I need help potty training my 3 year old! he wants nothing to do with the potty at all any advice?

Elizabeth - posted on 04/16/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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my 3 year old son will not go to the potty he cries because he wants a diaper i have two younger children and im thinking he sees them in diapers so he wants to stay in diapers. i can get him to go sometimes but most of the time he will get mad and cry

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Cheryl - posted on 04/21/2010

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i dont think they are going to look in the potty.IT work for my daughter but she was 19 months old.It will work for her with her son

Preeti - posted on 04/21/2010

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with my sons,it really worked well as i sang with them rhymes n songs n telling them stories there.........just to distract them where they were n believe me it worked

Heidi - posted on 04/21/2010

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Hi, lots of good advice here and i agree with no stress, kids do things in there own time. I found with one of mine that they hated the potty especially when they looked in it after! He went straight on the big boys toilet, The big kids pants work well too when they see you love how grown up they are, best with their favourite character on then, wouldn't want to wee on Thomas the Tank Engine!
Good luck.

Anna - posted on 04/19/2010

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I am a mom of four and my third gave me the hardest time. He is now 3 years and 8 months and is potty trained, number 1 and number 2 and is dry at night. I stressed when he wouldn't go when we started at age 3 and then tried again a couple of months later and still a no go. I let him go four a few more months and threw out the diapers and pullups and put on the undies. First two days were messy but never got angry and just changed him and moved on. Third day he asked to go once and the fourth day he did all his peepee-ing in the potty and then on the fifth day actually did potty. No stress and mommy doing a peepee dance every time he went successfully. No pressure and it will come.

Cheryl - posted on 04/18/2010

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Never force a kid to go the potty or what you can do like i did with my daughter i put on a potty tape have the potty in your living room let him watch it and sing with him.

Andria - posted on 04/18/2010

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I had a lot of help potty training my oldest who is 5 now. Her babysitter was great with her, and I know that it may sound like I got out of it easy, but I didn't. I had to keep it up at home. It was hard. But try a sticker chart. When he uses the potty let him put a sticker on it, or even when he sits on the potty for a certain amount of time. It does work. I have also found out that getting the simple potties that don't do anything are boring and my oldest had a hard time using it. She didn't like it. But then I got one that made noise when she actually went potty in it, she loved it. She wanted it to make noise so she started going potty in it. It sounds crazy, but it does work.

Leah - posted on 04/18/2010

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i have found with all my kids to not stress it. have the potty out. see you using the toilet. he will get it. I thought my dd wouldn't ever potty train. she turned 4 and she wouldn't go. we had a time limit as she is starting jr K in the fall. and then she just caught it. when i put her in undies and saw she stayed dry cuz she was in undies but then pull ups she peed in. when i put her in a pull up one night but she didn't know it, she stayed dry all nite and woke up to dancing saying she had to pee but cuz she thought she was in undies she didn't go. that was they day we stopped with pull ups. she has been dry since. still having a win lose with poop. but i waited till she was ready. no fuss no muss and no accidents (well there have been night time ones but that was cuz i couldn't put her potty in the upstairs toilet due to needing a gate.

Heather - posted on 04/17/2010

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I totally agree that if your little one seems stressed out or has signs of anxiety regarding potty training, it's best to just lay off for a little while, even just a couple weeks. We did that with my son a couple of times. Also, we found that making a huge "fuss" over ANY potty successes was more important to him than getting a treat. We kept the treat system in place, but we'd call close relatives or friends to tell them the "great news" about how he went on the potty. Even if there was a bit of an accident, we just talked up the fact that he was wearing undies and praised him for letting us know he had to go (even if it was literally as he began to wet himself). We had to downplay any negativity at all and focus on the "little victories." Just to warn you though, the ONLY way that worked for us was to go cold turkey, NO MORE diapers. We tried pull ups & wasted a lot of $. It doesn't take them long to figure out a pull up is the same as a diaper, you make a mess in it & someone will change it. No big deal. Once we made the decision to really get into potty training, we had to remove the diapers so WE wouldn't fall back on them. To warn you, you will need at LEAST 10 pairs of undies on hand. I was changing undies & pants many times those first 2 days, throwing them in the washer/dryer as I went to keep up a clean supply. I didn't punish at all for accidents, just took him to the potty (explaining this is where we need to go), had him sit on the seat & calmly explained that he'd have to wait for me while I got him new undies & pants. He didn't like having to take time out from his playing for these frequent clothing changes. Once he was making more of an intentional effort to tell us he had to go/ask to go potty we started giving rewards for having dry undies when we got to the bathroom. He'd run in & as he was going potty he'd be searching his undies "No drips!" he'd yell excitedly. We'd make a fuss & he'd get a treat once he'd flushed/washed hands. When you get to worrying about going BM, that's a whole nother issue (at least it was for my son) & I could write a post just as long telling u how we managed that ;) hope this was helpful, sorry so disorganized

Yara - posted on 04/17/2010

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Buy him some cloth underwear and let him walk around the house in them; even if he has an accident, tell him how proud you are he is wearing them. Introduce the potty in a fun manner. Have his favorite toys around (even music?), let him sit as long as he wants. The point is to make bathroom use a pleasant and relaxing experience. Good Luck!

Nicole - posted on 04/17/2010

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He seems stressed maybe drop it for awhile with 2 little ones he may be alittle overwhelmed right now? I did m&m's everytime you pee. Poop can be tougher bc some kids do not like to see the poop go down. Mine did not bc we would say see you later bc they would do it again. GOOD LUCK!! Just remember you do not see Kindergarteners in diapers.

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Have you tried big boys get special treats that little ones can't get ? Tell him if the poo is in tthe potty he can have something only big boys get . You can work this with a rewards chart (visual). My eldest loved it when she did a poo in the potty so she could flush it away down the toilet and watch . Only draw back to this was she tried to flush eveerthing down there and blocked it up.

Corina - posted on 04/16/2010

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Have you tried rewarding him or putting some music on and try making a game out of it

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