Is it normal?

Sue - posted on 03/08/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




Is there any mom out there who no longer have there birth moms? If so is it normal to miss them and feel lonely at times? I miss not having my mom here to ask questions or for help. I am over 40 and have 2 little ones.


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Hello Sue,

I am 30 and my mom passed away when I was 19yrs. old. It is VERY normal to miss your mom. I miss my mother dearly and there are plenty of days when I am alone I just break down crying. Losing a parent is like losing a part of who you are. I have three little boys and it hurts me sooo much that she never got to meet them and see me become a woman. I don't think its something you'll ever stop feeling. I feel your pain!

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my mom passed away from cancer when i was about 17 years old. i miss her every day. she never got to meet my kids (im 31) and she never got to see me grow up. just thinking about it makes me cry. so yes, it is normal. and sad. =(

Sobia - posted on 03/08/2010




Hi, i'm 25 and have 3 little ones and i know exactly how your feeling, my mum passed away a couple of years ago and even though the kids fill my days, there always a part of me wanting my mum, it is hard at times and feeling a little bit lonely happens too, actually i've been thinking of taking my 2 lil ones to a stay n play group in my area to get to kno other mums, maybe try that?


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Heather - posted on 03/09/2010




Hi, I still have my mom but my father passed away when I was little. I can tell you that since I have had my babies I miss my dad sooo much more and I can just imagine how that must be magnified for you. You are absoulty normal it is totally understanable that you would miss your mom more now.

Denise - posted on 03/09/2010




YES!! totally normal. My mom has been gone for 2 years now and it seems with each baby I have it gets a little lonelier at times. I miss sharing stories about things the boys have done, she used to get sucha kick out of my oldests mischief. You are not alone in this!

Stevie - posted on 03/08/2010




i havent lost my mom to death or anything but over 2 yrs ago she stoped talking to me and i hate it its a stupid reason for her excuses and i know she is and has lied to other ppl from home and my brothers about it as well i hate that she has never met my children and wont meet the one to come around oct and to ask her for anything if the need be i dont miss the way she treated me and all that but i do miss not having a mom sometimes i hate it alot cuz she is on fb and fb keeps suggesting her to me and for me to know that she was able to replace me in her life super easy although i should have known that cuz she did it to me before i was even in college im also 22 she stoped talking to me shortly before i got married the last thing she said to me was ill keep my promise in paying for the rest of the dress other than that i have nothing left to do with it your wedding or you, and i never did a thing to her to cause this atleast not a good reason she wanted me to give her my college loan i got to help her out with my college and i said no so she took my car and that was it but no i think its perfectly normal for you to miss your mom i lost my grandma when i was 16 and i miss her sooo much dearly every single day i hate that she wasnt there when i had my first surgary or my 17,18,19,20...and so on birthdays or there to become a great grandma like my grandpa has i know she would have been proud to have seen me get married and graduate from highschool and college and watch me continue to grow and see my children grow but i totally understand how you feel

Christina - posted on 03/08/2010




Hi, I am 27 and haven't had my mom around since I was about 15. She is still alive, but she left me, my dad, and brother and sister to move to Egypt. Long story, but I haven't talked to her since. Growing up I was always much closer with my dad, and we're still very close so I'm thankful to have him, but I admit that sometimes I wish I had a mom around to talk to.

Jacqui - posted on 03/08/2010




Hi I am in my mid 30's and my only child is 6 Months old. My mum passed away when I was younger and I do have a step mother but we have never been particularly close. I haven't had a great deal of help and support although I am very lucky to have great friends who came to visit me or brought me around lunch or dinner.

About the questions I am not so sure about because the way we should look after our babies (ie sleeping position, feeding etc) changes every generation so when my step mother did give me advice (mind you I didn't ask for it) what she told me was in contradiction to what the paeditrician and baby health nurses were saying.

Also I felt lonely but so did other friends who do have their mothers and I think its just hard to get used to being at home looking after your kids when you are so used to going to work, out to lunch etc etc... I am getting into the swing of things now though and have joined a mothers group and try to have a daily routine.

All I can say is find some supportive friends and lean on them a bit.

Good luck.

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