I will soon be the mother of two under two :) I'm looking for helpful and time saving strategies :)

Melissa - posted on 01/07/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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In April I will be the proud momma of two under two. I'm looking for helpful time saving strategies that will make our day run more smoothly. I'm asking the pros lol. Thanks :)

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Imelda - posted on 01/19/2010

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I think routine is the key. My 2nd was 16 months when my 3rd was born. He wasnt even walking and I was worried about how I's cope. Thank God he ha d no jealousy issues, quiet the opposite. He loved his baby sister so much I was afraid he;d kell her with love !! He always wanted to hold her and kiss her, so I allowed it when I was in the room with them! When I fed the baby, I gave him a bottle/cup aswell. If it was his snack time, I fed baby in teh kitchen so I could be with him in his high chair. Then I;d change both nappies together. Both had bath time together aswell so it was easier that way to get a bedtime routine going. (baby in baby bath in big bath! They both slept in the same room aswell from abut the time baby was 7 months (they still share!!)

For me, routine and consistancy was the most important thing.

Michelle - posted on 01/07/2010

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Start now removing unneeded clutter. The less unneeded stuff laying around the less mess to clean up later. Also do not sweat the small things. Carpets do not have to be vacuum daily and bed do not have to be made. Keep the public areas of the house clean and the rest neat. Teach your husband how to do laundry and set up a schedual now so that when the wee one comes he is used to it already.

Veronica - posted on 01/07/2010

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Start cooking a few extra meals to freeze so that all you have to do is warm them up for the first few weeks. Before you go to have the baby make sure you have extra diaper wipes and plenty of formula on hand and food for the first couple of weeks. If anyone asks if you need anything dont be afraid to say yea could you come over and help me ?????? You might need some help I know when I had my first kid thing where fine but when 2 and 3 came things got crazy the first couple of months. You willl be best with a routine. Good luck and congratualtions

Katherine - posted on 01/19/2010

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my two are 17 months apart, and the most important thing for me to remember is that the house work can wait. the toys get picked up only after the kids are sleeping, this prevents, i just picked that up anger, and sometimes the dishes wait untill, the next day. remember balance is the key. and enjoy every moment you have with them welll they'r little.

Brooke - posted on 01/18/2010

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i dunno.. think i am somewhat a pro..my 2 oldest are 10 mo and 4 days a part (15 & 14 yrs old), and then my 2 youngest are 18 mo apart (6 & 5 yrs old) ... i got it right with baby number 3 (12 yrs old)..waited nearly 3 yrs bewteen 2 & 3 and 6 yrs bewteen 3 & 4...hahahahaha. but yeah my 2 oldest and 2 youngest are sooooo close in age its crazy (( and ALL girls))....this is my advise..no routine..it will kill ya! Sorry folks....with a routine she will never sit down! DO the best you can...early morning do laundry..or late night while baby #2 is sleepin best he/she does...put the baby in his/her bouncy chair on the dryer and go to town.... get a playpen and a swing & walker....they are soooo important..ohh and the high chair..lots of spagetti O's and cheeriO's plus Gerber snackems....lol. Snack time will be UBBER important once baby 2 comes along...while you tidy or feed baby 2...baby 1 can snack, or play in walker, playpen, or on floor....but i say not the floor, if your tidying.
Keep the babies in the same room at the same times..what you do with baby 2 try to do with baby 1..BUT make sure baby 1 knows she/he is the big one. use a sorta diffy voice at story time..and bath time when talking directly to baby 1..this allows him/her to know she is singled out ya know. Allow baby 1 to help...always help..when ever possible. that way there is no jelousy. AS SOON as you get baby 2 home introduce them..as big sissy/brother & lil sissy/bro. Bath time should be together once the baby gets bigger, i am not into the whole, bathing a new born with a 1 yr old....too much splashing and dangerous stuff can happen.....wait a month maybe. But really its up to you. I cant say for sure, with out knowing how many months apart your lil ones will be.... but i can say for sure..that there has to be some differences in the way you talk and play..BUT mainly like i said, make sure u have pleanty of snacks, and safe places to set babay 1..... while tending to house hold chores and baby 2. EVEN my 14 yr old (my 2nd oldest daughter) says i am the pro at this....she is astounded at how well i have gotten along all these years with out losing my mind..and i say it over and over again....its because i never listend when someone said i "needed" a routine! it would have been immpossible. I still have no real routine outside of meal times and bed times...lol. Need more helo holler please. :) GOOD LUCK

