I need help with a 3yr old son

Brianna - posted on 10/08/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son is so out of control I do not know what to do any more all thedoctor tells me to do is time outs and all I have to say is they do not work at all he will do them now like they are just a game it does not even phase him any more he is so naughty he will just walk by his little brother and push him or hit him for no reason and he evn does it to his older sister and me the other day I got yell at when we wher at walmart cuz my son threw the biggest temper tantrum and some one told me to shut my kid up I was so embarassed he gets in to things he is not suppose to I will either lock that stuff up or put it out of reach and I swear he will allways find some way to get at it. Please help me I dont know what to do anymore.

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Jane - posted on 10/09/2009

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3 year olds can be a handful! My oldest son was great until he turned 3 then all hell broke loose. He wouldn't listen, he was into everything he wasn't supposed to be, he would say nasty words & hit me ect. Sometimes my husband would come home & I would have to go for a ride or walk just to get away for a while. My friends even started helping me out 'cause he just seemed uncontrollable & they thought maybe he would listen to them. I kept up w/ time outs & tooks things away & always followed thru on EVERY threat. I was embarressed to even take him out in public or have grandparents babysit. You'll be happy to know that by the time he turned 4 he was back to being a good boy except for the "normal" 4 yr old bad behavior. It's not the terrible 2's it's the terrible 3's. I don't think every child that misbehaves has ADHD or there is something mentally wrong with them, sometimes they just need some extra guidance & disipline. 3 year olds like to see how far they can push their limits so stand your ground & always try to follow thru. Good luck!

Leslie - posted on 10/08/2009

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i agree with Brenda. i had the same problems with my son and a lot more. The doc told me not to worry hed grow out of it. I went to the local mental health center for kids and found out he was ADHD. few years later they said he was ODD. I still have problems with him but nothing like i use to.

LISA - posted on 10/08/2009

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that sounds like my little boy- who's 4 now, he is into everything form 6am-8pm and he only just started sleeping all night. what i've found is if he is kept busy- going for walks, painting, helping me do stuff or burning energy at the adventure play places he's so much better- and if he doesnt behave i ban him fro doing those things and because he likes it so much now he has started behaving better. i sooooo hope u find something that works bcoz i know exactly how bad it is. good luck!!!!

Erica - posted on 10/08/2009

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I agree with Brenda,see a child behavior specailist. I had to do the same with my son when he was four to help us with his adhd. It really helps.

Brenda - posted on 10/08/2009

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Oh, and people in walmart should mind their own business. That was incredibly rude.

Brenda - posted on 10/08/2009

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If you are having this much difficulty, and time outs are not working, to be honest I would see a counselor or behavior therapist. (I'm a graduate counseling student, so I suggest it a lot, but I notice not many people suggest it). It is not as expensive as you might fear, and if you go to psychologytoday.com there are plenty of reputable ones in every area listed.



Other than that, with three year olds, they are still in the "terrible two" stage, the two doesn't mean two years old, you know, it means it lasts two years. My thinking is you may need a positive reinforcement regiminet with him instead of punishment. Punishment doesn't work for all children and other forms of dicipline might be needed, but I would seek out a counselor to help you with this, because childhood is not my specialty.

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