I Need Friends!!!

Brittni - posted on 10/02/2010 ( 71 moms have responded )

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I need friends that are Mothers. I am 23 years old and none of my friends have children yet. I have a 1 year old and would love to develop friendships with other Moms. It is so hard being so young with kids when everyone around you has none :( Anyways, if anyone is feeling the same way I am, please let me know...

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Lucy - posted on 10/03/2010

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well trying being a 39 yr old SAHM and moved to a state where i know no one, i moved from north NJ to Philly about 5 years ago and its hard to met friends being a mom of a 5 and 2 year old helps but it doesn't. people are strange, and i just keep hoping that one nice person will come along and our kids would get along and the husband would actually like her husband....but that's chasing a dream. i have learn that its not going to happen and enjoy the time with the kids, but its hard...

Carolyn - posted on 10/02/2010

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I understand how you feel. I'm 27 and a new mom to a 4 month old. Being a SAHM can be lonely. I recently joined a playgroup that meets once a week and it's nice to have an opportunity to socialize. It's a huge adjustment to stay at home and you need opportunities to be social with other moms who understand what you are going through. Another way to meet other moms is to take your child to library story times. Just look on your local library website for info on dates/times.

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Shannintipton - posted on 09/02/2011

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Hi Jamers, Thanks for your response but this post is a little old so I am going to close it. Feel free to make your own post. Good luck thanks. :)

Jamers - posted on 09/01/2011

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I feel the same way I am 22 with a 2 year old and as soon as i got pregnant mostly all my friends left me :( it hurt my feelings.. friends are suppose to be there for you i thought

Lori - posted on 04/06/2011

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A friend of mine joined stroller strides.. she found a group close to her on the internet. There are tons of these groups out there if you look around.

Kellie - posted on 04/06/2011

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im the same. 23 with a 4 and a half year old. and just moved to a new town. i agree totally that its hard having kids when noone else does. makes things a fair bit harder. if you wanna talk hun, feel free

Kimberly - posted on 04/06/2011

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i am right there with you twenty three years old with a seven month old lol except all my old friends do have kids but i feel they dont deserve them so i choose not to talk to them lol i out grew all my friends trying to make new ones and its not easy i just moved away from town i grew up in a small town of brainerd mn and now i live in baxter which there is nothing but a cub foods in a ten mile radias lol

Bri - posted on 04/06/2011

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Hey Brittni! I understand you completely! I'm 22 with a 1 & 1/2 year old, & have lived in shreveport for almost 2 years. I don't have many friends here, & of the ones that i do, none of them have any kids! I am a full time stay at home mom. I don't work or go to school or anything so i'm kinda lonely sometimes during the day while my husband is working, & it would be nice to meet another young mom!

Rachel - posted on 10/08/2010

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hiya my friends have children but i dont c them very often so im on my own and dont know any one in the area i live, :)

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You, or anyone who likes to chat, can contact me. I keep my messenger turned on while in class during the day, and after my children are in bed it's on as well while I grade papers, etc.

Melissa - posted on 10/08/2010

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I feel ya..Im 34 with no friends. My friends with kids live out of state. I actually lost the friends I did have before having my son. I have just recently joined a moms group and a chruch group where I hope to make friends....good luck ...enjoy time with your baby right now and the right people will sonn come into your life! hugs aswell!

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Tabitha, I have a friend who lost her baby in childbirth at age 17. Her doctor said there was so much scarring, etc., that she would never have another child. After marrying her 4th husband and returning to church, her life became very stable. Eighteen years after losing her first daughter, she gave birth to a boy, 2 years later a girl. Life is funny sometimes.'

Hugs to you, lisanow2003 on yahoo messenger. say hi

Tabitha - posted on 10/08/2010

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No. The boys are my step children that I have raised for 15 years. I was not suppost to have children and God decided to bless me in that area. I think it was because we payed our cars off then bought a house. When we did that I became pregnant...lol imagine that... I think he was waiting for us to be more stable... I would not change anything though... Hugs to you as well

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For whatever it's worth, I enjoy making friends from the Circle of Moms. I have two children of my own, Erica who is 7 and Mason, who turned 10 today (October 8th, 2010). I am nearly always on my computer during the day while at school where I teach, and quite a bit in the evenings. Feel free to say hello (EVERYONE) if you use yahoo messenger. I am lisanow2003 on YIM. Thanks, Lisa

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Wow Tabitha, such a huge difference in ages of your children. Is that a result of a second marriage? Good to know that I'm not the only 30+ year old mom on here! Hugs to you.

Katie - posted on 10/07/2010

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Oh honey I feel the same way as you! I'm 23 and my son is almost 11 months and most of my friends don't have kids either. To make matters worse, we moved away so now i have NO one but my son and fiance and I'm a stay at home mom so I don't ever get out to meet anyone either! If you need a friend, I'm here! :)

Kelly - posted on 10/07/2010

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I knwo how you feel. I was single and 23 when I had my first one, and it seems like my friends disappered. I am now 32 and back with my son's father, but now we have a blended family of 5 kids and my grouchy cat. I am best friends with my husband, but I do not have any other friends. I miss that connection of close girl friend, but I just dont have the time. Keep you head up, look up maybe some Mommy and Me playdates. Friends happen when the timing is right.