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Nicole - posted on 04/01/2010

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I dont know if this will work for you but i have recently begun cooking a lot on Sunday, which is a day when we usually stay home and my husband can have some time with the baby. I cook about 3 or 4 large meals which can be frozen (last week i made pea&ham soup, chicken curry, spaghetti bolagnaise and beef&red wine casserole). I freeze them in servings enough for our dinner and then i dont have to worry about dinner for the week or fortnight.

Tara - posted on 01/18/2010

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I have 2 children a 16 month old boy and a 5 month old girl. It is tough and takes a lot of time, but I like to take a daily planner and every monday I make out my schedule for the week. I make sure I have any apointments wrote down along with anything that I have to do, including my schoolwork.

Gina - posted on 01/18/2010

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Hi Melissa,

I understand where you are coming from. My oldest was only 12 months when my second was born and my second was only 15 months when my third was born, so I had 3 children all under 28 months at the same time, all different ages. I think we're all (mothers) constantly "getting the hang of it." My older ones are now 5,4, and 3, and we have a 4 mo. old. The older ones are all buddies now and love to help with the baby. With the first two, I would sit on the couch and let Nyssa cuddle up to me as I sang or read to her as I fed Nathaniel. For me, a sling (and a front carrier as baby got a little older) was a life saving device when I wanted to get house work done. Also, I learned that my house doesn't have to look perfect. It'll be messy at times, unless you have a live in maid, so remember it's ok :) And if someone offers to help and you feel comfortable with them, let them...whether it's to wash some dishes or clothes, make a meal, or just watch the older one while you catch a nap. They are young for so short of time, so enjoy them. Oh, and one more thing...I allow about 20 minutes per child extra time when I need to go somewhere. For some reason, time flies by so fast when I'm in a hurry! I'll be praying for you as I know there can be stormy days, but they are all worth it and (you've probably heard this before) it really does get easier as they get older. :)

Jessica - posted on 01/16/2010

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I just found this tip on another site, it isnt time saving but I thought Id share as I hadnt considered it myself. This tip is about getting both kids into the car safely. Put the newborns seat on the passenger side of the car so that it is on the side of the curb. Allow the toddler to crawl into the car under the infant seat so while you strap in the newborn your toddler is out of harms way and can climb into their own seat. When you are finished straping in the baby you can go around to the toddlers side of the car and strap them in. Hope it helps, I will definately be storing it away for when our second arrives.

Julia - posted on 01/15/2010

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Hi Melissa, Congrats! My two were born 6 months apart.



Accept that your house will never be completely clean. Embrace that! Make larger meals for dinner and eat the leftovers for lunch. Buy stock in Goldfish, Cheerios, MumMums and Pampers. If you don't have a DVR, get one. If you don't have a Roomba, buy one.

