Is it bad to want to have date night at least once a week with your husband?

Tracy - posted on 08/27/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )




Our children are constantly interrupting my husband and I when we try to talk. Would it be a bad thing to set one evening a week just for the two of us to kind of reconnect? I have been feeling really distant from him lately.


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"When you nurture your marriage, your children benefit." Not sure who said that, but I heard it on the radio the other day. Go out with your husband. Nurture that marriage. Children feel secure when mom and dad are happily in love, well rested, and taken care of.

Lindsay - posted on 08/30/2010




Its not a bad idea at all! My husband and I always go out to dinner and a movie every Saturday night. He works a lot so I donr get to see him as much as I would like. So week nights we have family time if our son isnt already in bed, and Saturday is our night, I look forward to it! And it is much needed :)

Leona - posted on 08/30/2010




if you have a sitter close by that you trust i would definitely say go for it!! it's one of the best things you can do:) good luck, hope it works out for you!!!!!!!

Beck - posted on 08/30/2010




It is a very good idea, even if you don't go out, just feed the kids early put them in bed and have a private dinner with just the two of you. My husband and I do it that was because we don't have many people around who can take our kids. If he doesnt get home from work til almost tea time, surprise him and have the kids fed and bathed ready for bed so they can have a play with daddy and go to bed while you make a special dinner. :) Good luck and get that time with hubby. You both would need it

Rachel - posted on 08/27/2010




It's not a bad thing at all. In fact... it's needed. I know exactly how you feel.

Ricky - posted on 08/27/2010




Not at all. I wish I had someone close enough near by so we can go on date nights. My family is the closest and lives 3 hours away so we get a date night once a month if we are lucky. My parents are willing to take our son more often but its alot of hassle dealing with travel and pick up. So if you have someone willing to take him than I say take full advantage of it.

Alyssa - posted on 08/27/2010




Before we moved out of state we had plans usually for one day out of the week. One of our parents or friends would have an open day and would let us know and we would make plans. We've since moved 12 hours away and its FAR more difficult. Our parents have come out to visit twice and we've gone back to our home state several times and when we do we take full advantage of the people who are there and go out for dinner and a movie or a baseball game or SOMETHING. For now though (with just one little one its easier) we'll put a movie on after he goes to bed and have our cuddle time. He does have a coworker who has volunteered to watch our son if we ever need it. She's wonderful and I would trust her with my little boy but I'm still a little hesitant. She has four kids herself and I don't know... What we do now works for us though.

If you have people around you who are willing to take your kids for a couple hours, take it! You need to have a stable marriage if you're going to get through kids and make it beyond! Besides, dates are so much fun!

Charla - posted on 08/27/2010




Setting time aside to be with your spouse is always a great idea. We tend to do most of our talking after the kids go to be. They go to bed early so it leaves us a couple hours before we go to be to talk or watch a movie together.

Amy - posted on 08/27/2010




I think that is a great idea I wish I could do that but dont have a babysitter near me but if I did I would definately set one night a week for just the two of us. Have fun!

Joan - posted on 08/27/2010




no it would not be bad as a matter of fact if you don't stay boyfriend girlfriend you could totally lose eachother. it is a much needed part of marriage.
good luck

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