I'm in a slump

Gutierrezs023 - posted on 03/31/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have been unemployed for a year now and at first I was ok with it due to my son having health conditions so I was in and out of the dr , surgeries and MRIs . Now I feel like I'm in a slump, I crave adult conversations! I feel depressed with no desire of getting out of bed. Clean .. Cook .. Clean the kitchen come upstairs to find it a mess again . My kids dad comes home straight to watch tv doesn't help me and if I go out for and hour or two to run a few errands he complains he can't handle the boys . I love my kids and they are my motivation but at times I feel as if I'm not enough . I don't know how to describe the feeling I'm just stuck fighting this depressed feeling . I don't know what to do ! Am I the only one that feels like this ? Moms please help ... Am I going crazy ?!

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Leanne - posted on 04/15/2015

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Just following up Sandra! How are things going for you? I hope things are going a little better for you since you last reached out. Hugs!

Lesley - posted on 04/08/2015

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Therapy is great, but if you are clinically depressed please see a doctor, because medication is needed. I have been on anti depressants for a long time and it can be a chemical imbalance that needs addressing. I have been to therapy and it helps but both are needed in certain cases. If .i come off my meds it leads to a relapse so I am on them for life probably. I have never in the past twenty years been able to handle my condition with therapy alone. There is help out there. I am in Canada so I only know how our system works, and there is always free options here.

Jessica - posted on 03/31/2015

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Parenting is SO SO HARD !!! Especially when the dads complain about having them alone for an hour or so, my husband was the same way and I just told him to get with the program an figure it out because you're a dad now and need to act like it. I am 25wks pregnant right now and have a two year old so I know all about not wanting to do anything etc. Then I feel guilty that the laundry isnt done and we've been eating wendys every day ! So I've just pushed through and did things anyway even though i have no idea where the strength came from, i did it and really felt better having been productive. I think to myself that this is only a phase, right now i have no life and am a mom and wife and this is my job. It won't be this way forever, changing diapers, tantrums, etc, and i have to keep it positive. It doesn't always work but sometimes just pushing though really feels better and go on meetup.com and don't be shy to ask for phone numbers and actually contact other moms at the playground etc !!

Leanne - posted on 03/31/2015

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That is hard. 4 boys...wow! You do have your hands full. I just have the 2. It's difficult that you've moved away from your friends. It's really important to have good supports. I understand that therapy isn't always affordable...so I really encourage you to get out there and make new friends. Create yourself a new support system so you can get out with the boys and have some laughs with other mom's. Are your boys in any activities like soccer? Look for free resources like library clubs where they do activities with kids..a great place to meet mom's with kids your age. Get involved in your boys school on PAC...schools are always looking for volunteers and again a great way to meet parents. When you get involved in other activities other than just being at home..it gets you out of the house and changes your perspective just enough to help you cope..it helps you build resilience. Invite some kids over to play and parents for coffee..it gives you a chance to visit..mom's appreciate this..and don't worry about the mess..lol..if your house is messier than their house...you just made their day!! Lol..Find your sense of humor and laugh at life...don't sweat the little stuff. We're all in this together...you are not alone..we are all lacking in one way or another..and I find being honest instead of trying to pretend to have it all together is refreshing and welcoming. It takes the pressure off of trying to be something I'm not. :)

Gutierrezs023 - posted on 03/31/2015

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Thank you Leanne ! Just trying very hard to shake this off on my own just some days it takes a toll on me . Worst part is we just moved out here it's going on a year and haven't really met anyone and everyone I know is out 70-80 miles away and have their own thing going on ! Therapy is a bit out of my budget right now so that's why I decided to give this a shot just to vent and hopefully see results from other moms that have gone thru it and just to know that maybe I'm not the only one . About your son I'm glad to hear he is fine and healthy. My son had been in and out of dr since he was born . Heart condition narrowing of the aorta valve drs believe he has a syndrome but the testing is to expensive for the insurance to cover. He had a heart procedure and an X-ray there detected and abnormality in his shoulder and just last thanksgiving had a tumor surgically removed . So I know the feeling and on top of that having to cater to my other boys . I am a mother of 4 boys

Leanne - posted on 03/31/2015

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No..what you're feeling is pretty normal. However, It's important that you recognize that your feeling depressed so you do something about it. Sometimes you just need to get out of your head and talk to someone to help you break out of this unhealthy cycle. I recommend getting out and getting support either through therapy if you can afford it, or finding a group of mom's you can meet with regularly either for a play date. Reach out to someone and let them know you're having a hard time..chances they're experiencing similar circumstances. It's crazy hard being a stay at home mom and then adding the dynamic of being a mom of sick kids impacts the stress that much more ...I experienced post traumatic stress after going through my son having 2 open hearts. He's 10 now and healthy but I couldn't overcome the depression on my own. Sometimes you just can't do it...so please reach out in your community and get that support you need. HUGS!!

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