I'm scared for my baby

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I am 5 months pregnant just about. I am very concerned for this baby. My husband has this...condition, and nobody knows what it is. He can't have milk, any milk or dairy. He is not lactose intolerant, even soy products do it. It started when he was born. His mom said he was in pain ALL the time, and they just had to deal with it for the entire year. I really don't want to go through that with this baby. It was breast milk, formulas of all kind, organic cows milk later, soy milk cheese anything you can think of. He was recently diagnosed with acid reflux. They found ulcers in his digestive track, but nobody has been able to tell us what the weird milk allergy could be related to. It hurts his stomach horribly, among other issues if he drinks or consumes a large or medium amount.. Any ideas?


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Jodi - posted on 04/05/2010




I wouldn't worry TOO much about it until baby is here, but I know how hard that is to do! If you choose to breastfeed there is MUCH less chance your baby will have any allergies and if your baby reacts to breastmilk (if you decide to breastfeed that is!) then you can always try eliminating dairy and things like that from your own diet to make your milk easier to digest for baby. Best of luck and I sincerely hope your child comes out 100% allergy free!

Zeljka - posted on 04/05/2010




I have also weird milk allergies, I have two kids, brestfead, they don't have problem with milk :) So just relax and enjoy pregnancy. Everything will be just fine!

Denese - posted on 03/26/2010




Sorry my post was missing some words..lol its suppose to say not to worry so much and I agree with everyone that it may not be passed to your baby... Enjoy your pregnancy and you upcoming birth to be. :-)

Denese - posted on 03/26/2010




It sounds to me I guess that his reflux has been there since birth. I have a 6 year old who was born with reflux and it was bad wich affected his eating ability and ability to drink. They have a medicated formula and medicine that helped greatly. It was scarey at first because we did not know what was wrong. After learning about it we just went with the flow and was just excited there was something we can do about it. When he moved to solid food it had to be purated until he was 3 and older. He can eat solids now and is a very healthy happy son. I would worry yourself too much about it. I with all that this may not have been passed down and you very well will either way have a happy and healhy son. Reflux can be helped to ease the pain and issue along with it.
I only think it could have been the reflux in your husband the whole time as my son screamed the same way till we discovered it was reflux. He drank alot but in little amount all the time this helped prevent the acid burn they feel in there asauphugus. So try not to worry soo much .. I know we as mommy's cant help it but I hope my experience helped some. :-)

Christy - posted on 03/26/2010




Ask the pediatrician about similac alimentum for your baby if he/she ends up with that allergy. As far as hubby goes, keep going to dr's to get ther opinions, like a gastrointerologist. (sp)

Kristin - posted on 03/26/2010




First, this condition may not pass down to your baby. Do your homework/research on allergies in babies, your doc can get you pointed in the correct direction as can your pediatrician. Second, definitely try breastfeeding, you will pass along a lot of really beneficial things to your baby. Keep a food journal from the start and track what happens with him and his feedings. If there is a potential allergy, you may be able to continue breastfeeding if you eliminate the offending food; dairy or whatever. There are a lot of options and paths to take out there. If breastfeeding just won't work, then it doesn't. There is no shame to be had. There are lots of different formulas out there now. The goal is a healthy, thriving baby and you do what you have to.

I have allergies to dairy, wheat, and a whole host of other things. I can say from years of experience, there is a difference between a dairy allergy and lactose intolerance. Allegies cause a histamine response to a protein or suger or something else in the environment. Lactose intolerance occurs when the body does not produce the enzyme needed to digest lactose, a sugar found in dairy products. With my allergies I still breastfed both of my boys and intend to with our final child. Neither of the two currently out of my body have anything more allergically serious than mild hay fever in the spring. I was (and will be) more cautious as I introduced foods and beverages to my child. I waited a little longer than what is recommended, started with a skin test (a dab of whatever on the inner wrist and monitored closely for splotches and breathing difficulty), and if clear slowly started giving to my boys.

