is 42 too old to have a baby?

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Satu - posted on 02/01/2012

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I was a month off 45 with my first child, who is a happy, healthy, beautiful girl, 4 months young now.I tried to have kids 20 years ago with a previous partner but never happened, now with a different partner, I didn't try hard, went off the pill again, and got busy with life and found out I was pregnant. The universe thought I was ready now. I have a milo every morning with a pregnancy/breastfeeding vitamin, throughout the pregnancy and now breastfeeding. I eat well, I did love chocolate a lot, and dairy foods, and all is good. I did have a caeserian though, doctor recommended it at the last minute, due to not having and water left in me when my waters broke, and baby was quite big for me, and the process wasn't as bad as I thought it might be, all good now.

Tara - posted on 01/30/2012

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I don't think so. My grandmother had her last baby at 42. She said it was way harder on her physically than when she was younger but other than that it wasn't any different than her other children.



There are increased risks for you and baby as you get older but generally if you are over 35 they monitor you closely through the pregnancy anyway.

Kaitlin - posted on 01/30/2012

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Too old? No. Risky- a little more than a younger woman. I wouldn't use IVF or other artificial means because it's already so risky, but if you're pregnant already, or want to adopt a child, go for it! Older parents can be just as good (or as bad) as younger moms- age has nothing to do with it! If you have the energy and the desire, I'd do it!

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Tamyra - posted on 02/05/2012

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I was 39 when my daughter was born. I had my other 2 children at 23 and 25. It was tougher at 39, but I don't regret it. I did have more complications, but made it through. Just take care of yourself, eat well, and get exercise if your able. I was on bedrest by the 4th month. She is 2 next week and I am now 40. I'll admit I get out o breath faster, but I wouldn't change it for the world. Alot of women wait until they are our age. Age doesn't matter when you have alot of love to give. I prayed about my situation and God answered. Good luck.

Medic - posted on 02/04/2012

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I really do not think that there is a stigma like there used to be about having a baby later in life. My dad was 38 and my mom 36 when they adopted me. I had my first at 20 when my dad was 58 and my step mom was 47. People thought then that my son was their son when they went out with him. Now my son is 5 and my daughter is 2 and people always tell my parents what beautiful children they have....it makes them feel good to think they could have little ones. When I was little I hated that my parents were older but now I appreciate that fact. I would have never had the life I had if they had been younger and because they were more financially secure and had their lives planned out they are now able to help give my kids the life I had so we can finish school. I see soooo many benefits to both sides of when to have kids. The main reason I had kids early was so that they would have the chance to get to know my parents.

Satu - posted on 02/04/2012

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Hi Jess, You can always pray for what you want to the universe or God or whatever you believe in, ask and you shall recieve, especially healthy one. I heard that eating certain foods also can determine if you get a baby girl or boy. I got told that I was having a girl because I loved eating sweets, I did get a girl, but I think whatever you believe in truly, can happen. You can google anything these days for all sorts of answers, like the type of foods to help maybe. I think nothing is wrong if it doesn't harm others, and your intentions are always good.

Satu - posted on 02/01/2012

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Good to hear from you Jess, I am thinking of giving my girl a brother or sister if it happens, so I will let you know what happens, when I know.

Satu - posted on 02/01/2012

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I think if you end up pregnant, you are meant to be blessed with a baby, whatever your age. It is an amazing experience, to make a mini me. I think I wouldn't have enjoyed being a young mum as much as now at 45, I liked to go out and party, but that now out my system, I enjoy my 4 month old happy, healthy, beautiful girl. We enjoy singing, dancing, visiting, watching her grow through her milestones. And look forward to going shopping, lunches together, outings, zoos, anything I can show and teach her about this world. I feel I have more experience, wisdom, knowledge to give her, to prepare her for this earth to have a great life, and lot's of love, not just from me and her dad, but my whole family and friends, and our dog who just loves her and is protective over her. So, go for it and get a life!

Jess - posted on 02/01/2012

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thanks Satu, I already have two boys and I am going to be 42, and would like to try to have one more child. I feel like everyone makes it such a big deal when you get pregnant after 40, I dont see why. Thanks you made me feel better.

User - posted on 01/31/2012

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Too old? Absolutely not. The risk of complications runs a little higher than someone a little younger. After the age of 35, your pregnancies are automatically named "high risk" due to a few different factors. The chance of delivering a baby with birth defects does increase as the mother's age increases. Also, the risk of miscarriage increases by approximately 10% in women over 40. In order to help prevent these issues in pregnancy, there are many things that need to be monitored, carefully and many things that the mother should ensure that she is getting. There is nothing wrong with someone getting pregnant at 42.



My LO's physical therapist is 44 and 32 weeks pregnant with her FIRST child!! ♥

Sarah - posted on 01/31/2012

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I think if you and your partner want a baby, can support a baby, and will love the baby, no it's not. Having said that, having babies over 35 comes with increased risks to the mother and the baby. I think that it's probably to speak with your doctor about these risks and decide from there (having said that, they are risks, not guarantees, and no child, regardless of the age of the mother comes with a guarantee). As an older mother, you'd likely be considered high risk and would be monitored closely throughout your pregnancy, but many women have babies over 40 who are perfectly healthy. Good luck!

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 01/30/2012

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I don't think therye is an age that's too young or too old... But they're are definite risks to having a baby later on in life.

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