderful benefits they have right now http://workathomeunited.com/trussell

Tiffany - posted on 12/02/2009

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I found this hobby about six months ago that is a free online digital scrapbooking program and I'm addicted. If you have the internet, this is so much fun to do and if you have children you probably have a lot of pictures. There are samples of what you can do on this site. http://preserve-yourmemories.blogspot.co... You can work on projects for free until you want to publish them. I love it! I can give you a free coupon code to start on a project and all you have to do is pay for shipping.

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Why don't you go to the park, or if it is cold/rainy go to the shopping centre, you don't need to spend money to walk around (I do it all the time). Also see if your libary or community centre offers a story time, or mothers/play group you can attend.

Nicki - posted on 12/01/2009

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I felt the same way. Financial problems are stressful, and being a stay at home mom means you are always working, without compensation. You can go crazy with the same routine day after day unless you take time for yourself. It is especially hard to do that when money is tight, because I'm sure you feel guilty spending money on yourself, and if you're like me, when you do have a break, you can't turn your brain off. I found myself constantly running numbers and worrying. What has really helped me is working out! I couldn't afford a gym membership so I was fortunate enough to be able to get a Saturday only job at the YMCA, which gave me a free membership, and I can take the baby with me to their childcare and get my hour of exercise in while he is playing with the other kids. He is happy because it gives him a change of scenery. I do it first thing in the morning, so I feel energized and more positive all day, and I feel that it helps with my self esteem and my stress! If you can't do that, you can exercise for free at home. Look online for ideas for simple exercises to do with things you already have. Yoga is AMAZING for relaxation, strength, and flexibility, and they even have fun "mommy & me" yoga exercises you can do with your little ones. My son loves it when we do that, when I don't have time for the gym. I hope this helps. Hang in there!

Rebecca - posted on 11/24/2009

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Have you considered bringing in a few kids to do childcare to make a bit of money? My husband is military and after our second child was born i decided i would get back in to childcare. When she was 1 and a half months old i took in 6 kids. Best thing i ever did! It kept my oldest son,2yr, busy and he loved it! If you do consider it make sure to ask for proof of vaccinations as there are parents out there that wont disclose this...i learned the hard way and found it very disrespectful of the parents not to tell me when i had a newborn in the house.

If you have a park close by try to get out there. We have a park and a water park right up the road and i take the kids there all the time. They love it and in the summer it's great for me too:) Try to get some other moms over with their kids for play dates and for adult conversation:)

Sarah - posted on 11/24/2009

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One thing I enjoy doing is just taking the kids to the mall to play in the play area. We don't go on weekends because it is sooo crowded and there tends to be a ton of older kids that should not be in there running around. There is also a rec. center that offers swim time or play time for $1 a couple hours on Friday mornings. Another idea might be trying to find others in your area that stay home and set-up a play group. I find this is nice for the kids, but also for me. You could route who's house you meet at or always have it at yours but route who would bring a snack (if you wanted to include that into the time you met). This might be too old yet for your child, but I know in the summers here one of the movie theaters offers a free movie one day a week during the daytime hours.

Rhonda - posted on 11/24/2009

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OMG girl I know what your going through.. I sit at home all the time and the only thing that gets me through the day is knowing when he gets paid we will get out of the freakin house!! But sometimes (when bills are due) we dont really have the money to do anything! We usually go to a family members house or even just go somewhere and walk! Anything so I feel like I get a break and get reboosted for another week!:)

Nyki - posted on 11/24/2009

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I agree with Jennifer. Try to find some local activities just to change things up for the both of you. Sometimes even things you think might not be that great end up being the most fun. Getting that sunshine each day really boosts the mood and helps you cope with the days you are stuck inside.

Jennifer - posted on 11/24/2009

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Look on line for free events in your area. There is usually somthing free out there for you to do. I have a zoo pass so when the weather is nice we go to the zoo, or the park. I know how it feels to feel like you have to stay home when your tight on $$. If you ever feel like you need to talk or want more ideas on things to do you can message me and I would love to talk to you.

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