Is it just these first 2-3 years that are stressful / hectic, or does it stay this way?

Renae - posted on 07/10/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




Toddler & baby and everyday is a challenge. Just with the diapers, nursing, potty training, napping, whining, carseats and packing a small suitcase to leave the house etc. I tend to think once we move past of these baby/ toddler years it will be somewhat less hectic. I realize it will prob jut be a different kind of hectic. But juggling soccer practice, dinner & homework seems easier to me. I guess because at least then you can eat your meal while its hot, go to the bathroom when you need to and maybe even read or do something YOU'D like go do during their soccer practice or while they play outside etc. Right now it's constant supervision, tending to & zero existence of an individual person other than "mom."
Which is OK! I signed up for it, I'm just asking if you gain some freedom once they become a little more independent? Thanks!


Tina - posted on 07/12/2013




This is probably one for the mums of teens but I'll do my best anyway. I guess even though there are less demands in some ways and you may actually be able to go to the toilet when you need to hopefully on your own lol.
The demands are still pretty high and it's just as stressful simply because you can't control them as much either. You worry for there safety and worry who they are spending time with etc.
Then there's the expense that's comes with teens there's the new gadgets that all there friends have and yes the running around to sports at horrible hours of the morning in the cold.
I guess you gain some freedom but once your a Mum that's pretty well it. You always worry and are really always a Mum even when they're grown up and have kids of their own.


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Jodi - posted on 07/12/2013




I am a mother of older children (my youngest is 8, oldest 21). I am just going to say it is different. In some ways I miss the uncomplicated years of having younger children. I didn't have to juggle the homework (and that gets more difficult to manage as they get older), the jobs (yes, running them to and from their part time work), their sports /hobbies (again, running them to and from - sometimes our sports trips are 3 hour round trips), the cost of their needs (they are growing MUCH more quickly, food is just ridiculous and clothes last about 3 days), and then going back to work to help pay for it all.

So do you get more freedom? It's a different kind of freedom. I get to pee and shower without an audience. I get to have some time out sometimes for myself (i.e Hey kids, I am going to take a break in my room now and read for a bit, please be nice to each other), but the schedule doesn't allow this to happen much.

One thing is, my kids help with a lot of chores around the house. My advice is to start now with small things. Believe me, you are going to need them to help out later.

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