Michelle - posted on 01/15/2010

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My two are 16 months apart (2 and 10 months). I think those baby slings are wonderful. Routine is good. Be willing to deviate if you need to though because that caused me a lot of stress when I was trying so hard (and failing) to keep the schedule going for my son. I got them on the same nap schedules asap. As a matter of fact do as many things you can at the same time as you can (baths, diapers, etc). That save a lot of time. The first 6 months are the hardest and it does get better after that. I always find it helpful if I could fix things ahead of time for dinner, freeze them, and then just have to defrost and cook. Congratulations and good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 01/15/2010

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My first two were only 15 mo apart. At first it was extreemly difficult. My first wasn't the best sleeper, so many nights I spent trying to hold two babies at one time. Routine is key. The faster you can get into a routine the easier. Also, let the oldest have some "jobs." I let mine bring me clean diapers and I also told him if the baby started crying (during the day only of course) he can come get me. Of course she was always near enough for me to hear too. The first 6 months were the hardest. After that it was great. They played together all the time and kept each other occupied. Just hang in there and good luck. At first you may think you will never make it, but I promise there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Oh, and one last thing, don't be afraid to ask for help and always accept the help others offer. You'll need it.

Emma - posted on 01/15/2010

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I had two children under 2 (and more recently I had 3 children under 4!! glutton for punishment). The best thing I ever bought was one of those wrap around baby slings. Fantastic. Baby is happy being held close to you, but you can actually get on and do things, and play with the younger child. You need a material wrap around one, as the baby-bjorn type things don't seem to work for very little ones. What I did was simply put baby into the sling, and then carry on with the older ones routine as normal, save for stops for feeding. I do know people who can breastfeed in these things. I'm not one of them, sad to say, but I understand it can be done!! What I did while feeding was to allow cbeebies - a great treat for little one, who positively looked forward to feeds (don't you think she's hungry now, Mummy??!), and a bit of peace for you and baby.

I did find it hard work at first, but it was really just getting used to juggling two, and not one. I think another key is not to be too stuck on your existing routine - I felt that I had to keep it all going the same for my older child, and was really stressing about bath times etc, but actually that wasn't that vital and a little deviation and less stress would have been better! Bedtime is the hardest, if you can get help at bedtime, that is great. If not, try to time story time and a feed together to keep baby quiet while you are settling the older one.

Best of luck - they are great, great friends now (5 and 3 years old) so try to think to that when things get a bit much!

Kerri - posted on 01/14/2010

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Hi my girls are 13 months apart, now 4 and 5 (just). I did everything together. They had their baths together, one in and one out of the tub. Dried together and dressed together. Fed at the same time, naps at the same time (however this rarely happened). I'd put them both on a blanket to 'play', while I tidied or cooked. And try to rest when they are. You will be tempted to rush around and clean but stop yourself, grab a book instead - it is important for your sanity! And I would put both girls down at the same time at night. Then I would cook our dinner and put on some washingm and hang it out. It would be dry by 9am, fold it put it away while they played. This was my routine. Shopping was done without them. I would call my Mother-in-law and she would come over once every fortnight so I could rush out and shop. It would take 2 hours tops, back in time to feed them. It does get easier as they become older and independant. Hope this helps you. Kerri

Erika - posted on 01/08/2010

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Hi Melissa,
Congratulations on your pregnancy!! My children are 19 months apart. I'm definitely not a pro, but like other Moms have mentioned try to get a routine going ASAP. I used to stress out over a lot of little things, but now I just enjoy my babies and their health. My son is almost 2 1/2 and my daughter is 10 months. I started bathing them together a couple months ago and that has helped a lot. I can't really think of anything else right now. It feels like she was just born yesterday, but I can't remember what I did to make my life easier. You'll find what works best for you as time goes on. Hope this helps a bit.


Best Wishes!

Erika
http://www.4MyFamilyandMe.com

Jessica - posted on 01/08/2010

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I am also expecting baby number 2, Im due the day after our daughter's 2nd birthday! Best tip I've been given, other than routine, is to bath the kids together. Get a good secure infant seat and have all the gear you need in the bathroom. Put the toddler in the bath first and give them a quick scrub while the infant lays safely on the floor. Then put the infant in the bath and wash it while your toddler has some splash free, supervised play. Get the infant out of the bath, dried and dress (keeping a close eye on the toddler) and then get the toddler out of the tub while your newborn lays comfortably close by.

