In Laws,Treating my child different from the other grandchildren? Why?

Erica - posted on 10/05/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




My in laws,really get to me and my husbandwhen it comes to our child. My daughter is 3 is our only child my husbands sister has 3 kids,3,2,and 7 months old. We all live in the same house hold right now do to financial reasons. His sister though had an abusive husband and that's why she is here. My thing is,they are always bragging about her kids and posting pictures of them online but they never post a picture of my child and brag about her. They will buy the boys anything,and never bring anything home to my child? My 3 year old has even said they are mean,I think she is starting to notice the difference because they treat her different in front of people and when it comes to her and the boys they call her a whiner when she cries over things that the boys do? what do i do?


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DC - posted on 10/07/2016




That is such a hard place to be in. Your daughter is also starting to notice, which makes it even worse. I am so sorry you are in this place because it makes a mom’s heart hurt, right? Maybe the in-laws are partial to boys? Who knows? The thing is, they need to see that the way they are relating to your DD is not good if they want to develop a healthy relationship. You and your husband need some face time with them to – without anger, if possible – bring up what you see and just ask about their behavior. There is a great article here (
that may help you. Good luck! 

Michelle - posted on 10/07/2016




What does your husband say about it? Has he even spoken to his parents?
Maybe you need to move out on your own. It really doesn't work for children to move home when they have children of their own.

Jodi - posted on 10/05/2016




I'm not saying it's okay, but you say "my child". So they aren't her biological grandparents? Maybe it has to do with that? As I said, that isn't okay, but that might be the reason.

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