I need help with my 8 mo sleeping issues!!!

Marya - posted on 12/09/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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my 8 mo old all of sudden does not want to sleep at night & it is driving me to cry nightly. She goes down at 830 like clock work then wakes up every 2 hours all night long. This has just started in the last 3 weeks & I need it to stop so I can sleep & also give my 2.5 yr old attention. I let her cry like they say & she is so damn stubborn she will honestly cry for hours on end until I go in and pick her up and rerock her to sleep. If I give in and put her in her swing she will only wake up 1 time a night. ALL help would greatly be appreciated, I am not enjoying being a mo right now & hate myself for feeling this way!

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Marya - posted on 12/10/2009

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well we sent to the doctor today and her ears are clear and the doctor does not knwo what else to suggest. She gave me some donatussin to give her before bed to see if would help keep the drainage flowing to her stomach easier she has no infections but has a ton of drainage. So we will see how tonight goes she has so far been down since 730. ill just keep praying thanks everyone for all of the encouragement and suggestions. the doctor says she has never had a child liek her that will cry for hours and not get tired:}

Janet - posted on 12/10/2009

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I would recommend that you do that. She may even have a little bit of fluid in her ears from the infection that is causing her discomfort. Talk to your doctor as well about the effects of the motrin, he/she may recommend another type of pain reliever for you to use. (I had to use a different type for all 3 of my children, for the same reason)

Marya - posted on 12/10/2009

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thanks i gave last night at 11 and put her in her swing and she slept until 4am when she took a bottle and put ehr in her crib. She just loves the movement of the swing but she is getting to big for it and i do not want to start that habit. I use the swing when she is sick and cant breath and its great for that becasue she sleeps, I think i am going to call the doctor and ask them to check out her sinuses I am beginning to wonder if she cant breath as good flat compared to upright that is the only comman denominator at this point.

Natasha - posted on 12/10/2009

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Aww you poor thing! I can't really give you any advise but just wanna let you know that you don't have to feel bad about how you are feeling! It is completely normal! My son did something like this when he was 3-6 weeks old. But he would hardly sleep at all he only screamed all night! And then started during the day too! (took 3 weeks to figure out i was running out of milk and the poor buba was hungry!) I think i felt a lot like you do now! I was on the verge of PND and just couldn't stop crying. It is so hard to be a mum sometimes! I hope that you can figure out a way to get your daughter to sleep through the night again! All the best! xxx

Marya - posted on 12/10/2009

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this has only started in the last week. She just got over a double ear infection due to cutting her 2nd tooth. Motrin wires her all up. I rock her until she she is groggy then lay her down for naps & bedtime like I did my son. I dont mind that she gets up around 4 to take a bottle my son did this until he was 19 mo due to being hungry. But she is not going to bed at night now. I have tried shorter naps during the day so see if that would help....No it didnt & Ive only recently tried letting her take as long of naps as she needs...per the experts. She does not see me cry its usually when i am out in the living room waiting for her to go to sleep trying to get myself confidence back. I have tried going in every 15 min like they say console her then walk out. adn streaching out time between consoling, but she will cry for hours it does not seem to wear her out. After 4holrus straight of non stop crying I give in due to self sanity. She acts liek she can not get confortable in my arms of late.& turns her self around to sit up leaning against me but that gives the same motion of the swing then. I am so tired & frustrated that I am not enjoying her of late that I am shipping her to grams/gramps this weekend for my first break since she has been born.She is the most stubbron child I have ever met.

Janet - posted on 12/09/2009

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First of all hugs to you. Its hard being a mom. I wonder if while she is in her swing if there is any noise. Either the swing or if you are watching TV while you try to get her to calm down? You might want to think about trying a little noise machine, I think you can buy them anywhere, Walmart, Zellers, London Drugs. Try turning it on to a calming noise, not too loud but enough that she can hear it. Then over a period of time start to slowly turn it down, until it is no longer needed.

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yeah i agree with renae.. we let our boys cio at 3-4 mos.. we would put them down.. swaddle if they liked then put them down and walk away.. we didnt go back in that felt more torturous to us and them lol. only took 4-5 nights now they sleep in same room, 2 and 1 yr olds.. from 7-7ish.. love bedtime and know what it means when we say night night

Renae - posted on 12/09/2009

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So this started only recently is that right? Do you help her to go to sleep at bedtime? ie. are you with her while she goes to sleep?



25% of babies who have their parents with them when they go to sleep suddenly stop being able to go to sleep and start waking at night between 5 and 12 mo. They usually start to wake every 1.5 hours. If this is what is happening, you can either wait it out, there is a greater than 60% chance she will go back to normal within 1-3 months on her own (also 40% chance she wont). Or you can teach her to go to sleep on her own. By going to sleep on her own she will automatically sleep longer at night, noone knows why, that's just how it works.



The reason she sleeps in the swing is because if you watch her, she is probably still waking but the swing puts her back to sleep before she fully wakes up and cries. That one time she is waking she is probably hungry. A few babies still need one feed a night at 8mo.



To teach her to go to sleep and sleep through the night you have several options. No-cry methods and crying methods. Crying methods are most effective, have higher success rates and work quickly. No cry methods are gentle and require some time and patience. You say you have let her cry, but did she cry to sleep at the start of the night? It wont work if you only do it during the night, infact it will make it worse and cause her a lot of distress (as you have found).



If you use a crying method I recommend you use crying it out with cry interpretation. I am not an advocate of control crying or any method where you go in and check on them as each time you go into them, you must leave again, and when you leave they go through the initial distress of being left all over again and it makes the baby more and more distressed. If you use a crying method and leave her to figure out she is supposed to go to sleep and do some research on cry interpretation and listen to her cries so that you know if she needs you, you can cry it out without distressing your baby. This method is very effective and is usually not nearly as bad as mum's expected.



The most common no-cry option is gradual withdrawal. This is where you gradually withdraw the baby from needing your help to go to sleep. This has an 80% success rate and takes 2-4 weeks.



Another no-cry method is that of UK baby whisperer Tracey Hogg, called Pick-up/Put-down. She has a website with a support forum for people using the method.



There is lots of info out there if you google any of the above methods. You are also more than welcome to contact me for info or instructions on anything I have said (if I include it all this post will be too long).

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