I need some help... seriously...

Kristen - posted on 09/17/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




Before I met my husband I was a single mother and worked as a CNA and a manager at a Hair Salon. After I met my husband and got married we found out I was pregnant. I was very sick during this pregnancy and was actually told I wouldn't have kids because of an infection previously... needless to say me being a stay at home (as I am sure you all know) is a very thankless job. I am not used to it at all!!!! As a CNA instant gratification.... a hairstylist 9 times out of 10 instant gratification. Does anyone else feel this way or is it just me?!? If so, does it go away? any ideas on what I can do for me so i dont just feel like a maid and child care provider lol... I mean this is what I have always wanted to be home with my kids but now I just feel so un appreciated or something.... I don't mean to be so whiney but just curious if I am alone?!?!?!?


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Beth - posted on 09/17/2009




You are not alone. I always wanted to have kids and stay home with them. My husband and I got married and the very quickly found out we were expecting. I got sick during the pregnancy and had to quit working and going to school. The isolation nearly killed me then and I got pretty depressed with all the new change and no control over anything. After our girl was born I was happy to have her of course but the depression lasted and has really taken a toll on us. I get what you mean about feeling unappreciated. It's all about redefining yourself but also understanding that you are always going to be more than a mum or a housewife. You are a whole, capable person with an incredible opportunity to invest all you are in someone's life. There are days when you need to get out of the house. I strongly recommend joining a mothers' group or a play group, getting out to the gym, joining a book club or just making sure that at least a few hours a week are just yours. Breaking the isolation will help greatly. You are appreciated but talk to your husband about how you feel. It will help him understand and hopefully be more supportive in caring for your child so you can get some space occassionally.

Mandy - posted on 09/17/2009




i find i have to force myself to get out of the house, go to playgroup, meet friends. just get out of the house. the housework can wait.

Erin - posted on 09/17/2009




I have been a SAHM for a little over 2 years. I have a one year old son and a two year old daughter. I still feel that way sometimes. I have found that at the end of the day, what makes e feel appreciated is me. I know the hard work I put into the day to keep the kids safe, happy, and fed and keep my sanity. I love my job as mom and wouldn't trade a day, but the other half usually has no idea (even if the think they do) how hard this is day after day. Know that your kids will apprecviate what you do someday. talk about delayed gratification. hope it help:)

Melissa - posted on 09/17/2009




It took me awhile to adjust to being a SAHM. In fact I went ahead and worked PT. What would help me is have some girl time w/o the little one.

Kerri - posted on 09/17/2009




I went through the same thing, I have be home for a little over 3 months now, and now find plenty of things to keep me busy and satisfied. I try to make sure the housework is done, dinner is made, and have some me time, too. You just have to realize that you hve a new priority and that is taking care of your child, your home is your job, and your child and your husband appreciate you!!

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