I WANT ANOTHER BABY

Eliza - posted on 11/14/2009 ( 57 moms have responded )

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I WANT ANOTHER BABY BUT EVERYONE THINKS IT TO SOON. MY SON WILL B 1 ON CHRISTMAS AND IM JUST MISS BEINNG PREGNANT AND THAT NEW BABY MOMENT. IS THIS A GOOD REASON TO HAVE ANOTHER BABY OR DO I SOUND CRAZY?

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i have a 1 1/2 month old son and i too miss being pregnant ---- it is up to you and you and you hubby manly yourself since you are the one that will be pregnant and having the baby --- they are a BLESSING YES i think if you can why not THUMBS UP TO U
i have 6 myself

Shauna - posted on 11/15/2009

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You are not crazy at all. i felt like that for a while.. my son will be 16 months and i am pregnant with my 2nd. This ones due exactly one month before my son turns 2. but i agree that you should think about if youre really ready, can you afford it, is your home life stable? before you get pregnant again. just my opinion.. all in all, its up to you and your husband! Good luck!

Misty - posted on 11/15/2009

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and 'cuz i miss being pregnant and that new baby moment' are NOT good reasons. u need to be physically, emotionally, financially ready for another child

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I had my daughter on 2-8-07 and my 6 wk checkup was 3-22-07. By my sons birth date, I conceived him on 3-25-07. He was born on 12-26-07. I personally wanted to have my children 2 years apart - there are alot of reasons my son was born so close to my daughter, but i will say this. When my son was first born - it was extremely hard. 2 babies (my daughter was only 10 months) to change first thing in the morning, 2 babies to make bottles for, 2 babies period. it was pretty much equivalent to having twins. Now my daughter is almost 3, my son almost 2 and they fight constantly... i have to have 2 of everything cuz if i dont, they will fight over it... my kids also do this 'my mommy' thing... if im holding my son or daughter the other will come up and scream... 'my mommy'... it is hard at times and it is quite a challenge but looking back, i wouldnt change it now... it also depends on if you have the financial capability to take care of 2 babies at once. i am potty training 2 at once right now, and diapers are so expensive as well. i guess its really a personal decision in the end but i agree with above repliers... u dont get the 'one on one' time with ur older one and the younger one will be 'gypped' due to having an older sibling so close that will still need ur attention. 






 





Ashley - posted on 11/15/2009

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CRAZY lol i have two my oldest was 2 and it was to soon for me and more money not to mention i actually sweet now runnin after them!

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Ashley - posted on 11/21/2009

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You're not crazy! My oldest daughter was just under a year and a half when I got pregnant with my second daughter. There's nothing wrong with it at all as long as you have the finances and patience to have another. It's definitly not cheap with two kids in diapers, but definitly doable! Good Luck!

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You don't sound craazy to me. My mom had 15 kids. Some of them were less than a year apart. I had a GREAT childhood.

Jocelyn - posted on 11/20/2009

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My daughter was 15 months old when I got pregnant with my son...They are now 10 and 8 years old...best thing I did was to have them pretty close together. They grow up closer too. I also loved being pregnant...and Labor and Breastfeeding....enjoy it while you have the chance to Get pregnant...you never know when that will change.

Laura - posted on 11/20/2009

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maybe wait it be good for you to find yourself again if you know what i mean enjoy abit of me time and say another six months after that you want another fair enongh

Shelby - posted on 11/20/2009

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go ahead and just do it if thats what you want.i had a baby the last day of january and another that dec and yet another 20 months later.kids are great:)

Marya - posted on 11/19/2009

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my daughter is 7 mo old and i have the same feeling. my husband says were done but i am hopeing god will bless me one more time. i think it is a normal reaction at least that is what my doctor says.

Brittany - posted on 11/19/2009

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If you and your spouse can handle it I see nothing wrong with having another baby. But, would it be ok for your one year old? Or does he stilll need you full time?