I realise bath time is only a small part of the day but every minute saved counts and its a tip I wouldnt have thought of myself so I hope it helps. Good luck!

Tara - posted on 01/07/2010

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Routine, routine, routine! What worked for me was keeping the same feeding/sleeping routine for my older daughter even after her sister was born (they are 18 months apart - my oldest is 21 months, my youngest is 3 months), that way, I can slowly work towards having both girls on the same routine as the youngest gets older. Having my daughter "help" with her sister has also really been a good tool. My husband and I have also made a point to pay specific attention to our older daughter while she is up during the day, but she knows that if her sister needs something urgently (food, diaper change) that she needs to let Mama and Daddy take time to help her sister.
Pick things up after your older child goes to bed, do brief "spot checks" during the day, but don't worry if the vacuuming doesn't get done daily or laundry or dishes wait until a different day than normal.
Freeze some meals prior to having the second one, it helps a lot for the first few weeks when you are getting used to things. Don't expect to have both kids nap at the same time - it'll happen if you're lucky, but you aren't always lucky :)
Don't be afraid to ask for help. If your older child can feed themselves (or even help feed themselves) that's a bonus and should be encouraged. Above all, don't panic, it does get easier.

Shaina - posted on 01/07/2010

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For me, going from 1 to 2 was the hardest. Sounds crazy, but get your older child involved with everything. It gives them a sense of ownership for the baby and lessens jealousy. Also, get a baby carrier. Avoid the store-bought ones and go with a sling, moby, or mei tai. That way, you can wear the new baby and still have hands to interact with your older child. It helps them not to feel so left out.

Brittany - posted on 01/07/2010

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my boys are 15 months apart. when tristyn was born, christian wanted nothing to do with him. i would try to include him and he had absolutely no interest whatsoever. so it was a bit of a struggle in the beginning. but once he came around, including him helped a lot, even if it was just him picking out the baby's clothes for the day. now 7 months later, they are playing together during the day (which is the cutest thing ever!!!) and christian being almost 2 is wanting to help more, so he will hold tristyn's bottle, or yesterday he got to come help me make cookies and dinner. : )
the best thing you can do is just make sure you have help! : ) and to figure out a routine that works good for you guys as soon as you can.
good luck and congrats on the babies!!! and enjoy!!!

Amanda - posted on 01/07/2010

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I am no pro either but my oldest was a little over 3 when my youngest was born and I found the easiest things to do was include him in helping me do things for his brother. The more you include the older one the better they feel and it helps you too. Sometimes it can be a time saver as well as a tiny break for you. I am sure your oldest will express interest in helping mommy with the baby as most older siblings do. My oldest looked at his brother as his baby.

Emma - posted on 01/07/2010

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well it all takes time! get yourself into a routine as soon as poss, feeding and dressing them at the same time does help and asking them to do little jobs for you, they all like being mummys little helper
i found with william when beth was born lots of cuddles and reasurence was the key as he was quite needy with me but when he learnt that beth wasnt going to take mummy away he was brill, always wanting to help, also a good double buggy makes everything much easier and you just dont feel housebound, also a sling comes in handy! as i learnt with beth, lol, me and william has always taken the dog for a walk every morning and early evening (in summer) and of course 2 babys a dog and a pram just doesnt work so invest in a good sling and take a slow gentle walk, as all children love getting out,

i'd also point out that getting them involved with everything keeps them occupied rather than bored and driving you mad, get lots of support around you as the first few weeks are the hardest but if you can get that routine your halfway there
best of luck emma x

Tamara - posted on 01/07/2010

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I am by no means a pro...and i dont think i ever will be....the ONLY thing i have found that makes things easier is instead of telling my older child "no" all the time when it comes to his baby sister, i let him help. He's only 18 months so he doesn't really know much, but any time he's around her doing something i might normally say no to, i switch it into a way he can help(example: when she's in her swing and he wants to stop it or play with the toys on it, i would normally say no, but instead i say "push sissy nice & easy)

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