Reflux is really common in babies. So again don't worry too much unless there is major pain most of the time and there is little weight gain. Then it's smaller but more frequent feedings, frequent burpings, and keeping baby at an incline for an hour following.

Babies also just cry sometimes and when they are tiny there is the witching hour when for some reason they just seem inconsolable. It will pass. There is also colic, and this too will pass. It just takes longer.

All of your concerns are valid but with a little research and communication can be overcome. Talk with your child's doctor to be, consult with lactation specialists, a nutritionist (preferably one good with dietary complications), and read up some current literature. Keep communicating with the professionals and trust your instincts. It will be okay. As for your husband, get him to quit consuming the dairy and dairy substitutes. Just be prepared to do a lot of label reading.

Joanne - posted on 03/26/2010




there is a medicine that helps babies with throwing up issues- it's called Rotateq. I had one child who had serious issues with throwing up after feeding but with the last two children this medicine has been available and I haven't had any issues-but don't stress it may not happen to you-good luck!

Jennie - posted on 03/26/2010




i agree with these moms. dont get too stressed out about something you dont know is going to affect your baby. it might tolerate breast milk/formula/cows milk just fine. if it doesnt and your doc is not much help dont be afraid to look to others for help. lactation specialists, nutritionists, herbalists. there are so many options out there and you have to find the one that works for you and your baby.

Larissa - posted on 03/26/2010




I'm not allergic to milk but my husband doesn't like it. When my first son was born, after about 2 weeks, he started screaming 24 hours a day. It was aweful! I thought I was going to go crazy. He started having bloody diapers. It basically boiled down to this...my pediatrician made me stop breast feeding and we put him on Nutrimigena formula (it's a special formula that has been pre-digested). After about a month, the bloody diapers and screaming stopped. It really was soo hard. I couldn't give him any solids for a year, just the special, expensive formula (thank god for wic!). At a year, I slowly introduced solids and regular cows milk. He is now 3 1/2 and I haven't had any other issues with any foods or milk since. Just FYI...soy is VERY difficult to digest and not recommended for any babies!

Jessica - posted on 03/26/2010




doctor are more informed these days what was not confurmed for ur motherinlaw may be a simple answer for u. both my girls has acid reflux and i just had to add cerial to there formula for a yr. and keep alot of spitup rages handy. and keep them dry. it was tough but not unbarable. they also need to sit up at least a yr after each feeding ur have to doctor the nipples alittle and the fomula will be thick. both my girls are fine now eat and drink everything oh and stay away from red coolaid untill their about 2-2 1/2 they couldn't handle that ither. my husband suffered from the same thing as a child and they couldnt find out what was wronge with him same as urs. good luck!

Rachael - posted on 03/25/2010




Def try to breast feed. Highly recommend doing a course with you local breast feeding organisation (the hospital midwifes can give you their contact details if you cant find it). I recently read an article on taking probiotics while pregnant and for bub when born. Recent studies show it helps with colic and skin condition etc. The article was in the Australian Breast Feeding Association Magazine. You can probably get a copy of it from their web site. Try not to worry too much yet, but definately be prepared with information and ideas on how to deal with it if it is a problem. good luck

Louisa - posted on 03/23/2010




most certianly agree with janes post don't over stress yourself, research and get up to date information about the condition your husband suffers from but don't stress yourself out about it, you wont know until after your little munchkin is here and then you'll be able you access it from there. by the sounds of it your already doing your homework. good luck and fingers crossed.

kind regards, louisa

Jane - posted on 03/22/2010




it may not be handed down to your baby. and there are more options of formulas for babies now and are usually covered by your insurance company. give breastfeeding a try first. deal w/the problem if it comes up. and if it does, the pediatrician will be able to help you handle it if it does happen.

does your husband have celiac's disease? or irritable bowl sydrome?

"breastfeeding made simple" is a great book to grab from Amazon to read now before the baby arrives. it's an easy read.

good luck!

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