Tabitha - posted on 10/07/2010

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Well, talk about having no friends. I am 36 years old with a 18 year old, 16 year old and now a 1 year old. All my friends are watching their kids graduate and going to work everyday while I sit at home and tend to a 1 year old. A majority of my so called friends have vanished because I can no longer go to casinos or out because I have a 1 year ol. BUT that is okay because I dont think I would have it any other way. Good luck to you and if you have not noticed you have several people here on Moms that would love to be your friend...

RicaMarie - posted on 10/07/2010

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your more then welcome to be my friend. i am 32 yrs old and have an 11 1/2 yr old son. i have been threw 3 marriages and now am in a loving happy relationship the best i could ever ask for. i know what its like to be a young mother ( even an old one) and not have any friends. cause im in the same boat i dont have any friends. i just keep to myself. so if you need advice or just someone to talk to feel free dear im always around somewhere.

Holly - posted on 10/07/2010

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i know how you feel when i had my first i was only 16 and all my mates thought i was crazy! i didnt fit in with then anymore either and other the my partener i had nobody to talk to i know that it seems a long way away but as soon as the children starts nursay and school you start making friends again ones in which you have more in common with.

Christina - posted on 10/07/2010

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yea I know that feeling. I am about to be 22 in December and I have 2 boys. I moved to a new county and dont know anyone around here. I joined a mommy group in my area but havent seen any playdates posted yet. you can add me to your circle if you'd like :)

Erin - posted on 10/07/2010

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Well, I am 35 with two children ages 4 and 5 and I am also finding that I have a limited number of friends and it makes me sad at times.
All my friends, even though they have kids, are still going to bars, hanging out and doing all of the things that I did in my 20s before I had kids. That life does not interest me any more. I just like to have people to talk to who can be objective if I need them to be or just listen if that is the case
You are not alone!!!

Christine - posted on 10/07/2010

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definetely except its been closer to three years now. im only 22 i and i feel like a social outkast now and it didnt used to be that way my old "friends" just get weird and never come over anymore so i know how you feel. And my daughter is so good around other kids. just no playdates.

Mandy - posted on 10/07/2010

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Hey I'm eighteen, have an eleven month old daughter, and feel exactly the same way, and am on FB if you need me!

Beatriz - posted on 10/07/2010

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im 22 with two kids i have friends close to my age that have kids but they don't leave close to me. so if you ever need to talk im right here :)

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I am a bit older than you are Brittni, but I understan the need for friends. My lover/partner passed away in March of this year, and my life has changed drastically as a result. I have my own two children, her child and a full time job as a school teacher. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed. If you'd like to chat, I am on Yahoo Messenger as well as here - lisanow2003 on YIM. Hugs toyou.

Terrill - posted on 10/06/2010

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It might be beneficial for people to write where they are from and that way we might be able to form some play-groups if people are located near each other. I know it can be hard to locate random playgroups in and around your areas so this might be a good starting point! I live in England btw:)

Amy - posted on 10/06/2010

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I know how you feel too!!! I am 21. I have a 17 month old daughter and my son is due in November. All my friends are still partying and being young. I am going to college online and I am a stay at home mom. I would love for people to come visit me at my house, but no one seems to have the time. They are all to busy still being young. Dont get me wrong, I love my life with my kids, but it would SOOO be nice to have friends that are moms and be able to hang out with them. My fiance works all day long so i dont even get to spend much time with him.. I hope we can all find someone to share everyday with and still get to have some girl time and some fun!

Elizabeth - posted on 10/06/2010

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oh trust me when i had my first child i lost alllllll my firend they didnt want to hang out or come over bc i had kids and they didnt i dont really have many friend most are family members...lol...so i hear ya there hun if u want u can email me

Lisa - posted on 10/06/2010

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I'm 24 years old. I live in Michigan. I have 4 kids, twin girls that are 5, a 2 yr old girl, and a 1 yr old boy. I'm currently pregnant with my second set of twins. I'm going through a divorce and would love to have more friends!

Kelli - posted on 10/06/2010

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I do not have any friends with babies either. I am 36 with a 17yr, 13yr and a 10month old. So I am alone alot

Amanda - posted on 10/05/2010

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Hello. In a way i know how you feel. I do have friends that have kids but I recently moved about 4 and a half hours away and I don't know anyone here. If you need you need some advice on anything I will try to help best I can. My daughter is almost 2. I hope it gets better for. I'm sure it will. Be possitive. One of the things that might help is if you can find things for you child to do in your area. That way you can meet other moms.

Angie - posted on 10/05/2010

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Omg you are sooooo not alone. I left all my fam and friends when I got married so I am even more lonely. Since I moved I find it hard to find friends since the people my age don't have kids and the ones that do are too old. I don't have a problem with age but they do. Someone recommended that I join a mom group in the community. I personally didn't get anything out of it but it might work for you. If not don't worry we are all here to help.

