Infidelity in a Marriage

Tiffany - posted on 10/12/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Have any of you moms been able to overcome infidelity in your marriage? How did you get through it?

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Theresa - posted on 10/13/2010

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It's not easy by any means. First he has to be willing to give up the other woman. If he has done that and is TRULY remorseful, then there is hope. It will take time for you to sort through your feelings. He is going to have to be patient and understanding. He has to realize that your loss of trust in him is HIS fault and he needs to be willing to do anything to regain your trust. Both of you should get into counseling to find out why things went wrong. Chances are there are things that both of you did to cause the marriage to have problems. I'm not saying that anything you may have done gives him the right to cheat, but if he was unhappy in the marriage because of issues you have then you need to work on them as well as he needs to work on his issues. It will be a long proccess. There will be times when you think you've put it all behind you then out of the blue it will smack you in the face again and you'll feel that same sense of betrayal. At those times he needs to be willing to hold you and promise you it'll never happen again. He needs to give you whatever reassurances you need at any given time. If he can't do that then you need to look very hard at whether or not he's really sorry. I don't mean you should hold it against him forever though. If you're going to work things out then you need to try your best to forgive and let it go. You'll never forget though and he needs to understand that. The only other advice I can give you is pray, pray, pray. You can get through this nad even become stronger as a person and have a stronger marriage for it if both of you are willing to give 100%. We've made it 3 years now and two more beautiful children. When I look into his eyes I know he's in this 100% now and would never put our marriage and family in jeopardy again.

Vanessa - posted on 10/13/2010

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I tried and tried everything to get through it -- unfortunately he still chose the blonde surgically enhanced promo girl over me. You both have to be on the same page in order to get through it together and save the marriage.
In the end he ultimately did me a huge favour in cheating on me -- I just never saw it like that at the time. I was still in love with him. NOW I can see everything for how it really was and kick myself for trying to settle for anything less than his love and fidelity. My new hubby is a million times the man my ex ever was --- because when I look into his eyes, I KNOW that he would rather cut off his arm than cheat on me or cause me any pain. That is the sort of relationship every woman should have - but too many settle for second best thinking that's all they're worth or all they're ever going to find. Don't settle for anything less than what you are worth - which is a hell of a lot more than a cheating husband. My son was small, but clued in to what was happening and came out with the line "when i'm a daddy i'm never ever going to leave the mummy" what more could I have wanted?! He saw bad behaviour and the hurt this man caused and has decided not to follow his dads poor example. Good on him!

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Tombeal2012 - posted on 05/23/2018

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Heather - posted on 10/12/2010

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I have not personally had to overcome this, but I feel that though it would be a slow, long & painful process to work at, it SHOULD NOT be dismissed as impossible or not worth trying. If you love your husband despite his mistakes and can learn to embrace forgiveness, and he loves you deeply, repenting of & turning from his ways, then FIGHT for your marriage. All things are possible for those who have faith.

Julianne - posted on 10/12/2010

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first you have to decide if you want to stay married. if you dont then find a good attorney. if you want to stay married then there is no quick fix. counseling, forgiveness and time. you both need to find what led to this state in your marriage and talk it out. you will be hurt and confused and it will take time but you can eventually trust him again

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