irritating words from a man...

Bree - posted on 06/05/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




one day my husband actually told me that i shouldnt complain about anything when it came to our home life.

mind you,

i have no vehicle,

no cable or internet at the time,

one friend who works all the time,

and a 5 month old daughter.

now i dont mind being a stay at home mom,

but dont tell me that i have it easy,

when you come home from work and dont do anything to really help me out!

serisously now!

i clean, take care of our daughter,

our cat,

do OUR laundry,

cook our meals,

and dont get paid for any of it!!!

thanks for your time,

i just had to vent!!!



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Jane - posted on 06/11/2010




you need a car, how are you supposed to get the baby to a doctor in case of an emergency? if he's not going to get you a car, the when he gets home, give him the baby and go do all of your errands. split them up over the week so he has to care for her every night for a bit of time.

Crystal - posted on 06/10/2010




my husband knows not to say anything to me like that we use to fight when we first got married now he doesnt say anything enless he is mad because i make him get off the computer to clean and take care of our daughter since he is deploying in oct i make him it all when he is home so i can have abreak but he still gets mad abt it i dont care he gets to go to work and i stay at home with her i do need a break every once in a blue moon

Melanie - posted on 06/09/2010




my hubby used to be like that. and you know whats funny? after 17 years of marriage he comes home from his friends house mad at the guy when they treat their wives poorly. but he still does some of these things himself. but for the most part hes learned alot mostly from our fights. it took some time but hes not stupid and he might not admit it during fights but eventually he will concede when he realizes what makes better sence

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I feel your pain!
mine's my boyfriend, who's not actually the father, and we don't fully live together but i do all his house work when I'm at his and also do all my own when at mine plus all the cooking, and in the beginning i got tanked and appreciated for it but now nothing.... it is weird us living next door to each other, and makes it hard when i need my space......

Applebee - posted on 06/09/2010




You defenitly need a vehicle, or your husband should run all your errands when he gets home from work.

Rachelle - posted on 06/09/2010




I had my husband say that once, then he was in a car accident and was home for a few weeks and Was shocked at how hard it really is to take care of house, baby and have dinner ready. He has been completely different ever since, plus I went off on him, lol Its a man thing, Men will never know how much it really takes unless they are home doing our jobs

Maria - posted on 06/09/2010




that literally sounds exactly like my life. except my son is 8 months and im 6 months pregnant.

also my bf is convinced that he could do it piece of cake, this coming from a man whos NEVER made a bottle or changed a diaper. HAA he even had the nerve to tell me (directly after giving birth) that if he was a girl he would be able to just "pop" out a baby no problem because he has a "much higher pain thresh-hold then me"

hahaaahaha yea right buddy

Robin - posted on 06/09/2010




I asked my boyfriend at one time if he could do what I was doing, all the time..everyday. His answer? NO, he couldn't..and I bet your husband would say the same thing..especially since there was no cable or computer to keep you in touch with the outside world. You are still a whole person and need contact with other adults in order to stay sane...switch roles with your hubby one day and see what happens ;)

Katherine Leslie - posted on 06/06/2010




sorry understnd you there. (: I told my hubby well then I will work and you can stay home with our sons. one day with out me to let him know our sons ways he was calling me and asking me when I was coming home. LOL i just told him I have a few more things I need to do and I will be home soon, then he said ok but Titus won't stop crying. I asked him what kind of cry? and then I had to describe the crys our second son does and what they mean. LOL now when he says something I just say ok you stay home and do everything on your own and have the babies and breastfeed and all and I will go to work. He says no and is a lot better about not saying anything when I am in a stay at home mom mood... But you are a great mom and you will do great at your job since it is a little life you are helping to make a better person.. (:

Karee - posted on 06/06/2010




I'm sorry you're husband is like that. Most men seem to really not understand all we do. I'm sure you are an awesome mom and a strong woman, keep that pretty head up and remember that you are going to have an amazing relationship with that 5 month old. A relationship that, if he's not helping you take care of your daughter, he will not get to have, and he's the one thats missing out there!

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