Katie - posted on 11/19/2009

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i have got a daughter that turned 3 on 7th ov this mth and i got pregnant when she was 1, lost it, got pregnant again a mth after tht and it was a phantom pregnancy, then i fell pregnant with my son in february 2008 and had him nov, he turns 1 on 28th this mth, and i am currently 10wks pregnant with my 3rd baby, had my scan yesterday and everything is fine :o) xx

Bridgie - posted on 11/19/2009

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I do 2 but we afraqid as I had hiperimises which worries us both dat i may have again,but we have been trying since last december and no look yet,will be nice 4 little man he 20mths now and give him a friend also hopefully

Prudence - posted on 11/18/2009

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Your not crazy, my two boys are 21 months apart which is a nice gap. My 1st son was 1yr and 1 day when I fell pregnant for a 2nd time. Having two boys meant I saved on clothes as a kept everything from my first son. Yes nappies can get expensive but having found out what i was having early on I was able to prepare and buy nappies on special (my 1st son is almost 2 & a 1/2 and have never paid full price for nappies).

They are growing up to bve the best of buddies, with the little one only having eyes for his big brother and finds everything his big brother does very funny.

I have 2 other friemds with children that are 14 and 15mths apart and that is absolute craziness to me. There are times when things can get a little crazy in our house but that is usually meal & bath time but I'm sure that's the same anywhere with any age children. I'm a pretty organised person so I don't find myself getting caught out in craziness very oftern.

Good luck with your decision and plans for another baby.

Holly - posted on 11/18/2009

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i have two sons, and they are 364 days apart so my oldest was 3 months when i fell pregnant with my second. Im not going to lie, it is dam hard work having two so young but i wouldnt change it for the world. now that they are 1 and 2, both walking and causing havoc together, seeing the bond between them is the best thing in the world!

Patricia - posted on 11/18/2009

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Eliza, If you want to have another child and you can afford it...I say go for it.

I have one daughter that I absolutley adore. I am unable to have any more children but would have had 3 more if I could.

JENNIFER - posted on 11/18/2009

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I know that feeling, but God has his plan for everything. My husband and I had our son in 2004 and have been trying for our 2nd since 2005 and no success. It doesn't matter what others think just what you and your spouse have decided.

Crystal - posted on 11/18/2009

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I would say wait to try to get pregnant untill your son hit at least 14 months...my son is now 17 months and im 15 weeks pregnant.

Cleo - posted on 11/17/2009

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I don't think you should become pregnant because you miss being pregnant but because you want another baby to share your love with and and so that your son can have another brother or sister. pray about it first.

Kelly - posted on 11/17/2009

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While all ggs bubbies grow up and we have to be ready to handle kids, not just babies; I know I personally had already hoped to try for our second once our little girl is 1 (still a while away yet as my littlie is only 3mths, hehe). ...I personally loved my childhood experience having a sibbling so close in age, though I'm sure there's probably other parents who may have not had such good experiences. So my answer is: I'm all for more babies, as long as you think you can handle it

Shaquansia - posted on 11/17/2009

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truthfully im learning being a first time mommy that your child wants all your attention!! ALL OF IT! and when you have kids close in age its like a competiton for attention when their that young!! I said I want another lil girl but in the next 4-5 years only because I wanna give my daughter her time to grow and have me and her dad! I dont want her to feel like she has to compete for attention! This just my opinion I feel its best to wait a lil while a year apart too soon!

Wendy - posted on 11/17/2009

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It really depends on you and your family (by family I mean spouse and kid[s]). My son is a little over 13months now, and we are about 4months along with our second. If you decide to go for it, just be prepared for a chaotic few years full of every emotion you can probably feel! If you can do it, and you want to, go for it! Our son will be about a year and a half when this baby is born, so we will still be shy of the "terrible twos", with a newborn. Talk about a handful!

Heather - posted on 11/17/2009

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I dont think it's sounds crazy at all. Everyone wants different things in life at different times then others. It's ok for others to give their opinions but your the one who is READY to have another baby. I say go for it! =)

Jane - posted on 11/17/2009

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i'm sorry, we actually got pregnant with our second when our first was 10 months old, not 14 months. it's that 4am math that gets me every time.

some say, do all the diapers and bottles at once and some say don't do them until one is done w/diapers and bottles before you have the next. whatever works for your family is what you need to do.

Deborah - posted on 11/17/2009

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i personally believe that wants are important - however an endeavor like that should seriously be thought through - there are pros and cons - weigh them both - and if the scale is in your favor - GO for it =- if not - good luck on your decision

Jane - posted on 11/17/2009

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we got pregnant with our second when our first was 14 months old. i'm in heaven with our two. all the more kissing going on in our house. i miss being pregnant and a lot of moms i know always wish they had one more. including myself.
do what's right for your family. my parents had seven kids.

