If u have trouble getting ur child to sleep at night what should u try to do?

Cassandra - posted on 08/02/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I have to fight my 19 month old to go to sleep at night even when he is really tired.. i have had to do this the past 3 months now and it is getting tiresome.. what should i do??

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Farrah - posted on 08/08/2009

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Hell i have this problem with my 9year old daughter i give her warm milk and when she takes her bath it is in Lavendar and chamomile that way she can soak on the bubble and it seems to help.

Robyn - posted on 08/04/2009

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consistency is the real key. If one routine does not work, and you have tried it for a while, try a different one. Our 5 yr old was our biggest problem. She was still in our bed, or on the couch until about a month ago. We finally got her a new bed, new nightlight, and have a "special" snack every morning that she has slept in her bed thru the night. And they are simple things like, box of raisons with Hannah Montana on them, cereal bars, Dries fruit, Breakfast shake..It has actually worked!

Cami - posted on 08/04/2009

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Im just going to repeat everyone, and say consistency. Try different routines to find one that works for you. Try the Ferber method, i learned it in psychology. Find your routine first, then put him in bed, Let him cry it out for five minutes, then go in tuck him back in, then wait ten minutes, it goes up to 20 minutes, if he still wont sleep then check his diaper, check him out for anything that would b making him uncomfortable, then do it the method again. Be patient, and stay strong. Good Luck.

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no joke there is a book called SAVE OUR SLEEP by Tizzie Hall. i started my son on it and i finally got some sleep myself,,,till new bub came along, now he's due to start her ROUNTINEs also. repeat repeat repeat,,sometime it gets boring but it puts him in a better mood as he'll know what's coming up next and it won't be such a drama. like all kids shows- they repeat in songs and even episods so that the kids watching know what coming up next. SERIOUSLY get the book, you won't be sorry. i give it to friends and rellies as a baby prezy for mum & dad.

Lauren - posted on 08/03/2009

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I find with my girl the key is to fill her up! Everyone knows you sleep well on a full belly! LOL.

Laurie - posted on 08/03/2009

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My 19 mos. old daughter did this too. I tried the whole routine before bed, the same time everynight, a bath, a book then off to bed. Nothing worked until I finally did what I swore I'd never do. I was so tired, and so was she that I just had to let her cry it out. I went in after 1 minute, then 2, then 3 etc. until she was finally asleep. I think it got to 8 minutes in between when she finally went to sleep the first time, the next night it only took until 6 minutes, and by the end of the week I would put her in her crib and she didn't even cry at all. She just went to sleep on her own. Now I am so glad I did!! Everynight is easy now.

Karen - posted on 08/03/2009

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Do you do baby massage after his bath? If not, I would try using whatever kind of lotion you can use on him and try massaging him after his bath. I know you said that you can't put the bedtime lotion all over, but maybe try just putting a little bit under his nose so it may calm him a little bit?

Both of my kids do/did the tearing of the books too. LOL!! I actually had to move my daughter's books from her reach so she wouldn't try and tear them up after I left the room when I put her down. I would keep trying the whole bath/massage/book/bed routine. Do you have Baby Einstein videos? Sometimes before I take my kids up for their baths, I throw one of those DVD's on for them to calm them down a little bit beforehand.

Cassandra - posted on 08/03/2009

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Well we do have a bedtime consistancy.. there is a set time to eat dinner bath then bed but he climbs out of his bed and tries to go back downstairs and then when he gets there he tries going back up... i have tried the whole story reading with him and he just tries to tare the books up.. he cant use the bedtime lavender and chamomile soap or johnsons and johnsons because it breaks him out really bad... so now what should i try??

Anita - posted on 08/02/2009

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the key words are...consistantcy, patients, determination, routine, time...

You need to start asap..the earlier the better..19mths he understands u alot more than u think...u need to keep track of he's days..normally at 19mths kids tend to do with only one nap (depend on the length they sleep)..u have to be realistic about what time u wnat him to go to bed (depending on his day naps)...it's harder to get a child to settke when he's over tired...SORRY MY LIL ONE IS CRAWLING ALL OVER ME..TAKE A READ OF THIS SITES FORUM..THEY USE A TECHNIQUE CALLED WALK IN (WI) / WALK OUT (W/O)..PICK UP (P/U) / PUT DOWN (P/D) METHOD...LOTS OF GREAT INFO...if u dont understand any of it then ur more than welcome to email me and i will give u a run down when my lil monkley allows it..

www.babywhisperer.com

Karen - posted on 08/02/2009

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I agree with Veronica. I have a 3 year old and a 15 month old. I have them on bedtime routines as well. They know its bath, book and then bed. Consistency is definitely key! I'm not sure if it actually works, but I use the Johnson & Johnson Bedtime Bath. I had problems with my 15 month old going to sleep at night as well. It got to the point where I'd put him in his crib and just let him cry it out. After about 10 minutes or so, he was so tired that he just fell asleep. I know that sounds heartbreaking (and it is) but sometimes you just have to let them learn to comfort themselves and put themselves to sleep.

Sabrina - posted on 08/02/2009

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I had the same problem with my now 4 yr old. What got him to go is his older brother would go with him. So to this day everyone has the same bed time. But I would always say to them, after this 1 show, or whatever you are doing. Always set a boundary. It's time to go to bed. Then I'd give a 5 min reminder. I try to make a game of it. Wash up, story, tuck in, monster spray. But try to gear it to what works best for your child. I know it can be hard. My youngest is very stubborn. But being consistent is key. Think of it this way. Have you ever seen a college bound student with a bottle in his/her hand, binkie in the mouth and a lovie over the shoulder? LOL.... I have to think that way, or I'd go nuts.



Right now we are working on keeping my 4 yr old in bed all night. He's so much of a snuggler, he goes to bed fine. But wakes up in the middle of the night & wants in our bed. He's gotten better. But it's sometimes hard for me to keep up the consistency of putting him back in bed. I tell myself, he'll get it and stay in bed. My sister made the mistake of letting her child in the bed. She's 6 now and refuses to sleep in her room.



All kids are different. What may work for one may not work for another. Just keep trying and stand your ground. He's still young yet. He'll get over this bump in the road of life. Then a different will follow. Enjoy them when they are little. Mine are 7 & 4 and It still feels like I just brought them home. Take care & Good Luck:)

Veronica - posted on 08/02/2009

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This is what I do at night to get my son to sleep. First develop a bedtime routine. You know feeding, a bath with chamomile and lavender, read a bedtime story in low light and rock to sleep. The thing is consistency.

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