i want to throw his dad out

Denise - posted on 02/16/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




long story short-
his dad and me were together for 3 years. He cheated on me, i beat him up... then i wanted to leave him.days later, i found out i was pregnant. i stayed with him just because of that. now i wish i had left him then, but i don't regret having my son. i am stressed, mentally and emotionally abused daily, and generally unhappy in every way. i want me and the baby to leave this place or we have got to throw him out. this isn't fair to my son. so how do i leave him?


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Angela - posted on 02/19/2010




Well I think U definetely need to put your babies needs first which means getting away from him, as he is obviously not giving the kind of support U and your baby need.
Like Joan said below, look for a womens shelter otherwise a friend or family member who can provide U and your baby somewhere safe to stay until U are on your feet again.
If you feel U can throw him out of your house without jeopordising the safety of yourself or your baby, then by all means do it as soon as possible as he needs to go.

He is not making U feel good about yourself nor giving you the kind of support you need, and if you are not feeling 100% how can you be giving your baby 100%.

I'm sure U will find someone who deserves you!!
Good Luck!

Heather - posted on 02/18/2010




The first step my dear is to chose to leave.. Getting abused is very embarrassing and very hard to get away from. It is better to leave now then to let your child see it as they grow. There are many places to go. If you belong to a church or not that would be my first stop. They will help you or get you to the people who can. Its a long road and a very hard and heart breaking on BUT in the long run it is very worth it. The longer you stay with him the harder it is to walk away and you can do it it just takes the first step. and as hard as it sounds he really wont change no matter how sorry he says he is and even if hes acting like he has changed he hasnt.. sadly too many woman go back to their abusers because of false hope that they wont do it again.. I wish you the best and hope that you and your beautiful son are safe soon!!

Jennifer - posted on 02/16/2010




Staying with a man just because of a baby is never a good idea. That is one lesson I learned the hard way. Thankfully he never physically abused me, but he did abuse me in other ways (including sexually). He also ruined my credit and many other things. I almost let him completely ruin me to the point I thought suicide was the only way out. It sounds like you have finally gotten to the point that you are ready to leave. That is only a decision you can make, because you have to feel it is right inside, before you will stick with the plan. Trust me, I know how hard it is. I kicked my ex out many times, before I finally stuck with it. If you are at the point that you feel at peace with this decision, then this is the time to act on it. Don't give yourself time to second guess it. If you feel he will come back if you kick him out, LEAVE! Get as far away as possible. If you have friends or family that can/will help, ask them. If not, like Joan said, call a shelter. I wish you the best, and I will be praying for you.

Crystal - posted on 02/16/2010




I went through the same with my ex husband. One day, I couldn't take it no more, I went to my moms house and never went back. Like Joan said, I went to a women's shelter. I know that it takes a huge hit at your pride, but it is so worth getting out of that situation for you and your childs sake. If he can do it to you, he can do it to your child. I will also say, it's much easier for you to leave than it is to make him leave, if you're willing to start over. I wish you the best of luck, but as a woman, you are stronger than he is and you can survive and move on, if not for yourself, for your child.

Joan - posted on 02/16/2010





start in your local phone book look for a womens shelter for abused women.

good luck

the sooner the better

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