I married my enemy. My worst mistake

Xo, Mimi - posted on 06/25/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm married to an abuse controlling man. I'm only 21 years old with have a daughter of 2 years and a half. We have been together ever since 2008 and recently got married last month, which has been my worst mistake. Everything started before our daughter was born. I was pregnant when he first layer hands on me Bc he thought I was going out. I called the police and he got charge for domestic violence. After that he changed and was a very good boyfriend than. Then our doll was born it wasn't long till it happened again and again and again. He has been charge of domestic violence 3x. And all those times I had felt bad that he only did time once which was the last. He's mother tells me I shouldn't talk back when he screams at me but how can I not? After all the storm things have calm down but he's always being verbally abusive towards me. Calls me a bitch and tells me to go fuck myself. And I know plenty of you will say I'm stupid which I am Bc I always go back to this man. And idk why when reality is I'm not happy. And all I want is to get a divorce. Just today we got into an argument Bc he got mad I was going out to the pool without our daughter when he could stay home with her but he didn't o course Bc he wanted to go out himself. It's not the first time he does this to me. He literally chase me down with his car to tell me to get my stuff out the house Bc shit wasn't going to be my way and to take our daughter. I hit rock bottom. I'm done. My Bestfriend doesn't even want to her me out Bc of course it's not the first and asked me how can I be happy with someone like him? And my answer was Bc I'm dumb and stupid. I've gave him practically my all for what?? For nothing. I'm a stay at home mother so i depend on him when it comes to money therefore he feels more of a man. Which has been my biggest mistake of leaving my job. Now, my biggest concern is that he will try to do something to me when he sees me outside enjoying myself as a single women. He has tried to harm before why wouldn't he do it now. Smh.

XO,
A worried emotionally drained wife

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Melissa - posted on 07/02/2013

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I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. My best advice is that I do think you already know what you need to do. When your ready and you have the strength, I would suggest you seek advice from a women's shelter. Also, you should seek support from friends and family members if you can. There are options for you, you just need to be ready. Nobody should have to endure abuse ever, and your child should not be exposed to it either. I really hope things work out for you. Thoughts are with you.

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