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I understand exactly how you feel Brittni. I'm 21 and I have a 15 month old daughter. I'm here if you ever need some one to talk to. Feel free to add me to your circle if you'd like.

Melissa

Elysia - posted on 10/05/2010

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try a playgroup or parents group. this is a great way of meeting people that are in the exact same situation as you. good luck

Carmen - posted on 10/05/2010

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when i was pregnant my friends and my fiances friends came around but now that hes here no one comes around. so i know what ya mean.but it doesnt bother me as much now. im enjoying all the time ihave with my son. plus everyone i know smokes and i dont want my son around the smoke. i care more abou this health than i do hangin with them. sure wish i could find some parents like that=)

Sheryl - posted on 10/05/2010

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my kids and i are older than you, but i know how you feel. my kids are going to be 8 and 9 next month, so they are in school all day. they are riding the bus this year, so i don't even see anyone most days. it does get lonely. i've started going to the y--that's an option for you, they usualy have babysitting so you can take your baby with you. anyway, you can add me as your friend if you'd like

Tressa - posted on 10/05/2010

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I hear you dear. I am 25 with 2 girls and married. Not typical with my group of friends.. Well.. we moved to so i dont know anyone. To make u feel better :) 6 months and 5 years old.

Ashley - posted on 10/05/2010

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I know exactly how you feel! Im 22, my daughter is 6 months old. I use to have a ton of friends, but not so much anymore. a few of my friends do have children but were all so busy that we never see each other & sometimes go months without even talking. You can message me on here or on facebook if you ever just need some adult conversation, I know how exhausted and repetitive baby talk can get lol :)

Kimberly - posted on 10/05/2010

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i know how you feel. i am a mother of a 8 month old and i am 23... I need friends so i can talk to

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I sent you a circle request. I have two boys 2 1/2 and 6 months. I'm a SAHM and full-time college student. So I'm here if you want to chat, vent, need advice, or whatever. :)

Toni - posted on 10/05/2010

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Hay Brittney, find a playgroup in your area, that helps a lot. Usually everyone is very open and wants to talk. Try to go out with your friends for coffee, have them come over when he is napping, talk on the phone to some one once a day, that bring you mood up and helps. My husband goes out of town for work and it helps if I phone someone to talk for a while, (to an adult).

Stephanie - posted on 10/05/2010

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I can totally relate. I am also 23 with an almost 23 month old and a 10 month old. I don't have friends because I had to stop going to college from complications from my first. Your "single" friends stop showing up when you get married, that or when you get pregnant...

Laura - posted on 10/05/2010

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Im not young (28), but moved to a new state, & i dont go anywhere as we only have 1 car right now.My daughter is 15 months & she is who i hang out with every hour of everyday. I love her to death & love being with her, but sometimes its nice to have another mom to relate with. So I know how you feel. The friends ive made down here have kids much older then mine, so sometimes i feel as i started late. There are so many of us out here that feel the same way. It sucks sometimes not to have some people to interact with that aren't our kids.

Tiziana - posted on 10/04/2010

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I know how you feel. I'm older than you but it's the same no matter how old you are, and in my situation I just moved to a different state with my hubby and 10 month old little boy and left all my family. And the worst part is that I don't have a car so I'm not able to join any groups or have opportunities to meet people, so I spend all day home with my little angel waiting for my husband to come home for some adult interection but most times he's to tired to talk.

Laura - posted on 10/04/2010

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Hi Brittny. I'm not as young as you are (I'm 33) but I just changed not only city, but country so you can imagine that I know how you feel. My advice is that you should start going to some activities with your baby like Gymboree, or look for parenting lessons, the library, etc. There you're going to meet people around your age that are in the same line. Good luck and you can add me to your circle too. Bye

Jackie - posted on 10/04/2010

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hi, im jackie, im 25 and mum to 4. i know what you mean i find it hard to make friends. one of mine is a primary school and yet i still can't seem to make friends (they all seemed to all be friends before their kids started). feel free to add me to facebook. that goes for anyone else on here that would like to chat :-)

Loni - posted on 10/04/2010

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I was 21 when I had my first child now I'm 35 with 4 boys. Yes I agree it is hard to be young with kids. We can be friends

Shannon - posted on 10/04/2010

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Hey Brittni, I started young as well I was 21 when I had my first and I am now going on 33 in a few days and no one want to be around they were to busy anyway I am a mother of 5 boys and yes they keep me busy but I know what it's like to feel like theres no one around and it's hard but I have found thats mums on the internet here help keep each other going and I know it's not the same because moth of them are not close by. I am in alberta in a very small villiage and I just moved here so im still new but I am glad for mums on here. Thanks al you mums out there.

Kymberly - posted on 10/04/2010

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Hi Brittni! My name is Kym. I'm almost 21 and I have a 1 year old daughter named Harmony and I'm expecting number two :D Add me to your circle if you want and we can chat whenever...I feel like i'm in the same boat. Most of my friends don't have kids and they can't understand where I'm coming from half the time! :D

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