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You're not alone. I've just had my 2nd, he's three months old.I am alrady looking forward to my next - which will be sooner than later I hope (I exclusively breastfeed so when I get my cycle back we can go again!). My oldest is 2 in Dec. They are 18 months apart. Our second was a huge surprise. We were not planning on having our kids that close together but were very plesantly surprised to find out I was pregnant when my oldest was 9 months old. If we had thought about it too much we would not have our son with us now and I can't imagine life without him. Yes, life is VERY busy (2 in nappies, 2 waking at night, 2 wanting 100% of your attention all the time) but we manage, we're calm and we love it! I say go for it if you want to!!

Cassandra - posted on 11/16/2009

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my daughter is five months and since she was a month old all i have wanted is another baby, i think the feelings have alot to do with our hormones and our motherly instincts

Mandy - posted on 11/16/2009

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my mother in law has TOLD me i CANT have another baby untill my son is at least in preschool. um...unless she is the one giving birth, she cant decide.



You do what ever the heck you want. ignor everyone else. it is your life.

Natasha - posted on 11/16/2009

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My son is 7 months and i would also love to have another baby! I don't think it is too soon at all. If u can afford it and if you think you can handle it. Go for it! Children are the richest blessing we can have!

Chelle - posted on 11/16/2009

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my daughter is 6months and im 3months pregnant. i like the choice i made. they will be 12 months apart. so they will play together,grow together and hopefully share toys and interests together.....plus i get to do the nappys and bottles over in one go rather then finish it and have to do it all again in a few years lol

Michelle - posted on 11/16/2009

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You are not crazy...I miss being preggo myself...but just really not ready to have a 3rd right now...I have a 10months old and a 27month old....It is really neat to have them close in age....I do still have 2 in diapers but we ar working on potty traning....My oldest was 17months when my little one was born....She didnt really know what was going on....Now they play so nice together and my oldest make my youngest laugh all the time....It is a little hard when your pregnant with a little one...they want to be carried and all the baby stuff...but it is not that hard....I love it...I dont know if that help or not but just wanted to try to give advice....

Eliza - posted on 11/16/2009

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thank u for the feed back ladies i so appreciate it i i can help u guy wit any thing plz feel free to hit me up

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I got baby fever when my daughter was 6 months. She is now 19 months and I am so grateful that I didn't get pregnant back when she was that age. I think I would go crazy. My toddler keeps me way too busy, I couldn't imagine taking care of another little one. Just take your time, there is no rush.

Shaina - posted on 11/15/2009

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In my opinion, it shouldn't just be about missing being pregnant. That's just a hormone rush and it does pass. There has to be more involved in the decision to have another child.

That said, I got pregnant with number 2 when number 1 was 8 months old. Got pregnant with number 3 when number 2 was 10 months old. Now, number 3 is 9 1/2 months old and I just found out I'm pregnant with number 4.

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My son is 1 at the end of this month, as we are trying for a baby now. I think go for it, it would be great to have the kids be so close in age. I am planning to try and potty train my son before the next one comes.

Doriss - posted on 11/15/2009

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Quoting Amber:

I had my children 2 1/2 years apart and im glad i waited that long. I got my daughter potty trained in time and i was able to spend time with her one on one. then when i had my son she was ready for a baby brother. The new baby moment doesnt last long so i wouldnt have another one just because of that.



I agree with Amber...



My two youngest are almost 3 years apart and I LOVE it...I don't feel overworked, and I am able to balance being a mom to both of them...I admire those that have twins or can handle two so close together...because its soooo much work & energy that at times..I think, I would find myself going nuts...It depends on alot of things...your abilities to handle it (mentally - physically etc), financial, etc - those are the things I personally would look at before making the decision....But your NOT crazy....I have thoughts like that sometimes too...then, I look at my youngest..who's barely walking, and snap out of it...real quick. LOL



But you have to make the best call for you & your family...



Good Luck!

Doriss - posted on 11/15/2009

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Quoting Amber:

I had my children 2 1/2 years apart and im glad i waited that long. I got my daughter potty trained in time and i was able to spend time with her one on one. then when i had my son she was ready for a baby brother. The new baby moment doesnt last long so i wouldnt have another one just because of that.



I agree with Amber...



My two youngest are almost 3 years apart and I LOVE it...I don't feel overworked, and I am able to balance being a mom to both of them...I admire those that have twins or can handle two so close together...because its soooo much work & energy that at times..I think, I would find myself going nuts...It depends on alot of things...your abilities to handle it (mentally - physically etc), financial, etc - those are the things I personally would look at before making the decision....But your NOT crazy....I have thoughts like that sometimes too...then, I look at my youngest..who's barely walking, and snap out of it...real quick. LOL



But you have to make the best call for you & your family...



