I want everything to be perfect..

Cherice - posted on 01/03/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone...My daughter is turning 8yrs old on the 16th of January. Well to be honest with you my daughter is beyond spoiled when it comes to what getting things. In the words of my dad "ONLY THE BEST FOR POPAS GIRL".

Well my problem is as follows: On May 30th 2009 my dad passed away unexpected and its been hard on all of us expecially my daughter because she has such a tight bond with my dad. He was her dad since my daughters dad has never been involved in her life.

Every year for her parties my parents went "ALL OUT FOR THEM" and now things are so different with him gone. My daughter expects the usual "BIG" party that we throw for her, and with the things tied up in probate its going to be a tight party. How do I explain to her that we have to tone it down now? I know that she is still having a hard time with him gone but she is still a kid and has every right to enjoy her childhood parties.

The hard part for me is now Im trying to plan the perfect party for her and make it more special for her since he's not with us anymore. I have gone to the extent as to talking to our party guest and confirming the date with them just to make sure they can come.

I want this party to be perfect for my daughter. I have pretty much everything ready to go but am I trying to hard? I know that I have to realize that hes gone, but as much as I dont want to I just want my daughter to enjoy her party and see that her popa is still around & will always be watching her. Am I going about this the wrong way? Any suggestions would be great.

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Cherice - posted on 01/03/2010

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Hi sara you are just fine and I understand where your coming from. I should of toned it down many years ago about the spending on her parties but that is how my parents are sad to say. I had no idea that this was going to happen & now that I have to explain to her things like this its a bit hard. But thank you for the help and thank you for expressing your condolence about my dad.

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Sounds like you love your daughter very much and want the best for her. There is nothing wrong with that. But I do have to say you don't have to try so hard to make everything perfect. We don't always get what we want in life and at eight, she is probably ready to learn that. She can learn that everything doesn't have to be lavish for it to be enjoyable. I'm so sorry for you and your daughter's loss. I hope I didn't sound harsh or insensitive.

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