Is it just me?

Jodi - posted on 04/01/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




I really need to know if I'm alone on this, and what I need to do to change. I've been a stay at home mom for 11 years. I had my son in 10th grade. Got married right out of high school, and only had 1 job for a couple of months. Other than that, I've been home. Every year that passes by, I feel more and more brain dead. I can't remember anything, or even have an intelligible adult conversation anymore. Is it because I'm home so much? Is it the whole "if you don't use it, you lose it" thing? Please tell me it's normal! And PLEASE tell me what I can do to get the old ME back! =)


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Cara - posted on 04/02/2009




I'm a stay at home Mom to a 15 month old.  We just moved into an area where I do not know anyone, but I keep myself busy during the day by reading a lot of books (when Kiddo is sleeping).  Maybe you could start a club yourself?  A book club or something.  That way you would be intellectually stimulated.  Also read the newspaper or watch the news to keep up on social events, then when you are talking to adults you have something "grown-up" to talk about.  Even doing things like crossword puzzles keep your brain active. Or go on the internet and try to learn one new thing a day, or take an online course!  There are some simple things you can do to try and feel more like you!!

Jodi - posted on 04/02/2009




My kids 11, 8 and 5. My 5 year old only has school mon-thurs. 9-12. Even after they go to school full time, I still feel like there isn't a job out there that would let me be there for them like I want to. What if they get sick? What if they have a program during the day...I don't want to miss any of that! I thought of home school once before but my oldest and youngest wouldn't learn from me. I just know it. During the day I work out, clean, run errands. I can't really get a job or join any classes because the little town I live in doesn't have any of that, and I can't afford the gas. It's 30 miles to go anywhere. I do have girls night every weekend. And my husband is VERY supportive. I think it's just me, I guess. Depression, and anxiety runs in my family. I don't like the meds becuase I feel like an unfeeling....zombie. My dr. is no help.

Caroline - posted on 04/01/2009




no way u are so not alone!!!! i have had a litle boy he is nearly 2years and i know looking after children are tiring and somtimes to be honsited boring haha not knowing what to do throught the day. like me you need to get out more!!! books, day time activies, fredns are always ther!!, family, nintendo ds i know it silly but the brain traing is so gud everyday. or try get an easy day time job??????? hope i helped hahah caz

Elizabeth - posted on 04/01/2009




I think it is normal!  I have those feelings too and I have only been home for 3 years!  What I try to do is have girls night out to help socialize!  My kids are 3 & 10 months so I don't have much time for ME!  But I try to get out some to help me recharge! 

Not sure what you like to do but you could try taking some 'fun' classes!

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Are you teaching your son?

Do you have other kids?

Are you reading and learning while you are at home?

Do you have time to get out to a community college, or volunteer with an arts group? Ballet and Theatre companies always need help.

Are you active anywhere but home?

Stay at home is good, but activity that challenges our minds and increases our drives has tremendous value. Find an outlet.

I have 10 kids ages 25 down to 4 yrs and I am actively involved in their karate and in the Ballet company. I am the Tech Chair for the company and I homeschool.

I have been a stay at home for 15+ yrs now, but no one would say I was always at home! I have no idea what the word bored is and I can hold an intelligent conversation with adults though I tend to be some what distracted still! LOL

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