Good Luck!

Stevie - posted on 11/15/2009

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oh i forgot to say that i was pregnant with my son 6 months after my daughter was born so its all up to you and the way you feel dont let anyone tell you you cant have a healthy baby and pregnancy and everything else until a certain time

Stevie - posted on 11/15/2009

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no you dont sound crazy and i dont think there is a too early to have another baby its your body and how you feel we were planning on trying until after my son turned one well he is one as of nov 12th was his birthday and we found out we were already pregnant but i just lost the new baby so looks like were waiting a bit longer i miss the baby movements too soo much and i love being pregnant also but now i have other feelings with it too if you and your partener are ok for it then do it :) some ppl have kids even closer together and get pregnant even before the 6 week check up lol

Mimi - posted on 11/15/2009

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The best time to get pregnant with #2 is when your first is between 18-36 months old. That way your body has time to recoup it's nutrients and recover.

Chilquitta - posted on 11/15/2009

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I would not have a baby because i miss being pergant. I would have one because i love my kids and me and my husband wanted more then one.I have 3 kids they are all back to back. 2,1,and a month. If you both want to have kids then have them. Have as many as you want.

Amanda - posted on 11/14/2009

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no your not crazy my son just turned 10mo. and i want another baby i miss the feeling of being pregnant and the excitement of another. but money is tight so ill have to wait haha...

Eliza - posted on 11/14/2009

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omg thank you ladies so much for the replys i apprecitate it so much plz if u have any questions feel free to ask away any time ladies ttyl

Maria - posted on 11/14/2009

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I have 5 children, my oldest two girls are 16months apart, the middle boys are 18 months apart and the youngest is 11years younger than his closest sibling. While I adored my older children, I will say that I have a great deal more time to devote to my little guy because the others are more independant. I think that having the older kids as close together as I did robbed them a little of that individual time that they could have had with me.

Michelle - posted on 11/14/2009

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If you want another baby go for it. My kids are 16 months apart. It's been fine. It's been busy but I love it. Only you and your husband can decide.

Kim - posted on 11/14/2009

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I don't think you're crazy. I think your feelings are perfectly normal. Quite honestly, only you are your spouse can decide when is a good time to have another baby but I personally would wait. This is a life-altering decision. Let your son be a baby for a while and enjoy him. Give yourself a few more months to see if your feelings go away or are stronger. If that little voice inside you just won't go away then you know it was meant to be.

Amber - posted on 11/14/2009

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I had my children 2 1/2 years apart and im glad i waited that long. I got my daughter potty trained in time and i was able to spend time with her one on one. then when i had my son she was ready for a baby brother. The new baby moment doesnt last long so i wouldnt have another one just because of that.

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You don't sound crazy, and plenty of people have babies that close together. The thing you need to think about is what about after pregnancy and that new baby moment? If you truly want another child, you have the resources to care for another new baby, and you want your children to be close together, then there's no reason not to go for it. If your only motivation is that you miss being pregnant, then you might want to wait a little while longer. You're not the only one who misses it, and it's not crazy, but it shouldn't be the driving motivation for having another baby.

Shelly - posted on 11/14/2009

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My boys are 20 months apart. I am lucky enough to be a stay at home mom. I will tell you the two very close together can be very difficult. It also gets very expensive. So way the whole picture not just the pregnacy and new baby part. You have 2 in diapers and you think diapers get expensive for one. But you may also fall into my delima that I have now, they are both in the same size so I don't have hand-me-downs. Sure they shared clothes when they were younger but now they have different tastes in clothes so they aren't sharing so much. With them so close together they fight with each other more than some of my friends kids that are farther apart. That gets trying too.

Katie - posted on 11/14/2009

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if you really want another baby and are ready for another one then i think you should have one....i dont think it is too soon...i always told my husband...wait until my son is at least one....so he is able to walk and i dont have to carry him everywhere..lol..but i know what u mean on the miss being pregnant part and having another baby...sometimes i feel that way too...but my son is only 3 months so i will have to wait a while. but like i said...i think its good to keep a year apart for thier kids...women have time limits unlike guys....we have our needs in a time frame....having one year in between the kids is very common..there are ppl who have a less time frame in between their kids. good luck!! :)

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