I'm so lonely! Any tips for me?

Jamie - posted on 07/09/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm a SAHM of a 3yr old girl and 10m old boy. My husband works all the time and then evenings/weekends is on the farm. I literally take care of everything in the house, outside of the house including mowing, bills, etc. What friends I do have are not SAHM so they have differant lives and the one that is a SAHM has totally changed (church obsessive-not bad but just only into her church friends). I don't have a lot of money to throw around for shopping or for putting my daughter in classes. I am part of a playgroup so that get me out once a week.

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Lisa - posted on 07/09/2012

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Jamie, you sound incredibly busy! Those ages are so 'hands-on needy,' it can really drain you, plus all the house responsibilities. Your husband is one blessed guy to have you take care of so much!



I'm sorry that your church friend hasn't invited you to meet her other friends - church can be a great place to meet other moms and get encouragement. Some churches have groups that meet at parks for the kids to play, etc. If you're not opposed to the idea, maybe that would be worth looking into on your own.



One of the best bits of encouragement I've had is to remember that life comes in seasons - some seasons we're smothered by activity and people, others we're dying for company; one season brings spectacular closeness with our husband, and another brings trial after trial. The thing to remember is - each season gives way to another eventually. You're not stuck in the current one forever. I promise!!



Do you have family nearby? Maybe invite the grandparents/aunt/uncle over for dinner, put the kids to bed and either hang out as grown-ups or have them stay with the sleeping kiddos while you and your husband steal an hour or two for each other... Harvest season is super busy, but time for pie and ice cream or a walk around the neighborhood might be just refreshing enough.

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Jamie - posted on 07/10/2012

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That's the sad part, I do have family nearby but they are all so busy or work and then don't want to hang out or do anything. But I do need to make more of an effort and invite them to supper anyways.

I love what you said about the seasons becuase that is exactly what it is like, I just didn't realize that.

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