in love but not with my spouse

Melanie - posted on 10/08/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have been married for 13yrs we have been through a lot, we have three wonderful children. But when I was 14 I feel in love and for the past 19yrs have never stopped loving him or thinking about him we were together for along time but because I had to move to another town we lost contact, I know most of you are probley thinking at 14 you don't know what love is but I'm here to tell you some people find there first love at 14 and I found mine, we found each other several months ago, and are more in love now than we were when we were 14, he has been married for 7yrs they don't have any kids. We have planned to leave our spouses and be together we are also talking about getting married a few yrs from now. My husband has been mentally and emotional abusive to me and our three children and for the past few yrs has been physically abusive to our three children, I have been out of love with my husband for the last few yrs, nobody in our home is happy. the man I'm in love with lives in another state. My question is could I get custudy of our three children and move out of state with them without his permission, they are 12, 9, and 7 yrs old. Our children have wanted me to leave him serveral times but I never have I have tried to make the marriage work because of the children, but can no longer be with him anymore I don't want him touching me, I still love him I always will we have three beautiful children together but I'm not in love with him anymore. what should I do, I want to be with the man I have loved for the past 19yrs. Thank you for your help.


Michelle - posted on 10/08/2014




If you try and take the children without his permission he can take you to court to stop you moving away. He can apply for visitation and/or custody as he is the children's Father.
You would be better off asking a lawyer for proper legal advice for where you live. You don't want to lose custody all together.

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