i need advice

Jenise - posted on 01/22/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




my childs father n i dnt wanna say but we accidentaly had a babytogether he begged me to have her young n nieve i did he doesnt have a steady job n we need alot of help from our parents. we were together for 2years n he cheated on me. n im not the type of girl to be faithful.....but i was to him his trust with me is gone. but i stayed is been a year now still no income wat should i do?leave or stay?


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Crystalie - posted on 05/10/2015




My honest opinion is you have a young child focus all ur love and attention into the child and your future men are secondary and wait for love to find u don't rush? InTo anything

Jane - posted on 01/26/2010




go with your instincts. you have a child to think about - whether that means you don't feel it's a good environment for her or whether you feel you want her to have her father around. sit down and see what you two can agree upon, you're parents now, you need to bend on a lot of issues and make changes. you will be in one anothers' lives forever now whether you stay or whether you leave. given that, see what you two can work out.

Jenise - posted on 01/25/2010




thanxz everyone! i mean he does great wiyh my daughter n he is great with me but we have our days but i thnk that im jus going to start dating others now n go bk to school if he changes ill let him bk n to my life

Michelle - posted on 01/22/2010




Hi, i was 16 when i found out i was pregnant! i was the my daughter father, so at the time it was a pro! he begged me to keep the baby even tho i was only 16 and was about to start collage. luckly i was working full time and so was he but things soon changed, he changed! the next thing i knew he started to beat me up when pregnant and then he left his job, to slack at home. my family and friends told me to leave him over and over again! but a long story short it was not until i had my baby and after a c section he decided to push me down the stairs! i did not have my baby in my arms thank god! but the next day i left with nothing but my baby! he is a waste of space! if u love someone u would do anything for them and much more if that person was ur child! if he is not supporting u and ur baby then maybe its time to think over what u want for ur self and ur babys in life! this choice can only be made once and can predict where ur life goes? its not easy to make, and because u have a baby it needs time and thought to be put in! in the mean time concentrate on ur baby and urself as that is what matters! if u ever want to talk write back and i will give u my email!

Kelly Louise - posted on 01/22/2010




are you happy? together i mean... is your child happy? that's all you need to ask yourself sweetie....and then make your decision based on that and go for it....kelly

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I think you already know what you should do. You just want to hear someone else say it for you. You are in control of your own destiny and decision making. You are also responsible for the well-being of your beautiful child.

Why would you want someone in your life who is not providing for your child?? What does he bring to the relationship (emotionally, financially, spiritually, parental)?? Does he uplift you? Make you want to do BETTER for yourself and your child?? Push you towards your goals and dreams??

You have the answer. Now you just need the strength to carry out your plan (what ever that may be)! You're going to be just fine (smile).

Tiffany - posted on 01/22/2010




if he isn't contributing then nothing will change if he is gone. you need to surround yourself and your children with positive things. your kids can't do this for themselve, you have to do it for them. the best things are often the hardest to go through with, but trust me... it is worth it. i'm sure that both of your parents would agree (let them know that just because y'all aren't together doesn't mean that the grandparents are forgotten.)

Leanne - posted on 01/22/2010




the only person that can answer that is you, what you need to ask yourself is what reason are you still with him if the reason is for your child thats not a good enough reason if your unhappy children pick up on our emotions,i hope this helps

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