In Laws making me crazy! Advice?

Gina - posted on 12/27/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My In Laws complain about how they never see their grandson. They live about 40 minutes away from us. They have a standing invitation to come over and they never do. Additionally two days a week I watch their other grandson and am only 5 minutes away from them the entire day. They are retired and I invite them over and they do not come. I also try to plan dinners with them, and I am the only one who makes plans to get together they never do. Also I ask them to babysit, maybe about once every four months and they will not agree to do it. THey say it's too much like work and that they should not have to watch him to see him. My husband agrees completely with them. He thinks I am being selfish because I will not spend all of my free time there with ppl who make me feel bad and like a terrible daughter in law when I am trying very hard. They have a terrible relationship with their other daughter in law and she will barely speak to them. I don't know what to do. They are making me nuts and now I feel like my husband is not the right person for me. Advice?

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Ami - posted on 12/27/2012

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One thing I always say to someone who is starting to doubt that their husband is the right person for them and there is all these "external" struggles going on, first ask yourself if it was just you two and no one else how would you feel about your husband, really examine that and seek some form of counsel before making any major decisions. Now with your in-laws if they are not willing to meet you half way and they don't get along with your sister-in-law maybe you should let things role off your back and realize these people are just people that can't or won't be pleased. My in-laws have never come to see us, they have never meet our 3 year old daughter, I only meet them once 10 years ago on our wedding day. They are willing to fly all over the United States and Mexico to see my husbands other two bothers and sister but they have never even pretended like they want to come. We too have invited them and tried to work our schedule around theirs however with that I guess we could go see them but I have resigned myself to just let it go. It sucks and it takes time but some times that's all you can do.

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