I need help... Please

Cristina - posted on 03/11/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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im a single mother of a beautiful daughter named daniella. i had her when i was 16, i was drunk and i had a one night stand ,with her dad imet him that night .. i dont even remember his first name... i dont know anything about him and after that night weve lost contact.. i was with my first love around that time we were together for 4 years, i told him i cheated and my baby might not be his weve gotten past it but never had a dna test but i know my daughter isnt his because my baby is black and hes spanish and the times in my pregancy makes nine months from the one night stand so i know it isnt his we both know it, and hes been her father for about two years afterwards and still loved her UNTIL we broke up we never got a dna test though. .. i know wat ur thinking i was sooooooo stupid I KNOW ;( i was soo young and stupid and carefree !! i made one mistake and my daughter has to deal with it forever its makes me feel like trash !! ive learned from it it and its sucks i can never take it back ! ;( i was up crying all lastnight still havent slept wondering.... HOW WILL I TELL MY DAUGHTER ???? will she hate me forever????

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Aubrey - posted on 03/11/2013

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Of course she won't hate you. I was a single mom for awhile. I had my first son at 18. His dad left to go into the marines and so I was on my own. he was too scared. I'm not with him anymore. My son knows he is loved. He knows he is special and he knows he was not a mistake. You're little girl is the same. She is loved and is special and as long as you show/tell her that, I'm sure, when she's old enough, that she will understand. I might say something along the lines of, Even though I was really young, and made some stupid mistakes and the way I went about it was all wrong, YOU are not a mistake. and I am so blessed to have you in my life.
My son changed me for the better and I am so grateful for that. As long as she knows that, I think it'll be okay.
God Bless.

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Minaxi - posted on 03/13/2013

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may b it will b hard for her to understand and accept but...definetly she wont hate you....as u love her a lot ...but giv her time ....n let her knw hw much u care and love her...:)

Aleksandra - posted on 03/12/2013

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there is still time to get a dna test bec you dont want grow up be 18 yrs age not knowing how her dad , there lot place that have dna centers help singel mom ...

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