Is anyone getting flack from family members for being a stay at home mom?

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My family members are constantly putting me down for being a stay at home mom. Especially my mother, she always bringing up how she raised my sis and I on her own. Which is not true, she had plenty of family members to assist her with us. And my other family members are always asking me if I found a job. When I worked I had to call out or leave work early due to our children getting sick in school, doc appts, school events, etc.... I would call these same family members to pick up our children or watch them. They were always busy or didn't have a ride. We've never asked anyone for anything nor have they given us a thing.

I am married. My husbands works two jobs and is all for me staying home. We have a 9, 3, and 2 yr. old. Our children and myself have everything. And I love being a stay at home mom. But I must admit, it hurts my feelings when I hear negative comments from my family members.


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Nellynunes148 - posted on 07/17/2016




I have heard a lot of negative comments from my family through the years especially now that my children are older,. We have a 16,14,12 and 10 year old. I am planning on staying home until my youngest starts high school

Taylor - posted on 05/31/2016




Im at first time mom , and a stay at home mom. Ive been asked "when are you going back to work?" .............. " you know you're going to have to work right ?" my mother in law asked me a month after i had my son if i was going to go back to work at 8 weeks ............ to say i was offended and completely annoyed is an understatement ! My husband and i both feel like my time is best spent here with our son , and we are in a position to do so ......... so why not . But i had to keep in mind that this is coming from people who prioritize work before their children .Either way its hurtful and frustrating, and they need to respect your decision to stay at home with your children. Its your choice not theirs !

Stella - posted on 05/25/2016




My mother in law lives with us and she always doing the same thing to me but the worst part is she tells me not to ask her for help and she will never watch her grandson for nothing thanks for listening

Cutemommy - posted on 11/15/2013




Being able to stay hinge is a privilege, many wish they could do that. My sister was very mean about me raising my child full time vs working. I blew up on her one day and she admitted she was envious of me being able to be a stay at home Mom. Take it as that many people won't admit it but it is a blessing to raise your kids and see them everyday it would be a shame to put someone down for being a mother, kudos to you and your kids deserve to have a mommy there some don't have that privilege.

Francesca - posted on 07/16/2013




I know how you feel! I'm expecting my first baby and already been staying home. I do go clean houses though for a little extra cash. I want to be able to home school all my kids someday. The main person I get flack from would be my husband :(. He wants me to go to work when the baby is old enough to go to school. He is so back and forth sometimes he will say he wants me to home school and other times wants to send her to school. i have nothing against mom's who work but it really is not for me, I cannot bare to leave my child someday and I feel as though I can give them a great education being home schooled. My family is all for me staying home but every time I go to his families house they ask if I got a job yet. This is so frustrating and hurtful. I just wish my husband and I were on the same page. I'm sorry for the hurt you feel with peoples negative comments. Be proud of yourself! You're doing something very wonderful for your children! Don't pay attention to what others think :) and be thankful your husband is on board with you.

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Hello Stephanie]

I've tried on numerous occasions to explain my reasons for staying home. But I'm not sure if I'm going to explain again. I'm exhausted! And you're right, I will no longer let them influence my decisions. Thank you for your advice.

Stephanie - posted on 07/10/2013




It is so awful that your family can't support your decision to be a stay at home mom. Have you tried to explain why you choose to stay home? If it works for your family, don't let them influence you. Come up with some concrete reasons why you stay home, and sock it to 'em! I think it's great that you stay home!

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