Is Anyone Having The Same Problem?

Tasha - posted on 12/15/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




Im a stay at home mom and when im going around the house cleaning my little boy which is 8 months old gets mad. I dont know if its where he's used to being around me because i've been here with him since birth and his dad works all the time.
I really dont hold him that much unless he wants or needs anything and when I think he wants love and attention. I dont know what to do because everytime he cries I always think there is something wrong with him and I cant get any house work done. I try to give him all the love and attention when I get stop for a moment and play around with him. please help me


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Melissa - posted on 12/17/2009




I don't like hearing my little man cry for even a little bit. I used to have the same problem, until I got a sling. They work wonders. You can still do all your work while they are right up against you in the sling. If you find one that you like they are an amazing help! And they can watch and learn what you are doing.

Rebecca - posted on 12/17/2009




Kids at that age do not understand that u are just in the other room.. they think that if u leave u are not coming back. Maybe try and put him bouncy seat or swing and make sure that u stay in an area whre he can see u.. He will grow out of this stage.

Renae - posted on 12/17/2009




This sounds like separation anxiety to me. Separation anxiety is a developmental stage in psychological development, in boys it normally peaks around 8-9 months. It occurs when the baby begins to understand that you and he are separate entities, that he is an entity unto himself, and that you can separate yourself from him (i.e. put him down and go away). He does not yet understand that you are still there and will always come back later (in fact he doesn't know what "later" is, he only knows now). Once the baby learns "object permanence" (its still there even though I cant see it right now and will still be there later) and learns that you will always return, then this stage will pass. There is nothing you should do about it. It usually lasts about 2 months. In the mean time, I would take him with you into whichever room you are cleaning.

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try to start telling him if you leave the room and he crys that mommy will be right back tell him what ur diong as you go.. he'll get it that ur not leaving him so to speak.. my boys sometimes will follow me around and i try to get them to help me as i go.. they're 1 and 2 now they like to help now so im taking advantage of it lol.. 8 mos, is he mobile at all cuz he can follow you or put him in the room ur in w some toys eben if theyre not actual toys ya know?..

Nancy - posted on 12/16/2009




My baby is 11 months old right now and he acts like that sometimes too. If there are more ppl around, it seems ok for him to focus on something. But when it is just the two of us (like most of the time), I cannot be away from his sight because he starts crying. He can be playing fine...but as long as I am in the same room. Sometimes I cannot do what I need to do around the house til my husband gets home from work. In that way I can go away and do it. There are days when I have to be doing something with him...otherwise he will be screaming and/or crying. I am hoping it is just a matter of time and this will go away.

Dusty - posted on 12/16/2009




well i had my son that would do that and i would put a kids cartoon in or music on and if you can sit behind him and try to get him intrested in it if that does not work try doing something like take a few steps away from him and see what he does if he is ok step back some more and see if he cries for you if that does happen i had to try and clean when he took his naps during the day just to clean my house and cook dinner

Christina - posted on 12/15/2009




I have the same problem, my boy's a year old and a momma's boy 'cause his dad is too lazy to care for him. So Allen's tied to me. Try giving him a toy and playing peek a boo. Play peek a boo and go longer and longer without showing your face. when he can handle a minute or more, take a few steps towards a new room and do it again. Keep at it until your around a corner or out of sight. Sometimes, you just need to talk to him while in the other room or show yourself for a second. Or try getting him to sway back and forth to some music...that way you can have music while you clean and keep him occupied.

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