im a stay at home mom

Eliza - posted on 11/14/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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im a stay at home mom and i moved from nyc to atl i dont have any friends or family out here and sum times i feel very depressed it's overwelming because im 19 and i dont go out much my husband works all day and sum times i just feel very depressed is that a sign of postpartum ive been feeling this way since we moved in march and my son will be 1 on december25 i need to no sum signs of postpartum and rather hear it from other moms then to speak to a doctor about it

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Brandi - posted on 11/15/2009

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Postpartum depression doesn't usually manifest itself that long after birth. It is a purely hormone driven depression. My guess is that you may have regular depression, partly brought on by your new living situation. The best thing that I think you could do, is to try to get out in your new community and try to make some friends. Find Mommy and me groups in your area or take your kids to the park, or look in your local paper to find "family" activities in your area and take your son to those. Try to create a network of people that you can trade off babysitting for each other and give each other an opportunity to get out of the house. My sister-in-law and I do this. Whenever either of us feels like we just can't take another day, we call the other up and ask if we can leave our kids for a sleepover. Our kids LOVE it, cuz they get to play with their cousins, we get some time away from "Mommyland" and generally feel rejuvenated and ready to jump right back into life. Do you go to church? this is a very good place to meet people of your shared faith that you can socialize and network with so that you can help each other. Also, you might consider doing some volunteer work (which could be as simple as preparing a meal for an elderly neighbor or offering a special talent of yours to someone who might need that talent). It's hard when your kids are young like yours is, but as they get a little older, they start going to school (my daughter is in preschool) and you can start to get to know some of the other parents in your area and that can help. Good luck. If your depression continues for periods of time longer than 2 weeks, you need to see a dr. and/or a therapist, so they can possibly medicate you to help with your moods. You need to try to do everything that you can for your son. He needs his mommy happy and "with it".

Ara - posted on 11/15/2009

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I know how you feel. I've been feeling the same way lately. I have a girl that's 16 months, and she makes me crazy getting into things 24/7! If my husband isn't working, he finds meaningless errands to run and I'm stuck at home. We moved a few weeks ago, and I don't know anyone either. I think we need to get out and meet some people. :) I've been thinking about trying to find a nice church in the area with a Mom's group. I was in one, MOPS, shortly before I moved two times ago and it was fun to hear other mom's and their similar stories. I think it's up to us to make our own happiness. Good luck! :)

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